Typical SAHM with school aged kids day

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

End of Argument: No SAHM is arguing that their life is so difficult. They are saying that their lives and their kids and DHs life is much easier because they SAHM.

Neanderthal WOHM women (both in attitude and looks), do not know the concept of CHOICE that the SAHMs have. They think they are feminists, but they are not.

I find two kinds of WOHM women - Angry ones who are resentful because their DHs do not make enough for them to SAHM. Usually, they neglect their DHs sexually because they do not want to have sex with their own husbands. They are also looking for Alpha married men at the office to have an affair with in the hopes to either get them to divorce their wives and marry them, or in the hopes of keeping their jobs because they are so dumb. They are usually married to guys with massive SHORTCOMINGS!

Women who are terrible moms or have no kids. These are married to self obsessed jerks too. They have tons of fights about every single aspect of their lives. These are the kind of women, who like to sleep around with their coworkers during conventions or trips.

The WOMHS are either obsessed with their looks or have let themselves go. Their homes are messy and dirty and their kids are rude. Most WOHMs who make more their husbands, give them hell, and their husbands are henpecked emasculated men. These men have married above their station and they have to continue to be under their command because they know that their meal ticket can leave them. They turn a blind-eye to their wives office affairs. Most of the men whose wives WOHM, also try and sleep with the nanny, au pair and the maids. These are desperate men and women, and lack morals. They continue to be angry about the success of SAHM households.

There are many WOHM that hate their work, are paid less, have bad work environments = and they still hang on to their jobs because they know that if they don't bring the money home, their husbands will dump their sorry ass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

End of Argument: No SAHM is arguing that their life is so difficult. They are saying that their lives and their kids and DHs life is much easier because they SAHM.

Neanderthal WOHM women (both in attitude and looks), do not know the concept of CHOICE that the SAHMs have. They think they are feminists, but they are not.

I find two kinds of WOHM women - Angry ones who are resentful because their DHs do not make enough for them to SAHM. Usually, they neglect their DHs sexually because they do not want to have sex with their own husbands. They are also looking for Alpha married men at the office to have an affair with in the hopes to either get them to divorce their wives and marry them, or in the hopes of keeping their jobs because they are so dumb. They are usually married to guys with massive SHORTCOMINGS!

Women who are terrible moms or have no kids. These are married to self obsessed jerks too. They have tons of fights about every single aspect of their lives. These are the kind of women, who like to sleep around with their coworkers during conventions or trips.

The WOMHS are either obsessed with their looks or have let themselves go. Their homes are messy and dirty and their kids are rude. Most WOHMs who make more their husbands, give them hell, and their husbands are henpecked emasculated men. These men have married above their station and they have to continue to be under their command because they know that their meal ticket can leave them. They turn a blind-eye to their wives office affairs. Most of the men whose wives WOHM, also try and sleep with the nanny, au pair and the maids. These are desperate men and women, and lack morals. They continue to be angry about the success of SAHM households.

There are many WOHM that hate their work, are paid less, have bad work environments = and they still hang on to their jobs because they know that if they don't bring the money home, their husbands will dump their sorry ass.

I think the working mom hit a nerve

[Anonymous]

Ho hum.. same bs, different thread.

I opened it looking for ideas, have some.. thanks OP.

[Anonymous]

These is true in my close-in neighborhood too: "Most moms have found a way to telework or go in only a few days. They were talented enough to have their Office accommodate them once they had kids."

The happiest moms I know have achieved a balance. They keep an identity in each world. They are very involved in their kids' lives but it's not everything. There will be life after an empty nest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

End of Argument: No SAHM is arguing that their life is so difficult. They are saying that their lives and their kids and DHs life is much easier because they SAHM.

Neanderthal WOHM women (both in attitude and looks), do not know the concept of CHOICE that the SAHMs have. They think they are feminists, but they are not.

I find two kinds of WOHM women - Angry ones who are resentful because their DHs do not make enough for them to SAHM. Usually, they neglect their DHs sexually because they do not want to have sex with their own husbands. They are also looking for Alpha married men at the office to have an affair with in the hopes to either get them to divorce their wives and marry them, or in the hopes of keeping their jobs because they are so dumb. They are usually married to guys with massive SHORTCOMINGS!

Women who are terrible moms or have no kids. These are married to self obsessed jerks too. They have tons of fights about every single aspect of their lives. These are the kind of women, who like to sleep around with their coworkers during conventions or trips.

