Check your phone at the door

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This (having my kid leave phone in a basket by the door) would bother me, but I’m not exactly sure why, because I understand the reasoning behind it.

I would question the motives of a parent who wanted to host my kid, but wanted to make sure I had no way to get in touch with my child and my child had no way to get in touch with me. Are you planning on abusing them in some way and don't want them to be able to get in touch with their parents? This seems weird and controlling.

How did you survive your own childhood?

Cell phones weren’t around in the same way when I was a kid, but if something similarly controlling was implemented my parents would have had a problem. What would your parents have done if you went to a friends house with a group and the mom unplugged the house phone so you wouldn’t be interrupted, thus making sure no parents could call and get in touch with their kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This (having my kid leave phone in a basket by the door) would bother me, but I’m not exactly sure why, because I understand the reasoning behind it.

I would question the motives of a parent who wanted to host my kid, but wanted to make sure I had no way to get in touch with my child and my child had no way to get in touch with me. Are you planning on abusing them in some way and don't want them to be able to get in touch with their parents? This seems weird and controlling.

How did you survive your own childhood?

Cell phones weren’t around in the same way when I was a kid, but if something similarly controlling was implemented my parents would have had a problem. What would your parents have done if you went to a friends house with a group and the mom unplugged the house phone so you wouldn’t be interrupted, thus making sure no parents could call and get in touch with their kids?

No, your comparison is backwards. But it's obvious that you see no problem with kids being attached to phones, TikTok, any and all of it. So of course you cannot fathom where OP is coming from.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be weirded out if I found out my kid was forced to check their phone at the door in your house.

+1 Stuff comes up and my kid is expected to have his phone on him at all times when he is out of our house. It's a rule.

That's fine. Your rude kid doesn't need to come to my kid's house and stare at his phone here.

Let's be honest.... nobody comes to your house because you're, well, you.

[Anonymous]

No way. Why do parents in this area always think they know how to parent your kid better than you? Such a weird power move to take away teenagers phone. I would be furious if this happened at one of my DC’s friends house. Actually furious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. Why do parents in this area always think they know how to parent your kid better than you? Such a weird power move to take away teenagers phone. I would be furious if this happened at one of my DC’s friends house. Actually furious.

Why is this about imposing different parenting styles, rather than different houses/different rules?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid would know to refuse and to call me.

such a rebel.

Not a rebel. But kid has appropriate boundaries.

How do you spell "infantalizing"?

You spell it “infantilizing.”

I snorted. Such a DCUM set of posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid would know to refuse and to call me.

such a rebel.

Not a rebel. But kid has appropriate boundaries.

How do you spell "infantalizing"?

You spell it “infantilizing.”

Thanks. Now stop doing it. Your DC doesn't need an electronic tether to you.

You don't get to tell me what my kid needs. That's the end of it, really.

So is this a threat to your parenting? Phones are a personal item and kids are an extension of ourselves. Do you see someone messing your personal item? Like I really don't understand this reaction because surely you are not actually saying it's a good thing for your kid to always have a phone on them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This (having my kid leave phone in a basket by the door) would bother me, but I’m not exactly sure why, because I understand the reasoning behind it.

I would question the motives of a parent who wanted to host my kid, but wanted to make sure I had no way to get in touch with my child and my child had no way to get in touch with me. Are you planning on abusing them in some way and don't want them to be able to get in touch with their parents? This seems weird and controlling.

This is completely rational. Despite the intense blowback someone is applying.

Especially since one person has already admitted they aren’t supervising and allowing alcohol. They don’t want cellphones so there isn’t photo evidence of the lawbreaking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This (having my kid leave phone in a basket by the door) would bother me, but I’m not exactly sure why, because I understand the reasoning behind it.

I would question the motives of a parent who wanted to host my kid, but wanted to make sure I had no way to get in touch with my child and my child had no way to get in touch with me. Are you planning on abusing them in some way and don't want them to be able to get in touch with their parents? This seems weird and controlling.

How did you survive your own childhood?

Cell phones weren’t around in the same way when I was a kid, but if something similarly controlling was implemented my parents would have had a problem. What would your parents have done if you went to a friends house with a group and the mom unplugged the house phone so you wouldn’t be interrupted, thus making sure no parents could call and get in touch with their kids?

No, your comparison is backwards. But it's obvious that you see no problem with kids being attached to phones, TikTok, any and all of it. So of course you cannot fathom where OP is coming from.

