Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

[Anonymous]

I divorced a heating husband who was getting plenty of sex at home and I cannot for the life of me get my bead around my not wanting to have sex again ever (again this is about desire no medical issue involved) and expecting my partner to just accept that despite their libido not being in decline. It seems selfish and cruel. This is how you treat someone you love and want to be with until you die?

[Anonymous]

^^ that should be Cheating husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I divorced a heating husband who was getting plenty of sex at home and I cannot for the life of me get my bead around my not wanting to have sex again ever (again this is about desire no medical issue involved) and expecting my partner to just accept that despite their libido not being in decline. It seems selfish and cruel. This is how you treat someone you love and want to be with until you die?

It's more about 1 partner wanting 3 times a week and the other wanting 3 times a month, not totally no sex never.

Your H probably chested because it was not often enough, passionate enough, felt like duty sex... Or some equally lame excuse, even though he was getting it at home.

[Anonymous]

If the dating relationship and marriage started out multiple times per week, then I can most definitely see how 3 times per month would be a major problem. Not a lame excuse at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I divorced a heating husband who was getting plenty of sex at home and I cannot for the life of me get my bead around my not wanting to have sex again ever (again this is about desire no medical issue involved) and expecting my partner to just accept that despite their libido not being in decline. It seems selfish and cruel. This is how you treat someone you love and want to be with until you die?

It's more about 1 partner wanting 3 times a week and the other wanting 3 times a month, not totally no sex never.

Your H probably chested because it was not often enough, passionate enough, felt like duty sex... Or some equally lame excuse, even though he was getting it at home.

He cheated because he was a selfish asshole. But I am talking about the no sex ever people not the he/she wants it 3 times a week and I want it 3 times a month people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, the emotional fog thread was 3 weeks without sex. And it made the guy percieve life more negatively & in a way that disappeared after sex. It wasn't "brain exploding." There was also a PP in that thread who had trouble focusing on work.

The commenter who doesn't like the idea that sex is anything more than a frivolous extra likes to exaggerate the claims in that thread.

Did somebody actually believe they can't perform at work because of 3 weeks without sex. Gmafb!

No. He had trouble focusing. Not "couldn't perform". That thread seems to provoke exaggerations of what was said about an "emotional fog."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I divorced a heating husband who was getting plenty of sex at home and I cannot for the life of me get my bead around my not wanting to have sex again ever (again this is about desire no medical issue involved) and expecting my partner to just accept that despite their libido not being in decline. It seems selfish and cruel. This is how you treat someone you love and want to be with until you die?

It's more about 1 partner wanting 3 times a week and the other wanting 3 times a month, not totally no sex never.

Your H probably chested because it was not often enough, passionate enough, felt like duty sex... Or some equally lame excuse, even though he was getting it at home.

He cheated because he was a selfish asshole. But I am talking about the no sex ever people not the he/she wants it 3 times a week and I want it 3 times a month people.

But most partners complain about frequency and duty sex.... Not never getting it, those post too, but not most. It's the duty sex that is rapey, hey sorry your vagina is dry but can you blow me, or those that can't wait 6 weeks post parfumerie, or the dudes that say they can't concentrate at work if they go 3 weeks.

Maybe we should get congress to pass a bill that men dont work after the baby is born because they can't concentrate until their wife screws them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I'm a woman and I feel entitled to a certain level of sex and physical affection within my marriage. On demand, whether he is in the mood or not? No, but I would be pretty hurt if he withheld sexual and other physical affection.

I guess that makes me a monster, too.

If your H has cancer and is fighting for his life and puking in a bucket and can't get enough energy to care for his children and all you want is for him to put out a couple times a week... I guess you are.

That's not "withholding" sex. That's *unable* to have sex. Most people understand the difference.

[ZachF]

Nice man bashing thread. Like women don't want sex too? No wives in here are feeling deprived of sex, or haven't you read much? It's just these brutish men who feel all "entitled," forcing themselves on their poor suffering wives who have to endure the horrible act, or deny him?