The WOMHS are either obsessed with their looks or have let themselves go. Their homes are messy and dirty and their kids are rude. Most WOHMs who make more their husbands, give them hell, and their husbands are henpecked emasculated men. These men have married above their station and they have to continue to be under their command because they know that their meal ticket can leave them. They turn a blind-eye to their wives office affairs. Most of the men whose wives WOHM, also try and sleep with the nanny, au pair and the maids. These are desperate men and women, and lack morals. They continue to be angry about the success of SAHM households.

There are many WOHM that hate their work, are paid less, have bad work environments = and they still hang on to their jobs because they know that if they don't bring the money home, their husbands will dump their sorry ass.

I think the working mom hit a nerve

Really? I think the SAHM hit the nail on the head! End of the mystery of why WOHMS even care what SAHMs do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

I am a SAHM and don't fit any of your assumptions.

Neither do I. (PP who posted her schedule). My husband works, sure. But my marriage is actually pretty fantastic. Beyond being romantic, we're best friends. I don't think my being home matters to my husband beyond the fact that I do a lot of the house stuff while he's working. There's no power struggle in my marriage. We both feel empowered and vital to each other's lives.

I think working is important and even necessary for many people. I don't begrudge anyone that point. But for my family, we didn't need my income and I don't enjoy working nearly as much as taking care of the home, my husband and children. It's my preference. Yes, it's retro. Yes, it's not something people admit to all day (finding joy in making a dinner your family loves or deep cleaning bathrooms while listening to NPR). But it's my choice and I am not hurting anyone. That's why I just don't get it. Seriously. Can someone explain?

[Anonymous]

SAHM 3 DS 8th grade, 11t grade and 1 in college.
Kids and DH get up at 5:45 have breakfast and go to school and work

I get up around 9 have coffee and walk the dog

10-12 I work out - solidcore, spin or yoga

Lunch, shopping, and/or grocery

Afternoons I pay bills and emails and I volunteer as an accountant/treasurer for a school group

4-5 I make dinner

Evenings I help with homework then DH and I go out for a drink.

We have a live in housekeeper for all cleaning and laundry.

[Anonymous]

The day after the weekend, I rest. That day is today this week since FCPS had a 4 day weekend.

I volunteer at the school a lot - PTA board, room mom and chair multiple school events.

I take a class that interests me.

I work out 2-3x per week. (Never found time to work out when working)

I have a lunch date with DH about once a week.

I get a mani/pedi every other week. I also get a massage or facial about once a month each.

I grocery shop and actually cook. (Ate tons of take out/delivery when I was working)

I run all errands during the week.

I feel like I am always cleaning and doing laundry. We have cleaning people come every other week.

I have coffee/lunch with a friend about once a week.

I plan for times when kids are out of school, which is quite often.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

If you're working 20 hours a week I'd call that a part time WAHM, not SAHM.

You. Do. Not. Get. To. Define. Me.

Ok, sure, call yourself whatever you want. I didn't mean it as an insult. I work 30 hours a week myself, mostly from home, and when asked, I tell people that I work part-time, not that I stay at home. (And that I love the job situation I've worked out!) You should define yourself however you want, but I do wonder why you took my comment as an insult?

Lol. Yeah. We do. If you work for pay, you by definition are not a sahm. No matter what you want to call yourself.

I've got one for you!
I am a physician. I only work 1-2 shifts per week, either a Friday overnight or Saturday overnight, sometimes both if they are busy and call me.
I do 95% of the childcare and household stuff during the week, no nanny.
What side am I on?

You are a part time working mom. DH is a surgeon and we know lots of part time doctors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

End of Argument: No SAHM is arguing that their life is so difficult. They are saying that their lives and their kids and DHs life is much easier because they SAHM.

Neanderthal WOHM women (both in attitude and looks), do not know the concept of CHOICE that the SAHMs have. They think they are feminists, but they are not.

I find two kinds of WOHM women - Angry ones who are resentful because their DHs do not make enough for them to SAHM. Usually, they neglect their DHs sexually because they do not want to have sex with their own husbands. They are also looking for Alpha married men at the office to have an affair with in the hopes to either get them to divorce their wives and marry them, or in the hopes of keeping their jobs because they are so dumb. They are usually married to guys with massive SHORTCOMINGS!

Women who are terrible moms or have no kids. These are married to self obsessed jerks too. They have tons of fights about every single aspect of their lives. These are the kind of women, who like to sleep around with their coworkers during conventions or trips.

The WOMHS are either obsessed with their looks or have let themselves go. Their homes are messy and dirty and their kids are rude. Most WOHMs who make more their husbands, give them hell, and their husbands are henpecked emasculated men. These men have married above their station and they have to continue to be under their command because they know that their meal ticket can leave them. They turn a blind-eye to their wives office affairs. Most of the men whose wives WOHM, also try and sleep with the nanny, au pair and the maids. These are desperate men and women, and lack morals. They continue to be angry about the success of SAHM households.

