HoCo dresses- Could they be any shorter

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Anonymous wrote:old news

while that is form fitting, at least they are wearing tights underneath, and a turtleneck/sweater.

That's AI

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Anonymous wrote:People always miss the point on this topic. Girls can wear whatever they want but always notice the boy norms mean their bodies are covered by clothes and they are comfortable. Who is really dictating what these girls are wearing? Is it the girls themselves? Not really.

Acting like this is your daughters somehow showing agency and having body positivity is just dumb. They are sheep.

Bullshit. It's "body positivity" to be peer pressured into dressing like a street whore? Actually the opposite. A cute teen girl who dresses modestly is the most body positive and confident of them all.

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The moms who encourage their daughters to wear these skanky dresses are insane.

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I agree. They are so proud. I have a FB friend who hawks Mary Kay (pink car and all) and I swear every photo she posts of her daughters is them in barely there dresses, posing suggestively. They look cheap (hair and clothes) but for some reason, the mom thinks the girls look 'hot' and posts extensive photo shoots of them, them with their 'dates', them with the dad, etc.. To me it is clear the mom (middle aged and overweight) is living vicariously through her girls.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here and I would agree that it is much more important to know that your daughter is a "good kid" now granted mine has a mouth on her that makes me livid but she is an active girl with advanced classes and good grades. The mouth is just part of being a teen.

As far as the dress goes anything she feels comfortable in is ok with me. Work it while you can baby! Before you end up like some of these miserable moms on this board.

This is the problem parent. Imagine thinking a "mouth" is just part of being a teen and "working it" is normal. Sad.

You must not be a girl mm parent or if you are your kids are too young or old. Shame on you for shaming other parents. You do you w your high and mighty

I have a 13 yo and a 16 yo and no way is a mouth or working it normal.

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Anonymous wrote:People always miss the point on this topic. Girls can wear whatever they want but always notice the boy norms mean their bodies are covered by clothes and they are comfortable. Who is really dictating what these girls are wearing? Is it the girls themselves? Not really.

Acting like this is your daughters somehow showing agency and having body positivity is just dumb. They are sheep.

Bullshit. It's "body positivity" to be peer pressured into dressing like a street whore? Actually the opposite. A cute teen girl who dresses modestly is the most body positive and confident of them all.

or someone who doesn't follow "trends that are inappropriate for 14 year olds" is someone who is confident and has self respect.

Damn a street whore? I never even seen a street whore becorw

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All the posters on here referring to teenage girls as street whores and prostitutes are the one with the issue. The only girls not dressing like this are...none. There are no girls not dressing like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I only care about this insofar as it becomes required for the girls. Like when I see HoCo and prom photos and it's 10 girls in each photo and they are all wearing postage stamp body con dresses I wonder if any of those girls would have preferred to wear something else. Especially because (having worn a dress that tight and a big longer) it's a high maintenance look that isn't super comfortable especially over several hours of dancing and eating. Is anything else allowed or do you pretty much have to dress like this in order to avoid drawing attention to yourself?

When I was in high school the fashions for HoCo and prom were not this consistent. HoCo dresses tended to be shorter but they weren't consistently mini dresses -- some were but plenty of people wore something longer. Lots of people picked princess-style dresses for prom or long sheaths.

To be clear: we were every bit as unfashionable and awkward. But it seems like there was more personal expression allowed. Now it seems like every girl attending a high school dance wears a skin tight mini dress that barely covers her butt with skinny straps and a pair of sneakers. Is this really the only think they wear now?

They all shop from the same stores now. It didn't used to be that way. My friend was telling me about how there is a store that has a "dress registry" so that nobody that goes to the same school's dance buys the same dress.

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This thread is hilarious. Reality check vs "don't say that about my naked snowflake"

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Anonymous wrote:I don't really care about tightness or length but the fabric in most of these dresses is so cheap-looking. That makes the look appear cheap more than anything else imo.

Were you one of those mothers who didn’t really like it when her preschoolers wanted to wear sparkles and cheap neon?

