Need advice. Teen is upset his girlfriend (both are 17) posts on social media, hanging on other boys.

[Anonymous]

Let him break up with him and send him back to the gym.
He should take a break from dating and pick better next time. He is scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t get to decide where someone else’s line is in terms of feeling they’re in a respectful relationship. He thinks the pictures are bad, he’s talked to his girlfriend about it, she continues the behavior. She has that right, and he has the right to not like it.

They’re not compatible and breaking up is the OBVIOUS solution.

This is where I would go if it were my kid.

As a young woman, I took steps to avoid my current and very reasonable boyfriend being jealous of my former boyfriends. This sounds to me like the young woman is either heedless or wants to make a strong statement about her autonomy. Either reason could be a relationship dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're 17 and It's 2025.

They shouldn't be in a serious relationship.
She's having her little teenage fun, we all had around that age. It shouldn't be a big problem. If he still wants to be with her, he shouldn't make it a big deal as it is way harder now for boys to date than girls in HS and it is more uncommon to date in general.

No way. There are plenty of girls out there who don’t casually hook up with random guys. He doesn’t get to control her but he has every right to dump her. And he should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him break up with him and send him back to the gym.
He should take a break from dating and pick better next time. He is scary.

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He isn’t scary for not wanting to date someone who hooks up a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him break up with him and send him back to the gym.
He should take a break from dating and pick better next time. He is scary.

No, he isn't. Boys can have standards and set boundaries too.

[Anonymous]

He should break up with her. She clearly doesn't care that shes hurting him. He set s boundary and she can't comply so he needs to break up with her. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let him break up with him and send him back to the gym.
He should take a break from dating and pick better next time. He is scary.

No, he isn't. Boys can have standards and set boundaries too.

Op here thanks for chiming in. Ds definitely isn’t scary. But I agree, gf is allowed her autonomy but my ds doesn’t have to continue dating her if it makes him uncomfortable. Fwiw his older sibling had a long term relationship in high school and they both were extremely careful and respectful of each other when it came to situations like this. Ds probably saw this as a model, and was similarly respectful and assumed the same from his girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

My DC is in college now, but had quite a few dramatic high school relationships. And jealousy was a common denominator - sometimes on his side, sometimes on the other.

I tried to explain to him that dating at this age is really learning about yourself. Relationships are new, everyone is inexperienced, and emotions are high.
You're going to make mistakes, your boyfriend/girlfriend is going to make mistakes, your job is to learn about yourself and what you like/dislike in a partner/relationship going forward. But overall, relationships at this stage should be value-add, making you happier, having new experiences, and becoming a better version of yourself. If not, it's time to end things.

In this situation, I would tell my son to trust his instinct that his feelings are justified, and help him find a way to end it amicably. Learning how to break up is a good life skill. Theres a book called "Necessary Endings" but there's lots of other books for men about breakups.

[Anonymous]

He can break up with her for any reason he wants, including bad reasons due to him blowing things out of proportion. They are not a good match and they are kids. Frankly he should hold off on any more dating until he matures. Tell him to focus on college apps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can break up with her for any reason he wants, including bad reasons due to him blowing things out of proportion. They are not a good match and they are kids. Frankly he should hold off on any more dating until he matures. Tell him to focus on college apps.

I love how you dubbed him the immature one here, yet you know nothing about the maturity of his gf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him know he doesn’t own her. Let him know you don’t think the photos are bad. Let him know if you think he’s too sensitive. And let him know he has the option to break up. It’s pretty simple.

As the mom of a girl whose boyfriend wants to act like he owns her, I wish his mom would see this stuff and tell him these things.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC is in college now, but had quite a few dramatic high school relationships. And jealousy was a common denominator - sometimes on his side, sometimes on the other.

I tried to explain to him that dating at this age is really learning about yourself. Relationships are new, everyone is inexperienced, and emotions are high.
You're going to make mistakes, your boyfriend/girlfriend is going to make mistakes, your job is to learn about yourself and what you like/dislike in a partner/relationship going forward. But overall, relationships at this stage should be value-add, making you happier, having new experiences, and becoming a better version of yourself. If not, it's time to end things.

In this situation, I would tell my son to trust his instinct that his feelings are justified, and help him find a way to end it amicably. Learning how to break up is a good life skill. Theres a book called "Necessary Endings" but there's lots of other books for men about breakups.

Hell no this is ridiculous.

Your son does not own get OP !

You raised a controlling twat set him straight right now!

This is in your kid not the GF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can break up with her for any reason he wants, including bad reasons due to him blowing things out of proportion. They are not a good match and they are kids. Frankly he should hold off on any more dating until he matures. Tell him to focus on college apps.

I love how you dubbed him the immature one here, yet you know nothing about the maturity of his gf.

It doesn’t matter

He is being controlling he has zero right to tell anyone much less his gf who to hang with or post pictures with!

He can break up with her but he doesn’t own her.

OP raised an entitled POS who thinks he gets to tell women what they can and can not do. Nope he does not get to do that and I hope the GF parents tell her to drop him asap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can break up with her for any reason he wants, including bad reasons due to him blowing things out of proportion. They are not a good match and they are kids. Frankly he should hold off on any more dating until he matures. Tell him to focus on college apps.

I love how you dubbed him the immature one here, yet you know nothing about the maturity of his gf.

It doesn’t matter

He is being controlling he has zero right to tell anyone much less his gf who to hang with or post pictures with!

He can break up with her but he doesn’t own her.

OP raised an entitled POS who thinks he gets to tell women what they can and can not do. Nope he does not get to do that and I hope the GF parents tell her to drop him asap

You sound like a misandrist and a skank

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let him break up with him and send him back to the gym.
He should take a break from dating and pick better next time. He is scary.

No, he isn't. Boys can have standards and set boundaries too.

Op here thanks for chiming in. Ds definitely isn’t scary. But I agree, gf is allowed her autonomy but my ds doesn’t have to continue dating her if it makes him uncomfortable. Fwiw his older sibling had a long term relationship in high school and they both were extremely careful and respectful of each other when it came to situations like this. Ds probably saw this as a model, and was similarly respectful and assumed the same from his girlfriend.

No no no no no

Extremely careful ??

You are teaching your boys to be controlling shits

Stop it.

Your older one wasn’t a role model .