There are many WOHM that hate their work, are paid less, have bad work environments = and they still hang on to their jobs because they know that if they don't bring the money home, their husbands will dump their sorry ass.

someone needs to cut back on afternoon TV watching

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am honestly curious about WOHM schedules. Particularly, the hours you see your kids and the things you do. Please detail. TIA!

Yes, I'm honestly curious too! No judgment or anything!

When I was a working mom, I used to pick up the kids from daycare and let the kids watch tv while I made dinner. Then we would eat dinner. Kids would play for about an hour while I cleaned up/caught up on work emails. Then it would be bedtime. On weekends, I would run errands and DH and I constantly struggled for a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

I am a SAHM and don't fit any of your assumptions.

Neither do I. (PP who posted her schedule). My husband works, sure. But my marriage is actually pretty fantastic. Beyond being romantic, we're best friends. I don't think my being home matters to my husband beyond the fact that I do a lot of the house stuff while he's working. There's no power struggle in my marriage. We both feel empowered and vital to each other's lives.

I think working is important and even necessary for many people. I don't begrudge anyone that point. But for my family, we didn't need my income and I don't enjoy working nearly as much as taking care of the home, my husband and children. It's my preference. Yes, it's retro. Yes, it's not something people admit to all day (finding joy in making a dinner your family loves or deep cleaning bathrooms while listening to NPR). But it's my choice and I am not hurting anyone. That's why I just don't get it. Seriously. Can someone explain?

PP, they can't because denigrating someone else's life is so much more fun apparently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am curious, and I know this is a DC based site, but do all the SAHM's that are commenting live within 30 miles of the Beltway and if so, how long have you lived here? The cost of living makes a huge difference, and if you bought at the right time in this area, your mortgage is probably under $1,500.

Live in nova, 3 miles from DC border. Lived here 20 years.

Have been living in NOVA for almost 5 years. I stay home because DH earns a 7 figure income and has a very demanding work schedule. He would work this schedule whether I worked or not. We decided that it would be best for our family if I stayed home full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh. My. God. This thread is so embarrassing for WOHM. I finally clicked on it to see why it has so many pages and of course, it's because of the mommy wars! Working moms, don't we have better ways to spend our free time than arguing in the mommy war? Who cares how SAHM spends their day???

End of argument: if your kids are in school 6.5 hours per day, do not pretend your life is so difficult, you are akin to a doctor curing cancer, etc. Women in the 60s/70s fought to be allowed in the workplace. Neanderthal men used to not want their wives to work. Now we live in an age where women an pretty much do anything. If that choice is keeping a clean house, napping and doing yoga--it's their choice. I do find two types of SAH--the ones who have husbands with pumped out chests that think keeping a woman at home reflects positively in him. They need the power. They also tend to be the type that don't really value their wives as life moves on (cheat at the office, etc). The second type of guy with a SAH married above himself and she calls the shots and announced she is no longer working. This SAH usually is very well educated and had a formidable career. This poor schlub DH is hen-pecked to a ball-breaker and had the look in his face line he's been castrated. The latter SAH has usually let herself go. The former is working her ass off, botoxing, clothes shopping, etc. because she's hanging on for dear life since she never had a career.

Wow. The fact that you think this is so, so strange. I think this is DC culture or something. I WOH now, but I used to SAHM. It was a decision DH and I both agreed upon. We both had SAHM when we were young, and we both *really* appreciated that. We wanted that for our kids too. I also knew that if I didn't stay at home at least a few years, down the line, I'd probably regret it. He makes 300, and I make 100, so it made sense for me to be the one that stayed home. THen I started picking up part time freelance work when the kids were toddlers. Now I'm back to work full time, but from home, but I have LOTS of friends who are still at home and I have to say, your description does not accurately fit any of them. Their lives are busy, full, and they do a lot for their own kids, their own families, and even the community's kids. Example, one of my friends considers herself a SAHM because she does just one night shift a week (ER doc). She then volunteers once a week at my preschooler's school and practices Spanish with them. I LOVE that she's able to do this, and share what she knows with the community. And FWIW, her DH is also a successful doc with a thriving practice and I don't think anyone would consider him a 'schlub!'.

Its sad that your circle is so limited.

[Anonymous]

We don't need my income. DH makes $450k---it's nice to think of my salary $160k as spending $$. I like what I do and it is very flexible so I meet the kids every day after school and WAH most of the time. I have no guilt over any expenses or outsourcing all the dirty jobs. I will never scrub a toilet again.