The men who think they're protecting women's bathrooms/locker rooms/spaces etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never seen a man walk his daughters into the women's restrooms. He should stand guard outside and sometimes ask if everything is ok if they seem to be taking a long time. Going in with them was a super weird choice.

You've never had a kid who's needed help wiping after a sticky poop or got their underwear tangled or a button stuck? Or a kid who can't reach the soap dispenser over the sink? A lot of bathrooms have the soap or paper towels out of reach for a kid that age. Are little girls just supposed to not wash their hands?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's pretty weird the dad took his kids to the women's bathroom. Take them to the men's restroom. The reaction was unnecessary but really esh

Nope. He has two young girls. They can use the restroom. All a Dad needs to do is say "Hey Ive got two girls with me who need to use the restroom- can we come in?"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This guy seems like a jerk, but I also don't want men in the bathroom. I want to be able to complain to management when there is one and for them to politely be asked to leave, despite their claimed personal identity.

Shhh! Someone will hear you, and you’ll be tarred and feathered as an irredeemable bigot.

Hah, and agreed. OP is clearly trying to turn this into a gotcha moment against people with legitimate and genuine concerns.

On a similar theme, at my local Y, which is very nice, there is a separate locker room just for boys, including teen boys. So there's a men's changing room/bathroom, women's changing room/bathroom, a family changing room/bathroom, and a boys changing room/bathroom. There isn't one for girls. And we all know why, don't we? It doesn't mean the vast majority of men are perfectly decent and trustworthy but there are some out there who are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never seen a man walk his daughters into the women's restrooms. He should stand guard outside and sometimes ask if everything is ok if they seem to be taking a long time. Going in with them was a super weird choice.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never seen a man walk his daughters into the women's restrooms. He should stand guard outside and sometimes ask if everything is ok if they seem to be taking a long time. Going in with them was a super weird choice.

You've never had a kid who's needed help wiping after a sticky poop or got their underwear tangled or a button stuck? Or a kid who can't reach the soap dispenser over the sink? A lot of bathrooms have the soap or paper towels out of reach for a kid that age. Are little girls just supposed to not wash their hands?

DP. As a dad, I encountered this many times, but we just went in the men's room where I could help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy seems like a jerk, but I also don't want men in the bathroom. I want to be able to complain to management when there is one and for them to politely be asked to leave, despite their claimed personal identity.

Shhh! Someone will hear you, and you’ll be tarred and feathered as an irredeemable bigot.

Hah, and agreed. OP is clearly trying to turn this into a gotcha moment against people with legitimate and genuine concerns.

On a similar theme, at my local Y, which is very nice, there is a separate locker room just for boys, including teen boys. So there's a men's changing room/bathroom, women's changing room/bathroom, a family changing room/bathroom, and a boys changing room/bathroom. There isn't one for girls. And we all know why, don't we? It doesn't mean the vast majority of men are perfectly decent and trustworthy but there are some out there who are not.

Thats weird......
Itd be better if all places just had family restrooms but they dont.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never seen a man walk his daughters into the women's restrooms. He should stand guard outside and sometimes ask if everything is ok if they seem to be taking a long time. Going in with them was a super weird choice.

You've never had a kid who's needed help wiping after a sticky poop or got their underwear tangled or a button stuck? Or a kid who can't reach the soap dispenser over the sink? A lot of bathrooms have the soap or paper towels out of reach for a kid that age. Are little girls just supposed to not wash their hands?

DP. As a dad, I encountered this many times, but we just went in the men's room where I could help.

I'm a mom and I just don't see why Dad at the sinks would be an issue for anyone. You cannot see anything private in the women's restroom because there are stalls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's pretty weird the dad took his kids to the women's bathroom. Take them to the men's restroom. The reaction was unnecessary but really esh

+1 The grown man should be in the men’s restroom and his young children should accompany him. The bathroom of choice isn’t determined by one’s 4 year old. 4 year old boys with their moms should be in the women’s restrooms. That’s how it works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never seen a man walk his daughters into the women's restrooms. He should stand guard outside and sometimes ask if everything is ok if they seem to be taking a long time. Going in with them was a super weird choice.

