Parents who are overwhelmed with one or two kids

[Anonymous]

Wow. You are amazing. Do you have help? Have to do elderly care? Health issues for you or the kids? Financial issues? Most kids of three I see one is neglected and ignored for the favorite kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

This says a lot about you.

It says a lot about her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how it can be so difficult with just one or two kid. I have 3 and at one point had a newborn, 3 year old and 4 year old. I did 75% of things solo when DH was in the office.

Every time one of my kids is at a playdate or with friends and I only have 2 kids it feels like I have all this extra time and it’s so easy.

I feel bad and would never vocalize this since most of my friends have only 1 or 2 kids but whenever they complain at how hard it is I am always so confused. I don’t find 3 very difficult either and have always wanted more but that probably won’t happen.

It’s easy when you are constantly dumping them on someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how it can be so difficult with just one or two kid. I have 3 and at one point had a newborn, 3 year old and 4 year old. I did 75% of things solo when DH was in the office.

Every time one of my kids is at a playdate or with friends and I only have 2 kids it feels like I have all this extra time and it’s so easy.

I feel bad and would never vocalize this since most of my friends have only 1 or 2 kids but whenever they complain at how hard it is I am always so confused. I don’t find 3 very difficult either and have always wanted more but that probably won’t happen.

I agree OP same with me.
DH traveled Monday -Friday the first 15 years of our marriage.

My sister both have one and it is always complain about how hard it is....

And I worked full time.

How much help did you have? Day care or nanny? Housekeeper? Yard person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

Ah I see. You outsourced your childcare. No wonder you had it easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. You are amazing. Do you have help? Have to do elderly care? Health issues for you or the kids? Financial issues? Most kids of three I see one is neglected and ignored for the favorite kids.

This. I can almost guarantee that the oldest is so lonely and wants you to get off DCUM and spend some time with him/her/them. Put the phone down and focus on being mother of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how it can be so difficult with just one or two kid. I have 3 and at one point had a newborn, 3 year old and 4 year old. I did 75% of things solo when DH was in the office.

Every time one of my kids is at a playdate or with friends and I only have 2 kids it feels like I have all this extra time and it’s so easy.

I feel bad and would never vocalize this since most of my friends have only 1 or 2 kids but whenever they complain at how hard it is I am always so confused. I don’t find 3 very difficult either and have always wanted more but that probably won’t happen.

Why do you need to understand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

If you work full time, how are you doing "75% of things" with the kids when "DH is in the office."

Are you a troll, OP? I smell a troll...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

If you work full time, how are you doing "75% of things" with the kids when "DH is in the office."

Are you a troll, OP? I smell a troll...

Op - I am not a troll. When I am working kids are either in daycare or school. When they arent in school I take care of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

If you work full time, how are you doing "75% of things" with the kids when "DH is in the office."

Are you a troll, OP? I smell a troll...

Op - I am not a troll. When I am working kids are either in daycare or school. When they arent in school I take care of them.

NP. You are very clearly a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how it can be so difficult with just one or two kid. I have 3 and at one point had a newborn, 3 year old and 4 year old. I did 75% of things solo when DH was in the office.

Every time one of my kids is at a playdate or with friends and I only have 2 kids it feels like I have all this extra time and it’s so easy.

I feel bad and would never vocalize this since most of my friends have only 1 or 2 kids but whenever they complain at how hard it is I am always so confused. I don’t find 3 very difficult either and have always wanted more but that probably won’t happen.

Only the very best moms of 3 have time to post ragebait on DCUM at dinner time 🥹

Lol. Perfection.

[Anonymous]

How do you have 3 kids and not realize that kids are also so different? Yes, even at the baby and toddler stage.

I also have 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

This says a lot about you.

It says a lot about her kids.

Both. They are easy and she is smug.

[Anonymous]

Op, please tell us ALL your parenting wisdom. I’m sure that despite having three young kids you are probably an expert in parenting teens as well, for example!

[Anonymous]

OP,

Tip: complaints do not correlate with suffering, but with personality.

Your homework for 2026:
1. Study the immense variability of the human experience.
2. Notice the wide range of functionalities of their brains and the personalities they were born with.
3. Observe how certain people never complain yet struggle silently and how some people complain constantly yet live in privilege.

We all have inattentive ADHD and various shades of autism in the family, and we're all quiet, calm, people who aren't given to complaining. My two children have always been "easy", in that they were never destructive or moody. But for the first 18 years of our son's life, our lives revolved around his needs. He needed extensive therapies, tutoring and round-the-clock handholding. Sweet-tempered boy... but so many issues.

It's amazing how much bandwidth I have for so many other things now that's he clawed his way into college and is surviving on his own! Do I complain about all these years spent raising him so he could be a somewhat functional young adult? No! It was well worth it.

I would have dearly loved more children, despite the risks of having more ADHD/autistic kids, but sadly my body decided against it.