Do you let your high schoolers enjoy wine with dinner at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We aren’t alcoholics that drink every day.

Oh, this is so tiresome. If someone has dessert every day, do you say they have a "dessert problem" or are a "chocoholic?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess this depends on your commitment to sit down for a family meal regularly. If you’re relying on Uber Eats or DoorDash to feed your family you can just move along from here.

We pair a bottle of wine with our family dinners. Allowing our teens to enjoy wine with their meal serves to demystify alcohol. It has served us and them well.

No. It's illegal to serve alcoholic beverages to anyone under ,age 21, even at home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess this depends on your commitment to sit down for a family meal regularly. If you’re relying on Uber Eats or DoorDash to feed your family you can just move along from here.

We pair a bottle of wine with our family dinners. Allowing our teens to enjoy wine with their meal serves to demystify alcohol. It has served us and them well.

No. It's illegal to serve alcoholic beverages to anyone under ,age 21, even at home

Varies by state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We aren’t alcoholics that drink every day.

Oh, this is so tiresome. If someone has dessert every day, do you say they have a "dessert problem" or are a "chocoholic?"

NP. Yeeeaahh, that’s the same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We're French, and had our kids taste wine and other alcohols when they pretty young, because in many French families, this is what happens. They didn't like it. So now they're young adults and older teens, we drink extremely rarely (a couple of times a year, maybe), and the children don't usually join us, even though we'd have no problems if they did. I think we all lack the gene that makes humans like alcohol. It does nothing for us. We would definitely NOT be fine with frequent drinking. As PP said, it's not good for your health.

France has a huge problem with binge drinking and teenagers. Definitely not a culture to emulate. Europeans in general are lushes — ever see the Brits? And like 3/4 of Russians show signs of fetal alcohol syndrome in their faces.

Ya this. I'm married to a European person and you should see how drunk people get at weddings -- it's honestly deeply disturbing, like they can't see straight and stand up on their own. And everyone has an uncle who was an alcoholic just, like, disappeared one day (likely they literally just died somewhere in their own).

It's not something to emulate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't usually drink with dinners, but we have let our now 18 year old have wine with us at special meals when we do.

Bravo. You’ll find your child will be more responsible with alcohol than the children of holy rollers here.

It's like you started this thread to try to feel superior to others except I haven't read anything that implies people are holy rollers. Nice try, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're French, and had our kids taste wine and other alcohols when they pretty young, because in many French families, this is what happens. They didn't like it. So now they're young adults and older teens, we drink extremely rarely (a couple of times a year, maybe), and the children don't usually join us, even though we'd have no problems if they did. I think we all lack the gene that makes humans like alcohol. It does nothing for us. We would definitely NOT be fine with frequent drinking. As PP said, it's not good for your health.

France has a huge problem with binge drinking and teenagers. Definitely not a culture to emulate. Europeans in general are lushes — ever see the Brits? And like 3/4 of Russians show signs of fetal alcohol syndrome in their faces.

Did you even read the post you are responding to or did you stop at "We're French"?

[Anonymous]

I lost the plot on the uber eats thing? What does that have to do with giving kids wine?

[Anonymous]

No, but my college aged kids drink alcohol with meals on weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're French, and had our kids taste wine and other alcohols when they pretty young, because in many French families, this is what happens. They didn't like it. So now they're young adults and older teens, we drink extremely rarely (a couple of times a year, maybe), and the children don't usually join us, even though we'd have no problems if they did. I think we all lack the gene that makes humans like alcohol. It does nothing for us. We would definitely NOT be fine with frequent drinking. As PP said, it's not good for your health.

Italian and same. Never seen any member of my family drunk.

[Anonymous]

I offered my college aged daughter a glass of wine last night with dinner and she gave me such a dirty look. She's not a drinker (I don't drink much myself), but said wine would be her last drink of choice. It's for old people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost the plot on the uber eats thing? What does that have to do with giving kids wine?

Op pairs wine carefully with their home cooked meals.

I’m not a big drinker. Dh drinks a bourbon once a week or so. We don’t eat out a lot, but I don’t judge other people who do, it’s just what we prefer and fits in our budget better.

We haven’t given our teens alcohol yet. Dh is very much against it. I’m not sure it ultimately has an affect on their future intake. Like others have said, siblings in the same family have turned out differently despite the same exposure to alcohol. Therefore I don’t see any reason to give them much while their brain is developing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess this depends on your commitment to sit down for a family meal regularly. If you’re relying on Uber Eats or DoorDash to feed your family you can just move along from here.

We pair a bottle of wine with our family dinners. Allowing our teens to enjoy wine with their meal serves to demystify alcohol. It has served us and them well.

No. It's illegal to serve alcoholic beverages to anyone under ,age 21, even at home

not true

[Anonymous]

No. Everyone I know who started drinking at a young age is now an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess this depends on your commitment to sit down for a family meal regularly. If you’re relying on Uber Eats or DoorDash to feed your family you can just move along from here.

We pair a bottle of wine with our family dinners. Allowing our teens to enjoy wine with their meal serves to demystify alcohol. It has served us and them well.

No. It's illegal to serve alcoholic beverages to anyone under ,age 21, even at home

Varies by state.

Its allowed in Virginia.