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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]45 yo man here — I don’t know why I would ever want to remarry. I’m financially secure and love the adult Disneyland that exists for guys my age especially with OLD. It’s like I’m in my 20s again. I don’t need the baggage and loss of my independence that comes with marriage. And it seems as soon as young women (late 20s and early 30s) see you’re financially secure, have a head on your shoulders, and willing to spoil them a little,  they are very giving. I plan to enjoy this for the foreseeable future.[/quote]

Until you meet someone in her late twenties or early thirties who is self-assured, beautiful, and smart, and she wants to get married and have kids, and you know you're already out of your depth.  This happened to a friend/colleague who had sworn off remarriage. However, he was still handsome, fit, high energy, high net-worth, and at the peak of his career, so he attracted some impressive women, and eventually one that he felt was too good to let go, and they had more kids.  It is unclear whether he's happy, but he does project a happy family life, and his wife is hot.   I think there are a lot of versions of this story out there: men in their late forties who have the resources end up getting sucked in because they're desirable and can pull high-quality women who have high standards and want marriage.  Women in our late forties don't want to be responsible for raising children anymore.  We've had enough, and we screen out men who are looking for a sugar mamma and a stepmom to take over their parenting responsibilities for us.  
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Guy here…I mostly fit that profile but looks are subjective so I’ll leave that judgement to the women I date. But if I ever thought about getting married again to a woman like you describe above….I would make sure to have an airtight pre-nup that was lawyer proof.[/quote]
Lmao.

Lawyer here.

Are there still men out there who think a “lawyer proof” prenup exists?

I specialize in highly contentious divorces between high net worth individuals and I exclusively represent wives because my mom was a housewife who got screwed and I’m playing out my own revenge narrative against my hated father by divorce-raping husbands up and down the northeast. (I’ve been to therapy and I’m now in touch with my actual motives for doing this work.)

Here’s what I do with “lawyer proof” prenups:

First, I challenge the circumstances under which the prenup was signed. Fraud, duress, you name it. Regardless of the merits of the allegations, I can drag out proceedings for anywhere from six months to 2 years, depending on the court’s docket and how amenable the judge is to fishing expeditions.

Second, I challenge the interpretation of various clauses in the prenup. You see, it’s not what YOU intended in drafting that matters. It’s what can be reasonably be inferred from the actual language that’s relevant…and that gives me a lot of room to drag things out another several months to a few years even.

Third, any woman you’ve so much as smiled at during your marriage is a potential mistress. Get ready for me to drag them all in with salacious allegations that will definitely make it to all of your business partners and friends through no doing of mine.

Fourth, anyone you’ve given any expensive gifts is a potential co-conspirator in a fraudulent scheme the object of which is  to depress the value of your holdings and thereby cheat my client.

We haven’t even gotten to scope of whatever is left of the prenup and various ways of narrowing that scope so that the enforceable provisions cover a lot less than you intended.

While all this is going on, your lawyers fees, medical bills from the stress I’m deliberately causing you, and lost wages from all the hearings I’m going to drag you to are mounting.

The smart men cut my clients a nice check to make me go away. The stupid ones end up paying that money to their team of lawyers and experts. Regardless, I promise you will not get to keep or enjoy very much of the money you thought you were protecting with the one-sided, greedy prenup.
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As F who had a prenup in first marriage I call the above a BS. Unless it was completely one-sided prenups where both parties were represented and took time to draft are enforceable [/quote]
If your ex had hired me, you’d still be in litigation over that allegedly enforceable prenup. It’s all right though. Prenups are how I bought my second home. Keep drafting those “airtight” prenups and lawyers like me will keep thanking you.[/quote]

You must be a lot of fun to date. Lol

Go out and get laid for Pete’s sake. You definitely could use it based on your posts. You are a bitter individual. I’m betting you are either divorced or never married (shocker).[/quote]
I’m in the process of negotiating my own divorce. It won’t be acrimonious because I’m being very generous — splitting things down the middle even though the law in our home state doesn’t require that. You can’t take the money to heaven. Better to share it with a spouse who spent almost two decades with me and will use it to care for our kids than to lose it to legal. You’d think a divorce attorney would duke it out, but most of us don’t pull such stupid stunts in our personal lives. That’s the wisdom that seeing how the divorce sausage is made gives you. My generosity is already making it much easier to be in the same room, go to kids’ events together, and remain civil. [/quote]

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