You've never had a kid who's needed help wiping after a sticky poop or got their underwear tangled or a button stuck? Or a kid who can't reach the soap dispenser over the sink? A lot of bathrooms have the soap or paper towels out of reach for a kid that age. Are little girls just supposed to not wash their hands?

DP. As a dad, I encountered this many times, but we just went in the men's room where I could help.

I'm a mom and I just don't see why Dad at the sinks would be an issue for anyone. You cannot see anything private in the women's restroom because there are stalls.

Oh I agree that it's weird that people freaked out, I'm just saying what the normal approach is for dads of daughters. What this guy did was not (in my experience) normal, but not in a way that's threatening or anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's pretty weird the dad took his kids to the women's bathroom. Take them to the men's restroom. The reaction was unnecessary but really esh

+1 The grown man should be in the men’s restroom and his young children should accompany him. The bathroom of choice isn’t determined by one’s 4 year old. 4 year old boys with their moms should be in the women’s restrooms. That’s how it works.

I don't understand why grown women in stalls are considered more vulnerable than little girls in a room with open urinals.

Dad's choice to use the more private bathroom is legitimate.

[Anonymous]

Sex-segregated bathrooms and locker rooms are outdated and dumb. Why do we still tolerate this stupidity?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I saw that. The cops removed the idiot and told the dad he absolutely did the right thing in bringing girls to the women’s room.

I swear, it's the men who seem to be arguing over bathroom/locker room/etc safety for women (against trans persons, or "men in a girls bathroom") who are actually the most creepy and weird. It's all a projection of their own sick behavior.

I think this is exactly it.

I remember seeing one of the most perverted guys I know throw a fit that his younger elementary school aged daughters weren't allowed in the same room as same aged boys behind closed doors. These were little kids playing with some sort of toy that was in the room.

I'm pretty sure he has raped girls/got them drunk to sleep with them/pressure them to sleep with him and I choose to stay away from him and his group. We just happened to be at the same kids gathering and watched him throw that fuss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never seen a man walk his daughters into the women's restrooms. He should stand guard outside and sometimes ask if everything is ok if they seem to be taking a long time. Going in with them was a super weird choice.

You've never had a kid who's needed help wiping after a sticky poop or got their underwear tangled or a button stuck? Or a kid who can't reach the soap dispenser over the sink? A lot of bathrooms have the soap or paper towels out of reach for a kid that age. Are little girls just supposed to not wash their hands?

DP. As a dad, I encountered this many times, but we just went in the men's room where I could help.

I'm a mom and I just don't see why Dad at the sinks would be an issue for anyone. You cannot see anything private in the women's restroom because there are stalls.

Oh I agree that it's weird that people freaked out, I'm just saying what the normal approach is for dads of daughters. What this guy did was not (in my experience) normal, but not in a way that's threatening or anything.

I've seen Dads in the bathroom with their daughters so it's not weird for me. Especially when they only put baby changing stations in women's bathrooms.

Let's just let parents make a reasonable call and not harass them for it.

Like finding the cut off for when I have to send my sons into a large public men's restroom alone? Figuring that out isn't terribly easy.

My appeal is to look at a parent with kids, realize there isn't one way to be, and stop being weirdos who obsess over bathrooms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's pretty weird the dad took his kids to the women's bathroom. Take them to the men's restroom. The reaction was unnecessary but really esh

+1 The grown man should be in the men’s restroom and his young children should accompany him. The bathroom of choice isn’t determined by one’s 4 year old. 4 year old boys with their moms should be in the women’s restrooms. That’s how it works.

I don't understand why grown women in stalls are considered more vulnerable than little girls in a room with open urinals.

Dad's choice to use the more private bathroom is legitimate.

No, it’s not, because he doesn’t belong in there. If it’s a unisex bathroom, fine, have at it, but if it’s a ladies’ room, he doesn’t belong in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex-segregated bathrooms and locker rooms are outdated and dumb. Why do we still tolerate this stupidity?

I think the majority of people still want it. That’s why there’s generally very strong compliance.