Can someone explain to me why so many on here would never remarry?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a serious relationship for 5 years with someone who is truly egalitarian. Before I met him I never wanted to remarry. We are still not married but we will be eventually.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have spent thirty years taking care of everyone's needs except my own. I have zero interest in taking on more.

Say it again sister! Done!

Yes! I want to be able to do whatever the heck I want.

My married parents do what they want, I do what I want, my spouse does what he wants. Lots of spouses do what they want. You just don’t know what you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have spent thirty years taking care of everyone's needs except my own. I have zero interest in taking on more.

Say it again sister! Done!

Yes! I want to be able to do whatever the heck I want.

My married parents do what they want, I do what I want, my spouse does what he wants. Lots of spouses do what they want. You just don’t know what you want.

Many marriages are not like that

[Anonymous]

Many aspects of marriage are negatives for women. Historically men brought money and power to the relationship. The money and lifestyle made up for their shortcomings. But now women can earn money and fund their own lifestyle. Similarly, men married for sex and now don’t need to be married to obtain sex.

if you’re at all reasonable and realistic you assume you’d never meet a normal man without baggage from his previous marriage.

[Anonymous]

If you have kids or the other person does, it can really mess up fin aid for college.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I’m wealthy with wonderful friends and family. I would like a companion. I was married for 24 years. I’m one and done.

[Anonymous]

Easy! If the first marriage was a train wreck why try again?

[Anonymous]

Why eat Bran cereal everyday you can eat the variety pack?

[Anonymous]

If someone sticks a needle in my eye, why would I pull it out and stick it back in again?

[Anonymous]

I’m very happy on my own and lead a full life. I’ve cleaned up after enough people and taken care of their health. I’m financially independent, I have lots of friends and volunteer interests, and travel plenty. I’m very independently minded and do not ever want to mingle finances again. I don’t have to be married to have romantic relationships, and remarrying is not a goal nor something I see likely.

[Anonymous]

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So much this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I likely will never remarry. For me, it's that I am cursed with heterosexuality, but find most cishet men to be entitled jerks.

I'd rather stay alone than spend another couple of decades being annoyed by a partner who doesn't share my values.

No one wants to marry you, I can assure you.

You seem very familiar with the no-one-wants-to-marry-you situation. Not surprising.

Honey, I am married, so you are very wrong. Don’t be jealous. 😘

Np. Why are you such a sick? No need for your nasty comments. Says a lot about you Mr. / Ms. Happily Married. (I doubt the happy part).

[Anonymous]

Blindsided by cheating/affair 20 years in.

I will never marry anyone again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I see so many posts from people who are considering divorce or divorced and say they have no expectations of remarriage and neither should anyone else considering divorce. Is that because their experience was so terrible that they are skeptical a new experience will be different? Or because marriage for them was always just about kids and pointless if kids aren't involved? Or because they don't want to be on the hook for taking care of a new older person? Or because they dont think anyone worthwhile will want to marry a 40/50/60/70 something man/ woman etc? or other.

Not necessarily. Its just not worth it for them, not about quality of the options.