DP but the position of "let kids wear cheaply produced synthetic fibers!" is a weird one. Like I let my kid wear what she wants for the most part but the other day I was folding clothes and she has some message tees she got online from some cheapo retailer with her birthday money and I was like "oooh that's why she has a rash on her armpits." I pointed this out to her and she had no idea that bad fabric could irritate your skin like that. She told me later that those tees also transfer dye to her skin even after several washes and the hems have already unraveled. A good lesson in being willing to spend more to get fewer items in order to avoid cheap fabric.

It's okay for parents to not want their kids to wear cheap fabric. It's also environmentally awful. I'm happy to encourage my kid to make better choices!

Oh so that’s why you don’t want your kids to wear these homecoming dresses - the environment and rashes? Huh. I swear one could walk away with a different conclusion from these 11 pages.

These are clothes kids wear one or twice. Kids outgrow their sparkly unicorn clothes. I don’t understand spending a lot of money on them or getting overly worried that the hem might unravel after several washes. These are quite the opposite of say black work pants for an adult.

My point was not about the fabric itself but about adult woman finding those little nitty ways to criticize girls.

Believe it or not this is not a thread of one person espousing 14 different reasons for disliking these dresses.

I have always opposed my kid buying "disposable" clothes that she will only wear once or twice. It's not about "little nitty ways to criticize girls" it's about having a set of values that is in opposition to buying cheap synthetic clothes made at sweatshops and then throwing them away after wearing them twice. I don't buy my kid anything she won't be able to wear for years and that has decent quality because I care about the enviroment and also don't like pissing money away on disposable crap. We also don't use disposable plates or plastic water bottles.

You aren't defending teenage girls. You're advocating for more landfills loaded with polyester crap from Shein and Forever 21. Good work -- the billionaires who own those companies are grateful for your service.

What teenager wears a homecoming dress more than once or twice? Tell us how much money was spent on your daughter’s homecoming dress, the material it was made out of it, and where you bought it/brand?

Fwiw my daughter bought hers second hand, which is at least one step more sustainable.

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To be fair, all the stores sell these dresses. If adults don't want teens dressing like this perhaps they can stop marketing and selling them to teens.

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Anonymous wrote:To be fair, all the stores sell these dresses. If adults don't want teens dressing like this perhaps they can stop marketing and selling them to teens.

I don't sell dresses.

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Anonymous wrote:To be fair, all the stores sell these dresses. If adults don't want teens dressing like this perhaps they can stop marketing and selling them to teens.

I don't sell dresses.

You missed the point.

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Anonymous wrote:DD ended up going in a jumpsuit. She was uncomfortable in how short the dresses were and how low cut they seemed. I laughed at her when she asked me what we were paying for because there didn’t seem to be much fabric.

I would have bought her a short dress if that what she wanted but secretly I’m glad that she picked something that allowed her to be her. She said she had a great time and wasn’t worried about her skirt riding up.

This would be me as I would have spent whole time self conscious to sit down, but all good for anyone else that wanted to wear anything else

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is hilarious. Reality check vs "don't say that about my naked snowflake"

+1

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is hilarious. Reality check vs "don't say that about my naked snowflake"

+1

One thing I love about our kids generation is that kids seem less judgey about what other kids are wearing.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here and I would agree that it is much more important to know that your daughter is a "good kid" now granted mine has a mouth on her that makes me livid but she is an active girl with advanced classes and good grades. The mouth is just part of being a teen.

As far as the dress goes anything she feels comfortable in is ok with me. Work it while you can baby! Before you end up like some of these miserable moms on this board.

This is the problem parent. Imagine thinking a "mouth" is just part of being a teen and "working it" is normal. Sad.

You must not be a girl mm parent or if you are your kids are too young or old. Shame on you for shaming other parents. You do you w your high and mighty

I have a 13 yo and a 16 yo and no way is a mouth or working it normal.

I don't wish a teenage mouth on you but trust and believe it happens...not all as I have three girls and so far only have one that is mouthy....just know that a mouth is in fact typical teenage behavior and needs to be handled but quite normal.