Again : get off social media. It is making you a really nasty person. Look at the people above you who say they like what their *friends* post and if it doesn’t happen to interest them they scroll without judgment. That is normal. You are being negatively impacted by your use of social media because you use it to look down on people you (theoretically) have some relationship with. You can try to flip it around and make the people you follow sound like they’re the joke but it’s you. You mock people for living their life when literally nobody makes you look or watch. |
DP but you are very worked up at the idea that someone might see your posts and judge you or look down on you, but this is the reality of social media. People are going to judge you and feel superior. You can tell them “get off social media” but they won’t— for some people, judging and feeling superior is probably the point. I’m not saying you should change how it what you post. You should do what you want. But there are absolutely people judging you for it no matter what, and this is something you just have to accept. There is no scenario where you post to social media and every person who sees it thinks good, warm thoughts about you. I would assume that even among the people who like it comment nice things, there may be people judging you. You have to be so content in yourself and your choices it just doesn’t matter. Never expect universal approval— you will not get it. |
I haven’t referred to myself once. My social media habits aren’t what’s being discussed here. So what I share or don’t share or what platforms I even use isn’t relevant. I am not defending any one kind of content over another; I am saying that if using social media creates this kind of nasty and really disgusting attitude against *people you actually know and interact with in your real life* simply because they share pics of what they like, then these posters need to get off social media. It is warping them and causing them to have not-normal feelings toward actual people in their lives. |
DP. I think this is the crux right here. Social media does warp minds and cause not-normal feelings and it has done so on a grand scale that goes far beyond travel pics. We can get off it and/or scroll by, but it has become so interwoven in the way people interact, the effects on society are going to be felt by everyone eventually. |
+1. And now I’m also judging that poster for their poor writing skills and logic. |
+1 This. I post very sporadically and scroll through insta once or twice a day. I do find myself getting annoyed even repulsed by people who continually post a certain way and then I take a break from insta. But there’s no getting away from the reality that if someone thinks there’s nothing wrong with posting in a way that I find abhorrent, that speaks to a fundamental difference in terms of who we are as people IRL. Example—I have a very good friend who posts travel pics that manage to be interesting yet not braggy. It’s more artistic/educational. Then I have “friends” who post travel pics in a “look at me” “so grateful” “isn’t this amazing” kind of way that truly smacks of something like self promotion. For better or worse, the way people choose to represent themselves online does spill over how others perceive and interact with them in real life. |
I used to years ago. I just send my parents, brother and sil pics via messenger now. |
Absolutely LOVE seeing travel photos and all the interesting places people visit. |
Same! I actually lurk more than I post myself. So if you are someone who posts lots of travel photos (particularly to international destinations!), you should know that people like me love them. I think it’s cool. It’s one of the few things I like about social media. |
Same here!! Gives me ideas for trips too. |
This. One post recap. |
travel posts are my favorite kinds. sometimes it can get a bit much if someone is posting daily stories with multiple pictures each, but I just stop looking if/when I get bored. otherwise, I like seeing where people go and will do a story or two if I go somewhere fun. |
One post trip recap is totally acceptable. Multiple photos multiple times a day or even once per day is a hard no. |
NP here. I only follow people I am friends with who I hang out with and talk to regularly. Some friends have moved. I enjoy seeing their travel posts and any other posts they may share like first day, Halloween, holiday, birthdays, etc. My one friend vents and hates on her friends who try to glamorize their lifestyles. I don’t follow everyone she follows. I post and also like to see my friends. I think if you actually like the person, you would enjoy seeing their pictures. If you don’t like that person, it may turn you off. I had one friend who got divorced and started posting wannabe sexy photos of her self. I actually felt sorry for her. She used to post a lot but then stopped. |
I love watching peoples stories or posts from their travels! I am that meme that says something about "Girl post more, I'm invested! This is OUR vacation! What cocktail you drinking? Where we going for dinner?" Lol. I really love it.
What I don't like is when people keep dragging out the post. Like I know someone who went to mexico 3+ months ago. She's already posted about it. But now shes posting it again with "fit checks". Babe, it was 3 months ago and you already showed us all this. |