Travel on Social Media

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

Some people are just unhappy. If they were happy with their lives and family, they would not be so triggered by others.

sure, a few people are a bit annoying with their posts. I have one friend who only posts selfies. I don’t want to like another picture of her face. She is pretty but the selfies are boring. Another constantly posts about pink and some other celebrities. Another posts her workout starts. One definitely does post brsfy posts as all her vacations show glitz, like look at my luxurious lifestyle. It is the style of posting. These are not interesting. I want to unfollow them but don’t want to hurt their feelings. Most of my other friends don’t post that often and I like their posts.

But those of us complaining are saying the exact same thing you are. You see some people on social media who post a lot and it’s self-congratulatory or braggy or just biting and it annoys you, but you don’t unfollow because that seems confrontational. People in this thread are saying the exact same thing about SOME travel posters, the ones who post a lot of photos and are over the top or very braggy about it. That’s all.

I think fir most social media there’s a threshold and it’s hard to know where it is but you know when someone leaps over it. Like love photos of kids, but even I roll my eyes when someone is posting photos of their kids daily or documenting every mundane thing. Same with travel or anything. I take this to heart and self-limit my posting. Sometimes that’s easy because I’m just busy and not thinking about social media, or because the urge to be private is stronger than the urge to post. But I’ve also felt a strong desire to post a million pics because I’m doing something really cool, and I’ve learned to just think “ok pick one photo I think people will like and keep the rest to myself.” I’ve also trained myself to reduce frequency of posting. I think it’s better for me and probably less annoying for others.

Lots of people in this thread are getting prickly but I bet most people can identify at least one friend who they think posts too much or is too braggy in their posts. So there ARE limits. For everyone.

[Anonymous]

It’s just funny how you think unfollowing them or muting them is rude but not basically looking down on them and disliking them. Just unfollow, they will never notice!

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

Some people are just unhappy. If they were happy with their lives and family, they would not be so triggered by others.

sure, a few people are a bit annoying with their posts. I have one friend who only posts selfies. I don’t want to like another picture of her face. She is pretty but the selfies are boring. Another constantly posts about pink and some other celebrities. Another posts her workout starts. One definitely does post brsfy posts as all her vacations show glitz, like look at my luxurious lifestyle. It is the style of posting. These are not interesting. I want to unfollow them but don’t want to hurt their feelings. Most of my other friends don’t post that often and I like their posts.

But those of us complaining are saying the exact same thing you are. You see some people on social media who post a lot and it’s self-congratulatory or braggy or just biting and it annoys you, but you don’t unfollow because that seems confrontational. People in this thread are saying the exact same thing about SOME travel posters, the ones who post a lot of photos and are over the top or very braggy about it. That’s all.

I think fir most social media there’s a threshold and it’s hard to know where it is but you know when someone leaps over it. Like love photos of kids, but even I roll my eyes when someone is posting photos of their kids daily or documenting every mundane thing. Same with travel or anything. I take this to heart and self-limit my posting. Sometimes that’s easy because I’m just busy and not thinking about social media, or because the urge to be private is stronger than the urge to post. But I’ve also felt a strong desire to post a million pics because I’m doing something really cool, and I’ve learned to just think “ok pick one photo I think people will like and keep the rest to myself.” I’ve also trained myself to reduce frequency of posting. I think it’s better for me and probably less annoying for others.

Lots of people in this thread are getting prickly but I bet most people can identify at least one friend who they think posts too much or is too braggy in their posts. So there ARE limits. For everyone.

I travel a lot and even though I don’t post every trip, I wonder if it comes off braggy. I will post something cool or if a view is beautiful. I personally like when we are in the picture of some magnificent backdrop. I do not post pictures of luxury or first class flights or what I consider flashy. I will post a picture every few years of a nice restaurant on my husband’s birthday or jumping off a cliff, zip lining, stuff like that.

[Anonymous]

Social media is like magazines now. People go on and look at what they are interested in. I have always loved travel magazines and travel forums like TripAdvisor. I am now a seasoned traveler so I don’t need to read a magazine to figure out what new country I want to visit. I now often go to places for my kids or want to take my kids to places I have previously been. Travel posts on social media are my favorite. I may get an idea or make a mental note that I would like to go there if we go to Japan or Italy or SF. Even NYC, where I am from, if I see a friend post a new restaurant or cool new museum exhibit, I may check it out next time I’m there. It is the exact same way I used to do that when I flipped through travel magazines and books. My friends are my equals so their tastes may be more similar to mine. All of them have kids so they usually go to kid friendly places. Better asking a live friend about their trip than ask an anonymous travel forum where people can vary greatly from you.

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Pp here. I’m interested in travel and food. DH is interested in sports. He follows athletes and sports news on social media. I have never been interested in celebrity gossip. I have friends who follow celebrities and very into their relationships, divorces, affairs, etc. i do like to look up new fun places to take my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

^100% agree!

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing photos from friends. I do post photos on social media.

I have to admit that watching Bling Ring on how people robbed Paris Hilton's house based on social media postings made me feel more tentative about posting photos. But I only post on Facebook.

I know this bothers some and makes them jealous. But they can block me if they don't want to see it.

I love seeing photos from places I'll never make it to. So fun.

Jealous? No. But posting travel photos on social media can make you a mockery.