How about instead of asking, Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage? You ask this:
Why do so many people feel entitled to sex within a marriage? Make it gender neutral.

Or to turn it around on you if you really feel it's predominately a man on woman issue:

Why do so many women feel entitled withdraw sex once married, and expect their husbands to suddenly go without sex for the rest of their lives (or until divorced which is much more likely)?

Why would either spouse be "entitled" to make a unilateral decision like that for the both of them?

[Anonymous]

God, this narrative is tired. There is nothing like being lectured about marriage by a 20-something who has never been married or had a long-term partnership. Were we this obnoxious when we were young?

It is amusing/alarming to me how closely this generation embraces a paternalistic view of women even as they shout about the "rape culture" that enslaves women.

[Anonymous]

ZachF wrote:Nice man bashing thread. Like women don't want sex too? No wives in here are feeling deprived of sex, or haven't you read much? It's just these brutish men who feel all "entitled," forcing themselves on their poor suffering wives who have to endure the horrible act, or deny him?

How about instead of asking, Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage? You ask this:
Why do so many people feel entitled to sex within a marriage? Make it gender neutral.

Or to turn it around on you if you really feel it's predominately a man on woman issue:

Why do so many women feel entitled withdraw sex once married, and expect their husbands to suddenly go without sex for the rest of their lives (or until divorced which is much more likely)?

Why would either spouse be "entitled" to make a unilateral decision like that for the both of them?

Plenty of women in this thread have told op she's an idiot. She had like one or two supporters. But I'm not sure I would take criticism from someone who chose an avatar of a woman subservient to a man on get knees

[ZachF]

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:Nice man bashing thread. Like women don't want sex too? No wives in here are feeling deprived of sex, or haven't you read much? It's just these brutish men who feel all "entitled," forcing themselves on their poor suffering wives who have to endure the horrible act, or deny him?

How about instead of asking, Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage? You ask this:
Why do so many people feel entitled to sex within a marriage? Make it gender neutral.

Or to turn it around on you if you really feel it's predominately a man on woman issue:

Why do so many women feel entitled withdraw sex once married, and expect their husbands to suddenly go without sex for the rest of their lives (or until divorced which is much more likely)?

Why would either spouse be "entitled" to make a unilateral decision like that for the both of them?

Plenty of women in this thread have told op she's an idiot. She had like one or two supporters. But I'm not sure I would take criticism from someone who chose an avatar of a woman subservient to a man on get knees

I knew you would like that. I made it my avatar just for this thread. As long as we are being ridiculous and all.

[Anonymous]

What is op talking about? Most women I know get married precisely so they can stop have sex with their then-boyfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is op talking about? Most women I know get married precisely so they can stop have sex with their then-boyfriends.

You need to meet more women. I doubt that's at all common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I divorced a heating husband who was getting plenty of sex at home and I cannot for the life of me get my bead around my not wanting to have sex again ever (again this is about desire no medical issue involved) and expecting my partner to just accept that despite their libido not being in decline. It seems selfish and cruel. This is how you treat someone you love and want to be with until you die?

It's more about 1 partner wanting 3 times a week and the other wanting 3 times a month, not totally no sex never.

Your H probably chested because it was not often enough, passionate enough, felt like duty sex... Or some equally lame excuse, even though he was getting it at home.

He cheated because he was a selfish asshole. But I am talking about the no sex ever people not the he/she wants it 3 times a week and I want it 3 times a month people.

But most partners complain about frequency and duty sex.... Not never getting it, those post too, but not most. It's the duty sex that is rapey, hey sorry your vagina is dry but can you blow me, or those that can't wait 6 weeks post parfumerie, or the dudes that say they can't concentrate at work if they go 3 weeks.

Maybe we should get congress to pass a bill that men dont work after the baby is born because they can't concentrate until their wife screws them.

Stop using "rape" to describe things that are not even remotely rape. All you are doing is watering down the word and turning it into a joke.