Whew boy who is going to tell this person there are options between taking their phones away and them being attached to the phone. Pp do you struggle in your daily life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. Why do parents in this area always think they know how to parent your kid better than you? Such a weird power move to take away teenagers phone. I would be furious if this happened at one of my DC’s friends house. Actually furious.

Get a grip. The hysteria over being asked to put the phone away for a bit is way over the top. Do you freak out if your kid has to leave their shoes at the door? Are the shoes being taken away?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. Why do parents in this area always think they know how to parent your kid better than you? Such a weird power move to take away teenagers phone. I would be furious if this happened at one of my DC’s friends house. Actually furious.

It is not a "power move" that is absurd.

Why the hell do they need phones when they are at someone else's house after homecoming or prom for example at midnight to like 8 am? Seriously you can not be that stupid of a parent.

Instead you should be happy the people holding the party get that HS 'ers do stupid things and maybe save one life.

It is so not a big deal for the kids to put their phones in a basket for like max 8 hours. Max....


My kids went to parties where parents asked of this and never once did I hear a kid have a problem. It's always mommy and daddy who want thier kids to be entitled bratty twats.

OMG no tic tock for a few hours, big whoop.

And if you don't know the cell phone of the house your kid is staying at that is a whole other failure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This (having my kid leave phone in a basket by the door) would bother me, but I’m not exactly sure why, because I understand the reasoning behind it.

I would question the motives of a parent who wanted to host my kid, but wanted to make sure I had no way to get in touch with my child and my child had no way to get in touch with me. Are you planning on abusing them in some way and don't want them to be able to get in touch with their parents? This seems weird and controlling.

The only place I've ever been to where phones were required to be left in a locker was a club where...um... the guests didn't want anyone to know they were there, and what they were doing that night.

I'd kind of wonder what a parent with this type of rule has to hide.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid would know to refuse and to call me.

such a rebel.

Not a rebel. But kid has appropriate boundaries.

How do you spell "infantalizing"?

You spell it “infantilizing.”

Thanks. Now stop doing it. Your DC doesn't need an electronic tether to you.

You don't get to tell me what my kid needs. That's the end of it, really.

So is this a threat to your parenting? Phones are a personal item and kids are an extension of ourselves. Do you see someone messing your personal item? Like I really don't understand this reaction because surely you are not actually saying it's a good thing for your kid to always have a phone on them.

It's not a threat. It's a power move for no reason other than OP's "This is my house" flex. I pay for the phone. I choose for her to have it. I don't care if you think it is a good thing for DC to be on it or not. It's not your business. It's not OPs business. Or decision.

OP is weirdly controlling over her own kid - fine. Over mine? Not going to happen.

For people like OP- just let me know your weird, controlling rules before inviting my kid so we can decide whether to decline or not. But, lbh, we wouldn't be friends in the first place. So, luckily this will be a non-issue for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This (having my kid leave phone in a basket by the door) would bother me, but I’m not exactly sure why, because I understand the reasoning behind it.

I would question the motives of a parent who wanted to host my kid, but wanted to make sure I had no way to get in touch with my child and my child had no way to get in touch with me. Are you planning on abusing them in some way and don't want them to be able to get in touch with their parents? This seems weird and controlling.

The only place I've ever been to where phones were required to be left in a locker was a club where...um... the guests didn't want anyone to know they were there, and what they were doing that night.

I'd kind of wonder what a parent with this type of rule has to hide.

Yep exactly!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No way. Why do parents in this area always think they know how to parent your kid better than you? Such a weird power move to take away teenagers phone. I would be furious if this happened at one of my DC’s friends house. Actually furious.

It is not a "power move" that is absurd.

Why the hell do they need phones when they are at someone else's house after homecoming or prom for example at midnight to like 8 am? Seriously you can not be that stupid of a parent.

Instead you should be happy the people holding the party get that HS 'ers do stupid things and maybe save one life.

It is so not a big deal for the kids to put their phones in a basket for like max 8 hours. Max....


My kids went to parties where parents asked of this and never once did I hear a kid have a problem. It's always mommy and daddy who want thier kids to be entitled bratty twats.

OMG no tic tock for a few hours, big whoop.

And if you don't know the cell phone of the house your kid is staying at that is a whole other failure.

It doesn't matter why. It doesn't matter the reason. YOU do not determine whether my kid gets to have her phone. Are you also one of those annoying folks who thinks they get to dictate what my kid reads too? I bet you are.

Either way, it ultimately doesn't matter: what you want, what you think. Parent your kid. Leave mine to me.