Wow. You sound mean. I don't mock my friends.

You are receiving yourself. We all do that. But I will plaster on a smile when I see you in the car pool line and chuckle under my breath about your trip to the Amalfi Coast or USVI or wherever. And I’m not alone.

That sounds like a you problem.

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I love seeing my friend’s pictures, either for ideas or just to see them happy! For one friend if she doesn’t post I just ask her to send some

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I never post but do enjoy seeing my friends travel photos. It’s a little attention seeking but I’m sure I’m attention seeking in other ways and they like me anyway. But if I don’t like someone already, I find it obnoxious… so really it’s about my perception of the person not the actual act of posting.

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It’s literally a posting platform. That’s the whole purpose so I don’t understand what you are doing on it if you don’t like to see friends’ posts. I enjoy seeing people’s posts, and if I don’t feel like looking at it, I scroll on by, no judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing photos from friends. I do post photos on social media.

I have to admit that watching Bling Ring on how people robbed Paris Hilton's house based on social media postings made me feel more tentative about posting photos. But I only post on Facebook.

I know this bothers some and makes them jealous. But they can block me if they don't want to see it.

I love seeing photos from places I'll never make it to. So fun.

Jealous? No. But posting travel photos on social media can make you a mockery.

Wow. You sound mean. I don't mock my friends.

You are receiving yourself. We all do that. But I will plaster on a smile when I see you in the car pool line and chuckle under my breath about your trip to the Amalfi Coast or USVI or wherever. And I’m not alone.

This is really unhinged behavior.

If someone posts a couple stories or photos of a trip, I enjoy seeing their adventures and feel happy for the person. Like a different PP said, it sometimes gives me good ideas for future trips and it's an easy conversation starter the next time you see the person. If they post an album a day, I scroll on by and don't go through it - but I can't imagine laughing at someone for sharing a trip.

It's patently obvious that pp has a serious character defect.

Nah. A serious character defect is expecting others to care about our trips. It’s called narcissism, and clearly you (and the other travel instagrammers on here) have it.

Naw, you’re just a defective person. Normal, healthy people don’t think the way you evidently do.

Take what you just write and read it to yourself. Posting vacation pictures to beg for attention and validation is pathetic and makes you a defective person,

People who post vacation pictures aren’t begging for attention. God, that really is such a defective way of thinking.

I hope you find happiness and peace somewhere.

[not PP]

Yes, they are. I hope you get a clue somewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

Nope. No one is angry you WENT anywhere. But the fact that you don’t understand (or choose to ignore) the difference is very telling.o

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

Nope. No one is angry you WENT anywhere. But the fact that you don’t understand (or choose to ignore) the difference is very telling.o

Look, it doesn’t matter how many times you come back here to act like you’re not a bitter angry person. You are. Nobody is going to be convinced otherwise. Do yourself a favor and get off social media if it makes you so irritated to see what your acquaintances post.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming your friends and family are terrible people who are bragging is just very strange…especially if all they did was post a few travel pics without typing any actual commentary.

People saying, “Come on! We all know these people are pressed to curate a fake image and rub their travel in your face!” are truly weird. It’s not normal to assume that. And if you are inundated with braggy posts by terrible people you follow on social, then maybe that’s something to evaluate about yourself, your circle, etc.

But it’s way more subtle—perhaps even subconscious—than that, and I think it’s either naive or self-deceiving to pretend that this isn’t how social media works.

How does it feel going through life believing your friends and family are jerks who dedicate their lives to rubbing their fabulousness in your face by posting a vacation pic on social media? It must be exhausting and very sad.

I probably saw upwards of three dozen sets of travel pics from friends and family who vacationed over winter break. Not once did I assign malicious intent to any post.

I have a handful of friends currently on some pretty unique vacations at the moment. I’ve encouraged all of them to post more pics. I love seeing where they are and what they’re doing. By the sheer volume of comments, I’m not alone in wanting to see more pics.

Same. ^^

Same for me too. Sometimes DCUM reveals itself in such bizarre ways to truly be a gathering point for some deeply weird people. Everyone on this thread who seethes at their friends and acquaintances for daring to post anything on social (which of course, they only see because THEY ARE ON SOCIAL) is walking through the world with an incredibly maladjusted mindset. It’s pretty wild to see them tout superiority when really all their posts just ooze deep bitterness and self absorption. Can’t even be happy for a friend enjoying a trip - that’s bleak

This last paragraph has taken it very far. No one is saying they “seeth” at every post on social media. It’s a balance, there is a spectrum. If someone puts up one photo, that isn’t the same as groups of them with every trip or holiday. Plenty of people sprinkle things out in social media while including some real life moments. Plenty of people don’t. This thread is about people who are in the more extreme range.

No need to catastrophize ANYONE who posts. I think some annoyance is part of what social media works.

No, sorry, the tone of those posts is definitely seething. They’re angry you went somewhere they thought was cool 20 years ago. They’re angry you went somewhere that now doesn’t feel exclusive. They’re also angry you went to an unimpressive and common place though. They’re angry you aren’t staring at your kids the entire vacation instead of taking pictures, they’re angry you posted the pictures. They’re just sad and angry people whether they think so or not.

PP here. We are not angry necessarily. It’s more amusement and bemusement at your simplicity and obliviousness.