Passion is fading. Should I divorce now?

[Anonymous]

OP, where did you get your ideas of romance and married life? We need to make sure no one else is weened on the same syrup.

[Anonymous]

Yes that seems like a good enough reason.

[Anonymous]

I know one person who divorced for this same reason. She is still single at 60.

[Anonymous]

Irresponsable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Divorce.

+2

[Anonymous]

A troll and not a very smart one at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry is this a troll?

Yes. No question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

Divorce, let him have the kid and move on. You can start a brand new life... how exciting for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

I see quite a few “I”. Where is the “we” and where do you put your priorities? Is your desire for new new new experiences overriding your responsibilities now that you have a child to raise? Are your needs met? Are your do’s needs met? Are your child’s needs met?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

I'm a put-your-own-oxygen-mask-on-first kind of mom, but your level of selfishness is shocking.

Also, your expectation that you're going to have burning passion your entire marriage is unbelievably immature.

The fact that you think being married to your current husband, who you describe as a great guy and a wonderful dad, is ENDURING something is painfully myopic.

If you do decide to divorce, please give your husband primary custody so that at least your child will have one parent who considers the child's needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Passion is hormones meant to get you into a relationship.

You are a family now. You have ethical obligations to your spouse and kid.

Very few people have lifetime passion. How many spouses are you willing to discard before identifying this as a "you" problem?

I really don’t want to mess up my family. But is it really my fault that I don’t feel that passion anymore? Am I just meant to push aside my feelings and my happiness?
I know I could stick with the relationship and act like everything is fine, but isn’t unfair to my husband? Isn’t that just as wrong?
I didn’t decide to feel this way. I wish I could still experience love and passion.

Look, you clearly got knocked up on accident since you've been married for only 5 years but your kid is 8 but once you decided to have him, you owed it to him to be his parent. And no, that does not mean forsaking your own happiness, but it does mean weighing how you feel against what that would do to your child. Your posts are all ME ME ME ME, which is pretty gross for a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, divorce immediately and go pursue your “passion”. Your ex can find a new woman who appreciates him for what he is and your kid will have a good stepmother who’s not constantly chasing random d!cks.

LMAO. He’ll marry a young woman he knocks up in the first four months of sowing his oats and she will encourage him to stop paying CS and spending time with kid #1.

[Anonymous]

Can't you just read romance novels? Or, there's so much nudity and sex in movies now, watch one and attack your DH.

Or, get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Someone will snap your husband up in a minute and appreciate him.