Help, sleeping arrangements

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound like spoiled brats. Kick them out of their rooms. Be a good hostess and just stop this.

Her dh said no. You are expecting them to be doormats. Not all of us want to celebrate the way you do. You are clearly one of "those" relatives.

[Anonymous]

Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH should reach out to them a let them know to bring air mattresses with so they can sleep on the floor in the living room.

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You simply don't have beds for all these people. They can sleep on an air mattress or get the hotel like they should.

This. And frankly I would have said so when the second person asked.

“Sorry, Janet, we can’t host you those days as Linda will already be in our guest room. There are x and y hotels nearby but we’d love to have you for dinner, or perhaps you can come another time?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

I see we have the cheap, moocher relative here! Have some dignity and get a hotel room!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Growing up we had lots of visitors and a smallish house, my mother never asked me to give up my bedroom. I have never asked to stay in anyone else’s bedroom (it’s a guest room or hotel for me) I would never dream of sleeping in a teenagers room, it’s one thing of they’ve left for college and don’t live there anymore but if this is the room they sleep in every night no. They are entitled to their own space and privacy.

[Anonymous]

Uninvite the boyfriend, then the family can share the one room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That's a fun memory for kids. Grownups sleeping on the floor and sharing a bathroom with six other people-- not so much. We don't have to do it, so we don't. SIL is being very strange. Why would they want this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound like spoiled brats. Kick them out of their rooms. Be a good hostess and just stop this.

LOL, nope.

If guests have been asked to stay in a hotel and REFUSED, then simply put a bunch of blankets and pillows and sheets and towels in a corner, and cheerfully tell them that since they insist on all staying here, they can work out the sleeping and bathroom arrangements themselves. Welcome in, the fridge and pantry are stocked, dinner is at 6. Make yourselves comfortable, wherever you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom. MIL is visiting and her stay overlaps with sil, her boyfriend and adult son. We have three bedrooms and two bathrooms two kids rooms and one primary bedroom. My kids are teenagers, neither wants to give up their bedroom understandably. DH asked his family to get a hotel room near by, they all flat out said no. Where do these people sleep. I’m tempted to get a hotel room and stay there.

They said no? Are they broke, cheap or entitled?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never kick my teenagers (or small kids) out of their own rooms for guests!

Primarily because their rooms are teen rooms and really not suited for guests. I'm very picky about rooms and cleanliness and our guest suite is beautifully appointed and comfortable. I can't provide that with my teens rooms! They'd have to sleep near a weight set for one kid and lots of mannequins and wigs for the cosplay girl.

This is why hotels and air bnbs exist.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think its reasonable to ask people to get a hotel in those circumstances.

But I also think that you are teaching your kids to be spoiled brats by not making them double up in one room together.

[Anonymous]

MIL should get one of the teen bedrooms. Teens should share a room. SIL and her crowd should get hotel rooms.

[Anonymous]

My sister had three kids who each had their own rooms.

She insisted the kids had to each stay in his or her own bedroom.

She made my elderly parents sleep on a pull out couch in the play room that the kids would start playing in around 6am.

And then she complained that my parents did not visit enough.