Young Stay At Home Husband: Bored What to Do?

[Anonymous]

Title pretty much sums it up. Married and young and living in the NOVA burbs having a hard time meeting people.

Have other young married friends who work and most church or stay at home parent groups I've found are targeted towards SAHMs.

I WFH and own my own company with a very flexible schedule and trying to figure out how to meet people and get more involved in the community.

Looking at Pilates or other workout classes as I usually workout in my home gym, but they're mainly targeted towards "mummy and me" and I don't want to feel like a creep being a college aged male going to Pilates.

I bring it up on the relationship discussion page as I find I get very lonely during the days as my DW works very long hours and when she does come home she's too tired and we have a DB situation and it feels like she doesn't really notice me.

House is always tidy and chores are done but sometimes I would like companion or just to meet people throughout the day.

I don't believe I want an AP and I am sure many SAHMs (or dads) know what I am saying, this feeling of being trapped in suburbs.

I am sorry for vague posting and being a bit opaque on the child situation, mainly because I've met other DCUM users IRL and know my situation is unique enough to dox myself.

[Anonymous]

volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

[Anonymous]

Go to the gym
get a dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to the gym
get a dog.

Thanks for the suggestion. We're not dog people at all and enjoy traveling too much to do it. Getting a gym membership despite having a home gym setup might make sense though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

OP here. Would it be odd? I feel as if other moms might think I have nefarious reasons for joining. I can't imagine a lot of other moms would like a 20-30 year old male joining the PTA....

[Anonymous]

Come and talk to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

? it did in our school. There were a few male PTA leaders.

[Anonymous]

Probably should talk to your wife about that dead bedroom

Consider volunteering at your child’s school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come and talk to us.

Maybe. Moms IRL, don't be surprised if a young man shows up to PTA soon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

OP here. Would it be odd? I feel as if other moms might think I have nefarious reasons for joining. I can't imagine a lot of other moms would like a 20-30 year old male joining the PTA....

You'll be fine, but you may get hit on LOL

I hope your marriage can withstand the temptation. Your situation seems like it might be rife for cheating - means and opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

OP here. Would it be odd? I feel as if other moms might think I have nefarious reasons for joining. I can't imagine a lot of other moms would like a 20-30 year old male joining the PTA....

I think that a dad joining the PTA at his own kids’ school would be much less suspicious than a man who is not a dad, or whose kids don’t attend the school.

It’s really hard to advise without knowing if you are a parent, and if you are a parent if you are the primary caregiver during be day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Probably should talk to your wife about that dead bedroom

Consider volunteering at your child’s school

Yeah we've spoken about it and she's trying and I'm really understanding but I'm a young man who enjoys working out and staying active and I have the free time to do it while she's working a high stress high pay job in D.C. so our libidos just aren't aligned especially with the children situation. Really why I don't want an AP and try to help but I mean, there's just such a gulf between us and she's always just so exhausted from her job being that she's junior in her position and frequently works late nights or brings work home.

[Anonymous]

Pickle. Ball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:volunteer in school and join the PTA.

When we moved here, I was wfh, and so the only people I met were through my kids' school.

- a man at the PTA meeting?! That will go over well.

OP here. Would it be odd? I feel as if other moms might think I have nefarious reasons for joining. I can't imagine a lot of other moms would like a 20-30 year old male joining the PTA....

I think that a dad joining the PTA at his own kids’ school would be much less suspicious than a man who is not a dad, or whose kids don’t attend the school.

It’s really hard to advise without knowing if you are a parent, and if you are a parent if you are the primary caregiver during be day.

OP here- I would not join a PTA unless my DC went to the school for very obvious reasons and I didn't even think that was allowed....