Is it true that women go after the same men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All women only go after guys who check three boxes: at least 6 feet tall, make six figures, and have six-pack abs. But when you break that down, not many guys actually meet all those standards

I… just don’t get this take, especially the words “all” and “only.” When I look around, I see many, many men who don’t fit this description who are happily married. Before I was married, my friends and I were looking for kind and compatible, some sort of physical spark, and someone who had or was on their way to a career of some type (and I don’t mean doctor/lawyer/finance, I mean any type of self-sustaining career).

My husband now fits the 6 figures criterion, but we certainly didn’t expect that when we were younger. (He went back to school and switched careers from social work to software development.) 6 feet and a 6 pack were never in the cards. (To me, 6 pack often indicates “vain gym rat” as being strong and healthy does not require this.)

When people say this, they actually talking about stereotypically hot women? The type of women that these men consider to be high-value, and who attach a lot of importance to appearance?

Because if what you’re actually saying is “hot people who highly primarily value looks and money want other hot people who primarily value looks and money,” well, duh. But that’s very, very different than “all” women, and would go both ways with women and men.

I don’t know. I think you’re wrong. I have literally never seen a man under six feet tall or without six pack abs with a child or a wife.

You need to get out more. Seriously. How can this be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course it is incel garbage.

The hottest women have the largest choice of men, as the hottest men have largest choice of women.

That doesn’t therefore mean that all women only want the hottest men. Go to any Walmart and look around you and you will see all sorts of objectively unattractive people paired up.

Incels just don’t want to acknowledge that something about them (appearance, personality, behavior) makes them unattractive to the women they want to date, so therefore they blame the women.

You cannot always get what you want. They paired up with unattractive people because that’s the best they could get. Ask them what their first choice was and you’ll learn that it’s not what they ended up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course it is incel garbage.

The hottest women have the largest choice of men, as the hottest men have largest choice of women.

That doesn’t therefore mean that all women only want the hottest men. Go to any Walmart and look around you and you will see all sorts of objectively unattractive people paired up.

Incels just don’t want to acknowledge that something about them (appearance, personality, behavior) makes them unattractive to the women they want to date, so therefore they blame the women.

You cannot always get what you want. They paired up with unattractive people because that’s the best they could get. Ask them what their first choice was and you’ll learn that it’s not what they ended up with.

You might be surprised to learn that people can be very happy with their marriages even if they are and their partners don’t walk the runway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The men I hear stay that are the ones who complain that women don't like "nice" guys. The problem with being a "nice" guy is that you are too agreeable and that's a turn off for a lot women.

Uh no. Women like nice guys. Men who call themselves "nice guys" are men who think you put one "nice" in and one "sex" pops out. And if it doesnt, they get very very non-nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All women only go after guys who check three boxes: at least 6 feet tall, make six figures, and have six-pack abs. But when you break that down, not many guys actually meet all those standards

I… just don’t get this take, especially the words “all” and “only.” When I look around, I see many, many men who don’t fit this description who are happily married. Before I was married, my friends and I were looking for kind and compatible, some sort of physical spark, and someone who had or was on their way to a career of some type (and I don’t mean doctor/lawyer/finance, I mean any type of self-sustaining career).

My husband now fits the 6 figures criterion, but we certainly didn’t expect that when we were younger. (He went back to school and switched careers from social work to software development.) 6 feet and a 6 pack were never in the cards. (To me, 6 pack often indicates “vain gym rat” as being strong and healthy does not require this.)

When people say this, they actually talking about stereotypically hot women? The type of women that these men consider to be high-value, and who attach a lot of importance to appearance?

Because if what you’re actually saying is “hot people who highly primarily value looks and money want other hot people who primarily value looks and money,” well, duh. But that’s very, very different than “all” women, and would go both ways with women and men.

I don’t know. I think you’re wrong. I have literally never seen a man under six feet tall or without six pack abs with a child or a wife.

You need to get out more. Seriously. How can this be?

Yeah what? I dont think I know even one dad with 6 pack abs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All women only go after guys who check three boxes: at least 6 feet tall, make six figures, and have six-pack abs. But when you break that down, not many guys actually meet all those standards.

Only about 14% of men in the U.S. are over 6 feet tall. Around 25% make $100k or more. If you combine just those two, you’re already down to roughly 3.5% of men. Add in the six-pack requirement, and you’re probably looking at 1% or less.

So, every woman is chasing that 1%.

On the flip side, guys tend to have simpler preferences. They mostly want someone who’s attractive. There are a lot of beautiful women out there at any height and income range.

This is redpill incel talk.

If this were true, you'd see only married men that are 6/6/6, which is far from true. Stop parroting what the tate grifters are selling you.

OP, I say the premise is false. Not all women are into the same thing. I'm sure there are large swaths of men that NO women are into (like this incel), but I'd say the rest of women are into different things and want their men to reflect those different preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The men I hear stay that are the ones who complain that women don't like "nice" guys. The problem with being a "nice" guy is that you are too agreeable and that's a turn off for a lot women.

Uh no. Women like nice guys. Men who call themselves "nice guys" are men who think you put one "nice" in and one "sex" pops out. And if it doesnt, they get very very non-nice.

If by "nice" you mean agreeable, doesn't like to argue, do as he is told, doesn't voice his preferences/disagreements then the answer is No. Women do not like these men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t know. I think you’re wrong. I have literally never seen a man under six feet tall or without six pack abs with a child or a wife.

Head to the nearest beach or amusement park. You will see plenty.

