How did Kevin Costner do with his pre-nup? Did his ex-wife get more than she agreed to in the pre-nup? |
I think it’s weird that you think your child not wanting you to visit them and not wanting to vacation with you means you are the successful parent in this scenario |
You must be a lot of fun to date. Lol Go out and get laid for Pete’s sake. You definitely could use it based on your posts. You are a bitter individual. I’m betting you are either divorced or never married (shocker). |
Maybe, but PP has a point. Divorced dads who are enmeshed with their adult children, especially daughters, are the worst. Once you've struggled through a relationship with such a man, you are on high alert. Enmeshed dad is not your run-of-the-mill nice guy dad who remains close to adult children. He's the dad who posts incessantly about adult children on social media and treats them as peers rather than children, including sharing aspects of your relationship with them. In one case he wore their logo-ed college attire on every date, and the conversation was 95% about his kids. It's just not who I want to spend my time with, and I understand where PP is coming from. We all need different things out of relationships and later in life, there are more complications to sort out. Unlike PP who only dates men with one or no children, I’m just not getting married ever again, though I’d be open to less committed relationships. |
Yes, she did. I know this for a fact. I didn’t handle the litigation, but I’m on good terms with current and former lawyers from the firm that did and I’ve served on various committees over the years with a few of them. She showed Kevin she was ready to make it an ugly slog and he wisely settled. His fortune stayed with him instead of ending up in lawyers’ hands and she got much more than the ridiculous pittance the prenup called for. |
I’m in the process of negotiating my own divorce. It won’t be acrimonious because I’m being very generous — splitting things down the middle even though the law in our home state doesn’t require that. You can’t take the money to heaven. Better to share it with a spouse who spent almost two decades with me and will use it to care for our kids than to lose it to legal. You’d think a divorce attorney would duke it out, but most of us don’t pull such stupid stunts in our personal lives. That’s the wisdom that seeing how the divorce sausage is made gives you. My generosity is already making it much easier to be in the same room, go to kids’ events together, and remain civil. |
Uuuh sounds like a great dad. I get why you might not want to date that person but objectively nothing wrong with his parenting |
Preach! |
I’m sure Kevin Costner still made out fine. Wealthy people need to be very very careful before getting married or remarried. From what I read, the pittance the prenup called for was still a lot of money compared to most folks. Just another example of why some folks, in this case wealthy individuals, won’t remarry after divorce. |
DP. That is not how the legal system works when you hire a lawyer like PP … |
I’m pretty independent so an “enmeshed dad” sounds great. Plus, you know, it’s actually a good personal quality to be close to your family. I probably would need to get along well with his kids though. |
What KC lost in his divorce is peanuts relative his overall wealth. Nowhere near a serious obstacle for remarrying. Breakage of a family is high stress but not for money for these individuals. I bet his exW had a lot of sh..t to tell about him, which is why she got something. But his prenup was upheld, he just agreed to give some extra voluntarily to mother of his children and it's actually admirable that he didn't kick her to the curb (he could have done that) |
No, the new partner shouldn't be tasked with getting along with anyone's grown up adult kids. This is the parents' responsibility to ensure kids are not aggressive towards the new partners and give space |
Um what? You sound frankly awful and I think you should limit yourself to dating childless men. |
Why? I'm not there to parent adults who already have parents. My child gets resources they need from both parents and I won't expect my partners to get involved or even be introduced, unless it gets to remarriage. Of course I'll be friendly and make a nice holiday dinner for them if they visit, but I will absolutely no allow anyone to drag me into someone's family drama |