How many of you know a cheater/someone currently cheating?

[Anonymous]

I currently know of 3 women in their 40s that are cheating. The funny part is none of them consider it cheating.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 friends whose husbands were fired after having affairs with women at work. I am not privy to the details, but both couples divorced after. Pretty awful.

[Anonymous]

I don’t believe a single statistic on cheating. It could be far more or far less than we know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married to one. Male. 60. Didn't hide it well.

Ew. Who'd want to be with a 60 yr old if they're not married to them? They're so old and wrinkly.

I got something swinging here that's over 60 and I bet you can get the wrinkles out of it just fine.

[Anonymous]

My wife was cheating with her trainer. Early 50s. Found out and she will soon be out of my life. And here’s the thing: you’d never expect it from her. She must’ve rationalized it. What you isn’t what you get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was cheating with her trainer. Early 50s. Found out and she will soon be out of my life. And here’s the thing: you’d never expect it from her. She must’ve rationalized it. What you isn’t what you get.

It's usually a person very close to them. It was my husband's work officemate, who was married with little kids- we went to her damn wedding. There are just some weak people out there who commit crimes of opportunity because they are so flawed and lack morals.

[Anonymous]

We all do and it is way closer to 60%. It doesn’t make it any easier being the faithful husband being part of the majority that is impacted by betrayal. As soon as you start sharing your story, you realize how widespread immorality has become.

The fact that the relationship and spouse that you invested everything in and valued so much, can be had for nothing but unsolicited interest breaks you. You realize that the world and God are working against you, personally. Then they decide the marriage is what they want, but only lies and deceit remain where possibility once lived. Your life is over, this is what you deserve because you are worthless and unlovable and your spouse is disgusting and cowardly. You want revenge, you lose interest in people and many days you just want to die, but love for your kids keeps you from any satisfaction.

If I had the chance to erase it all, I wouldn’t hesitate for a minute.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly how I feel. I loved her but the betrayal makes me want to die. I was used and disrespected for 20 years. I gave her everything I could give and I get this in return. She is duplicitous and immoral and you’d never, never think she’d cheat, not the way she moralizes. Appearance is all to her. I fell for it too. She volunteers, donates to the right causes, organizes the fundraisers: if you met her, you’d think she is thoroughly decent and honorable. But no: she has a secret life, a side to her that no one but I see. And she secretly takes pills too. I look in her eyes — they will not meet mine — and I see the inner turmoil and rage that she tries so hard to hide. And the trainer? Bankruptcies, legal problems, follows porn stars and gambling accounts on Twitter. I threw it all away . . .

Anonymous wrote:We all do and it is way closer to 60%. It doesn’t make it any easier being the faithful husband being part of the majority that is impacted by betrayal. As soon as you start sharing your story, you realize how widespread immorality has become.

The fact that the relationship and spouse that you invested everything in and valued so much, can be had for nothing but unsolicited interest breaks you. You realize that the world and God are working against you, personally. Then they decide the marriage is what they want, but only lies and deceit remain where possibility once lived. Your life is over, this is what you deserve because you are worthless and unlovable and your spouse is disgusting and cowardly. You want revenge, you lose interest in people and many days you just want to die, but love for your kids keeps you from any satisfaction.

If I had the chance to erase it all, I wouldn’t hesitate for a minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 friends whose husbands were fired after having affairs with women at work. I am not privy to the details, but both couples divorced after. Pretty awful.

I’m sorry that’s awful. Although I do wish you knew details because my sister is going through this right now (she is the betrayed) and I’m wondering how at risk her husband is putting the family finances because of his workplace affair. I kind of thought no one gets fired for this anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a commercial gym and have done for years. I've seen WAY more than enough examples. I've seen a fitness influencer come in for a couple of months and sleep with over ten different regulars, some of whom were not single. I've seen the same few guys pretty much dominate the "low key" casual sex scene. I've simply seen it all. From many different kinds of women. I've seen lawyers in their 40's behave like girls in their early twenties when it comes to being messed around by an absolute loser who happens to have tattoos and a beard and does gear. I've seen the nicest most unassuming girl I've ever known cheat almost without hesitation. I've known of married men and women regularly sleeping around and messaging each other. It's happening. People, and I mean totally normal regular nice people, are cheating and sleeping around way more than you think. WAY more than you think.

I read this is the best place to find an AP is a commercial gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married to one. Male. 60. Didn't hide it well.

Ew. Who'd want to be with a 60 yr old if they're not married to them? They're so old and wrinkly.

And rich.

But why does it matter if he's rich if he's already married? Young girls date old guys because they think it's their ticket to a life of luxury without having to work. Old married guys have nothing to offer outside of a purely transactional relationship on a pay-per-date basis.

[Anonymous]

I know a few men who went a little too far (imo) at a strip club recently, but idk their relationships to say if it qualifies as cheating.

I’m glad not to know anyone else personally who is. I have pretty strong convictions on that so I’d probably not be able to keep my mouth shut 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a woman currently cheating. My wife told me. Someone else told my wife. Supposedly she was caught kissing and holding hands with another man in another state during a work trip

She could have her spouse’s permission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 friends whose husbands were fired after having affairs with women at work. I am not privy to the details, but both couples divorced after. Pretty awful.

I’m sorry that’s awful. Although I do wish you knew details because my sister is going through this right now (she is the betrayed) and I’m wondering how at risk her husband is putting the family finances because of his workplace affair. I kind of thought no one gets fired for this anymore.

Oh it happens. Friends husband put his AP on the board of the company he was ceo of. She left the board disgraced and he was fired flat out.

[Anonymous]

Married to one. 42. He hid it well.