I’m at our community pool right now. Not one dad here under six feet tall or without six pack abs.
The under six-footers are all at home playing Fallout 4.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The men I hear stay that are the ones who complain that women don't like "nice" guys. The problem with being a "nice" guy is that you are too agreeable and that's a turn off for a lot women.

Uh no. Women like nice guys. Men who call themselves "nice guys" are men who think you put one "nice" in and one "sex" pops out. And if it doesnt, they get very very non-nice.

If by "nice" you mean agreeable, doesn't like to argue, do as he is told, doesn't voice his preferences/disagreements then the answer is No. Women do not like these men.

Nice women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All women only go after guys who check three boxes: at least 6 feet tall, make six figures, and have six-pack abs. But when you break that down, not many guys actually meet all those standards

I… just don’t get this take, especially the words “all” and “only.” When I look around, I see many, many men who don’t fit this description who are happily married. Before I was married, my friends and I were looking for kind and compatible, some sort of physical spark, and someone who had or was on their way to a career of some type (and I don’t mean doctor/lawyer/finance, I mean any type of self-sustaining career).

My husband now fits the 6 figures criterion, but we certainly didn’t expect that when we were younger. (He went back to school and switched careers from social work to software development.) 6 feet and a 6 pack were never in the cards. (To me, 6 pack often indicates “vain gym rat” as being strong and healthy does not require this.)

When people say this, they actually talking about stereotypically hot women? The type of women that these men consider to be high-value, and who attach a lot of importance to appearance?

Because if what you’re actually saying is “hot people who highly primarily value looks and money want other hot people who primarily value looks and money,” well, duh. But that’s very, very different than “all” women, and would go both ways with women and men.

Exactly. I'm not sure when or where this phrase caught on, but it's just factually false. If you have eyes, you can look around and see that it's not the case.

These men who can't get laid would rather blame women for only wanting the 6/6/6 than acknowledge they have the personality of a piece of bread, the warmth of a rock and the attitude of a misogynistic troll. It's easier to blame the woman than improve yourself. They also hate women that don't fit their standards - too fat, too flat, too tall, too outspoken, too opinionated, too feminist, too liberal, too many tattoos, too many piercings, too career oriented, etc etc etc. Basically they just hate women if they can't control them and manipulate them into a sex doll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The men I hear stay that are the ones who complain that women don't like "nice" guys. The problem with being a "nice" guy is that you are too agreeable and that's a turn off for a lot women.

Uh no. Women like nice guys. Men who call themselves "nice guys" are men who think you put one "nice" in and one "sex" pops out. And if it doesnt, they get very very non-nice.

If by "nice" you mean agreeable, doesn't like to argue, do as he is told, doesn't voice his preferences/disagreements then the answer is No. Women do not like these men.

Those arent "nice guys".

"(Internet slang, sarcastic, derogatory) A man who pretends to be kind and polite with the goal of attracting women, often becoming hostile and misogynistic when their advances are rebuffed; someone affected by nice guy syndrome. "

[Anonymous]

A lot of stupid people spouting a lot of stupid nonsense on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The men I hear stay that are the ones who complain that women don't like "nice" guys. The problem with being a "nice" guy is that you are too agreeable and that's a turn off for a lot women.

Uh no. Women like nice guys. Men who call themselves "nice guys" are men who think you put one "nice" in and one "sex" pops out. And if it doesnt, they get very very non-nice.

If by "nice" you mean agreeable, doesn't like to argue, do as he is told, doesn't voice his preferences/disagreements then the answer is No. Women do not like these men.

Why would I want a man who likes to argue and doesn't do anything if I ask? Are you trying to mansplain womens attraction to actual women?

My husband is quite agreeable (but not a Nice Guy(TM) ) as am I. We are both pretty chill, go with the flow, live and let live. We have a very low conflict relationship that works for us. I would not want a domineering man who thinks he can control me through arguments and petty sh*t just because he's a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All women only go after guys who check three boxes: at least 6 feet tall, make six figures, and have six-pack abs. But when you break that down, not many guys actually meet all those standards.

Only about 14% of men in the U.S. are over 6 feet tall. Around 25% make $100k or more. If you combine just those two, you’re already down to roughly 3.5% of men. Add in the six-pack requirement, and you’re probably looking at 1% or less.

So, every woman is chasing that 1%.

On the flip side, guys tend to have simpler preferences. They mostly want someone who’s attractive. There are a lot of beautiful women out there at any height and income range.

Maybe women just want men who are better at math than you?

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I'm 5'5"

I have a whole range of acceptable heights that still make me feel that they are taller than me. And in some cases, their height doesn't matter.

That’s you. You are part of a small minority. Most women won’t consider dating men who are under 6’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All women only go after guys who check three boxes: at least 6 feet tall, make six figures, and have six-pack abs. But when you break that down, not many guys actually meet all those standards.

Only about 14% of men in the U.S. are over 6 feet tall. Around 25% make $100k or more. If you combine just those two, you’re already down to roughly 3.5% of men. Add in the six-pack requirement, and you’re probably looking at 1% or less.

So, every woman is chasing that 1%.

On the flip side, guys tend to have simpler preferences. They mostly want someone who’s attractive. There are a lot of beautiful women out there at any height and income range.

Maybe women just want men who are better at math than you?

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I'm 5'5"

I have a whole range of acceptable heights that still make me feel that they are taller than me. And in some cases, their height doesn't matter.

That’s you. You are part of a small minority. Most women won’t consider dating men who are under 6’

This is hardly “all women.” It’s Bumble users. I’d be interested to see how they compare to women as a whole, online dating app users as a whole, and Millenial/Gen Z women a whole.