I'm the PP you're responding to. I get that it's hard, but as many people pointed out, this is what you signed up for, and I do hope you can recognize that higher standards benefit your DC in many ways. I pulled my DC out of their previous school in large part due to the grade inflation and weak standards. It was a terrible and frustrating experience because she was learning very little. Also, you don't have the data to make some of the claims about these other schools. I do wish that schools would be more transparent, though, and I wish more schools would publish their average GPAs. |
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Having gone through this process, I would much rather be a college applicant with a 4.5 GPA from Gonzaga/Landon/Bullis than a 88/89 GPA from St. Albans.
No, top grades are not sufficient for elite college admissions, but they are necessary. Almost no one gets into the Ivies without a near-perfect GPA, I don't care what fancy private school you attended. The DC privates could solve this issue by simply changing the final transcript they send to colleges. We all know that a STA/NCS/Sidwell "B" is equal to a public school "A", so just alter the transcript to say that. Just help the kids out when applying to college. Grades are just arbitrary, fake numbers anyways. |
That's what it was like when I was a kid, too. I think less than 5% of my class even had an A average, but the world has changed since then. These grades no longer have the same meaning. |
So my first reaction was, what a great idea! But then I realized this could start an arms race. Soon kids from other schools will be applying with 5.5 GPAs |
Thank you for your insight, pumpkin lattes are also a thing, |
The problem is you are rationalizing the environment in which you placed our kid. I get that you care about the weak standards and learning very little...but I doubt you would do anything if your current school adopted a more generous grading policy tomorrow. They don't change one thing about your kid's experience, but simply tell teachers that they will curve their classes such that X% get an A, A-, B+, etc. that lifts the overall GPS of all students. NOBODY at your school would complain. |
I know several that hit into Ivies from Big 3 within last two years with GPAs as low as 93 |
And athletic recruits from big 3s with even lower. For non athletes Maybe not ED but yes regular decision. |
I literally just told you that I pulled my kid out of a lax grading environment right? She is also much happier with the greater challenge, so it's not just that we are pushing her into something she doesn't want. Some people actually prefer higher standards and we don't want this option to disappear. |
DP. I fall somewhere in the middle of this argument but I think it is sort of strange you want to impose this on your child. I would be thrilled for my child to get easy A’s. |
So, you would consider moving her from her current school if nothing changed except they implemented more generous grading? The challenge would still be there...nothing else would be different. Did you ask the admissions folks if they had harsh/deflated grading when you applied? Of course not. Nobody has ever asked that question. |
My kid was bored to tears at the previous school and is thriving at the current school which is a supposed "pressure cooker." They are an academic type who loves this kind of challenge. There are SO many options for schools where you can get an easy A. I don't get why people put their kids in places where A's don't come easily, and this is a known fact, and then they complain about it. |
Everyone knows which schools have a higher standard of grading when they apply. The question is, why did you put your kid into a higher standard school and then complain about it when the As are difficult to come by? Especially when you had so many other options. |
At the expense of learning? At the expense of being truly prepared for college? |
"Fake It Till You Make It" is the norm in our culture now. |