Young Stay At Home Husband: Bored What to Do?

[Anonymous]

I don’t get this. I presume you are working during the day? If you go to the gym, have kids, own a business AND do chores then how do you have so much additional free time?

I suspect you’re not working that much. Owning a business is a lot of work!! Do you have staff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go to the gym
get a dog.

Thanks for the suggestion. We're not dog people at all and enjoy traveling too much to do it. Getting a gym membership despite having a home gym setup might make sense though.

If you have a home gym I wouldn't pay for one.

[Anonymous]

Bruh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this. I presume you are working during the day? If you go to the gym, have kids, own a business AND do chores then how do you have so much additional free time?

I suspect you’re not working that much. Owning a business is a lot of work!! Do you have staff?

+1

[Anonymous]

Is this real?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

OP here. Would it be odd? I feel as if other moms might think I have nefarious reasons for joining. I can't imagine a lot of other moms would like a 20-30 year old male joining the PTA....

No...it's not 1960! Our PTA had 2 Dad Presidents while we were there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this. I presume you are working during the day? If you go to the gym, have kids, own a business AND do chores then how do you have so much additional free time?

I suspect you’re not working that much. Owning a business is a lot of work!! Do you have staff?

Played the market when I was young and got lucky (was afforded that opportunity due to family money) then inherited money from my family on top of that. Because of that cushion I took some risk in my young 20s and then started a business online which has been profitable and doesn't require much work. Can't get anymore specific than that or I'll dox myself (if I haven't already).

Chores aren't too bad: grew up in a house where it was the one minute rule and clean as you go and I am someone who really enjoys a clean space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

OP here. Would it be odd? I feel as if other moms might think I have nefarious reasons for joining. I can't imagine a lot of other moms would like a 20-30 year old male joining the PTA....

No...it's not 1960! Our PTA had 2 Dad Presidents while we were there

Thank you for sharing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this. I presume you are working during the day? If you go to the gym, have kids, own a business AND do chores then how do you have so much additional free time?

I suspect you’re not working that much. Owning a business is a lot of work!! Do you have staff?

Played the market when I was young and got lucky (was afforded that opportunity due to family money) then inherited money from my family on top of that. Because of that cushion I took some risk in my young 20s and then started a business online which has been profitable and doesn't require much work. Can't get anymore specific than that or I'll dox myself (if I haven't already).

Chores aren't too bad: grew up in a house where it was the one minute rule and clean as you go and I am someone who really enjoys a clean space.

Too much time and too much money. You’re definitely going to step out. Gird your loins and guard your fortune accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this. I presume you are working during the day? If you go to the gym, have kids, own a business AND do chores then how do you have so much additional free time?

I suspect you’re not working that much. Owning a business is a lot of work!! Do you have staff?

Played the market when I was young and got lucky (was afforded that opportunity due to family money) then inherited money from my family on top of that. Because of that cushion I took some risk in my young 20s and then started a business online which has been profitable and doesn't require much work. Can't get anymore specific than that or I'll dox myself (if I haven't already).

Chores aren't too bad: grew up in a house where it was the one minute rule and clean as you go and I am someone who really enjoys a clean space.

Too much time and too much money. You’re definitely going to step out. Gird your loins and guard your fortune accordingly.

+1

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids? At school or at home with you?
If they’re at home you could try starting up a Dads meetup group.
When DD was little I had friends where the mom was a nurse and the Dad was a firefighter so I did stuff with both of them depending on the day. There are other Dads out there doing shift work who have kids during the week that would be interested in getting together. You gotta get something started though.

[Anonymous]

Give us at least the general age of your kids. That should help. You absolutely can volunteer through the PTA - there are dads who always do the parents vs teachers basketball game and one who organizes a fun run each year. It’s a good way to meet people and see you hit it off with anyone.

My husband has also made some dad friends through coaching our son’s sports team. Not why he did it but man the one thing men will show up for is sports.

If your kid has a friend with a remotely normal seeming set of parents invite them over for meal some weekend and let the kids play. It can be pizza, no one cares. You have to put yourself out there a little bit. It’s definitely harder for dads to make friends through kids and most men’s friends around here seem to be through work but it’s doable.

[Anonymous]

Oh and my husband is really working on organizing a regular poker night. Once you have a few good friends these things are not hard, most people love to be invited to things! I am a very socially anxious person but have decided I’m a grown adult and I can handle rejection so I have really started working on this and people in general seem very grateful. Don’t feel like you can only be friends with people exactly like you. We don’t have much in common with our neighbors and they are quite a bit older than us but we still enjoy their company and vice versa (I hope).

[Anonymous]

What to do?
SAHMs of course!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this. I presume you are working during the day? If you go to the gym, have kids, own a business AND do chores then how do you have so much additional free time?

I suspect you’re not working that much. Owning a business is a lot of work!! Do you have staff?

Played the market when I was young and got lucky (was afforded that opportunity due to family money) then inherited money from my family on top of that. Because of that cushion I took some risk in my young 20s and then started a business online which has been profitable and doesn't require much work. Can't get anymore specific than that or I'll dox myself (if I haven't already).

Chores aren't too bad: grew up in a house where it was the one minute rule and clean as you go and I am someone who really enjoys a clean space.

Sounds like you have zero drive whatsoever. Your wife must be annoyed with you sitting around doing chopped liver.