Why do people marry unattractive people?

[Anonymous]

You won't be able to manipulate someone into marrying you, OP. Sooner or later, even "pretty" goes away, if you had it to begin with (which I'm assuming you don't). A beautiful heart and mind long outlast an "attractive" body. Smarter people marry for more than looks. Anyone who does will likely cheat for looks too.

So don't worry about spending an hour a day working out (dafuhhh?). Get a hobby and a life of your own that someone might reasonably want to share, and you should do fine.

[Anonymous]

My DH had very bad cystic acne, was scrawny, wore glasses and had really unkempt hair while we dated.

After we married, he went on Accutane, got contacts, put on a little weight and found a great hairstylist.

Looks are transient.

I was always attracted by his wit, intellect, tenacity, kindness, political outlook and ambition.

Remains true 40 years later.

[Anonymous]

Just because you don’t find the person attractive doesn’t mean they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Connection is connection. It doesn't happen that often in life. So that's valuable regardless of anything.

But generally, it seems to be women that settle and not vice versa. My personal opinion is that most people are fairly attractive when they are fit and work out. So it's more of a why are you settling for a lazy-ass, slothful, parasitical fat ass when there's so much better out there? A good conversation only goes so far. You still need to sleep with them to make it work. And if you can't take an hour a day to work out, well...

But there's a lid for every pot.

So people who don't match your personal opinion of fairly attractive are "lazy-ass, slothful, parasitical fat asses"? Because it's everyone job to be attractive to... you.

Clearly you're this ugly because no one will sleep with you, which just makes you act uglier, which makes you less likely to get laid... the incel spiral, amirite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy and have completely different preference than my guy friends. They like the thin blond yoga type. I prefer a woman with small “pooch” and slightly saggy boobs. They like laid back and casual, I like high maintenance/snotty.

Everyone likes something different.

High maintenance and snotty are not pooch and saggy

Guess you have never met my wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a guy and have completely different preference than my guy friends. They like the thin blond yoga type. I prefer a woman with small “pooch” and slightly saggy boobs. They like laid back and casual, I like high maintenance/snotty.

Everyone likes something different.

My saggy boobed, small pooched body appreciates you!

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Likewise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s probably a lot you don’t get.

+2

[Anonymous]

It’s called compatibility and a person on the inside can be more attractive as you know them like smarts and humor and compassion - are you really that shallow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Me either. I've seen so many thin, somewhat fit men with seriously obese wives.

Probably those wives were thin and pretty before they had to carry, birth and raise his kids and juggle stress of work and house and parenting for sake of the family. May be there is no time, stamina and money left to join gym and go to spa.

[Anonymous]

These responses are 🔥

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Are you still single or were you dumped?

I see why ……

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Me either. I've seen so many thin, somewhat fit men with seriously obese wives.

To me, obese old men with younger hot wives seems to be more common. Men tend to buy sex and affection more often than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 attractive people who married what most would consider to be unattractive people. 1 prefers bigger women so that was a plus to him, and she's one of the funniest and kindest people I know so that helps. The other has a great personality and is just one of those happy people.

Both their marriages are quite happy.

They are very lucky they found compatible spouses. Good for them for not judging by looks.

[Anonymous]

Everyone likes different things OP. I like stocky guys and fortunately my dh likes larger women.

[Anonymous]

People marry for many reasons but generally they stay in their own lane.