I hate how fraternities brag that they are so great when they reject most students

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Anonymous wrote:Yet DCUM measures the quality of schools by their low acceptance rates. Maybe fraternities are just engaged in yield protection.

Lol great comment.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never advise anyone to rush unless they already had an in at one of the houses.

What should a high school senior do to get an “in” and work on getting into a top house?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rush is great preparation for the real world. Not everyone is going to like you, you may not be a good fit or your skills/likeness fit in with the culture and you are exactly what is needed. Go where you are wanted. Most kids these days seem to have a very different view of themselves versus what everyone else sees. Kids from the DC area seem to think they are “better” than kids from other areas and rush may actually be a good wake up call

Don't lie to yourself. You know full well that fraternities and sororities place great weight on a certain look and manner - you need to be handsome in a certain way, presentable in a certain way, and talk in a certain way. And white American for a lot of the frats and sororities. A whole lot of diverse populations who might do very well in the real world get left out of that. The real world is actually much wider and more tolerant than you think it is, with careers to suit a great many intellects and social profiles.

My husband is an Asian MD/PhD on the spectrum - he doesn't do small talk, he doesn't present particularly well, he wouldn't check any of the standard boxes. He would never have had a chance in a Greek life system. How can you be so stupid to believe that rushing is a great preparation for the real world? And yet he's done exceptionally well for himself in the real world, because older people looking for real professional talent aren't as shallow as most young idiots in frats and sororities.

What a moron you are.

I’m not going to resort to name calling but please face reality. Your husband would not be hired for a public facing job because he likely lacks the skills needed. Greek life is essentially a social club. You need to be presentable and have social skills. There are clubs and jobs for everyone. People should know where they would do best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rush is great preparation for the real world. Not everyone is going to like you, you may not be a good fit or your skills/likeness fit in with the culture and you are exactly what is needed. Go where you are wanted. Most kids these days seem to have a very different view of themselves versus what everyone else sees. Kids from the DC area seem to think they are “better” than kids from other areas and rush may actually be a good wake up call

Don't lie to yourself. You know full well that fraternities and sororities place great weight on a certain look and manner - you need to be handsome in a certain way, presentable in a certain way, and talk in a certain way. And white American for a lot of the frats and sororities. A whole lot of diverse populations who might do very well in the real world get left out of that. The real world is actually much wider and more tolerant than you think it is, with careers to suit a great many intellects and social profiles.

My husband is an Asian MD/PhD on the spectrum - he doesn't do small talk, he doesn't present particularly well, he wouldn't check any of the standard boxes. He would never have had a chance in a Greek life system. How can you be so stupid to believe that rushing is a great preparation for the real world? And yet he's done exceptionally well for himself in the real world, because older people looking for real professional talent aren't as shallow as most young idiots in frats and sororities.

What a moron you are.

DP. Would he even want to be in a fraternity? I am similar and would have actively hated it.

The biggest misconception is that you somehow need to join a frat to be successful. Or have a social life. Or for any reason other than you want to pay some people to be friends. What a ripoff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never advise anyone to rush unless they already had an in at one of the houses.

What should a high school senior do to get an “in” and work on getting into a top house?

They don’t need to be in a “top
House”! They need to be in a house where they gel with the other guys and feel comfortable. Trust me, you don’t want your kid in a top house. If by chance you do, the only thing they can do is dirty rush while on campus. Most of those chapters only take people they’ve gotten to know or went to a particular private high school where they will know some of the brothers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fraternities like to brag about how they are a great way to make friends and connections when most people will never end up in a single chapter. They are exclusionary. Like at UVA, half of the guys rushing never end up a bid anywhere, which is especially painful when UVA itself is extremely hard to get in. It is sick because rush isn't a meritocracy like sport tryouts are. There is no clear criteria of what makes someone a better candidate for a fraternity over another student. It is a process full of nepotism, and those who get in receive all the benefits on a college campus. And no one cares about making the process more fair.

And what makes me even more sick is that this forum is filled with former fraternity and sorority members who wants to bully and attack those who got rejected. So many people hate greek life for being elitist and bullies, and many members are proving those concerns right.

None of this is contradictory.

They are a great way to make connections if you get in. Most don't get in.

OP, this is like money -- money is a great way to buy things, if you have a lot of it. Most don't. That doesn't mean money isn't great for buying things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many clubs at college are exclusive and hard to join too, some even more so than social Greek life. The just “sign up” clubs often fall apart. Finding a group doesn’t seem as easy as it used to be.

I think that is definitely the trend. I went to a small school without a Greek scene, but most of the clubs had some sort of competitive process to get in, and it's only become more that way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rush is great preparation for the real world. Not everyone is going to like you, you may not be a good fit or your skills/likeness fit in with the culture and you are exactly what is needed. Go where you are wanted. Most kids these days seem to have a very different view of themselves versus what everyone else sees. Kids from the DC area seem to think they are “better” than kids from other areas and rush may actually be a good wake up call

Don't lie to yourself. You know full well that fraternities and sororities place great weight on a certain look and manner - you need to be handsome in a certain way, presentable in a certain way, and talk in a certain way. And white American for a lot of the frats and sororities. A whole lot of diverse populations who might do very well in the real world get left out of that. The real world is actually much wider and more tolerant than you think it is, with careers to suit a great many intellects and social profiles.

My husband is an Asian MD/PhD on the spectrum - he doesn't do small talk, he doesn't present particularly well, he wouldn't check any of the standard boxes. He would never have had a chance in a Greek life system. How can you be so stupid to believe that rushing is a great preparation for the real world? And yet he's done exceptionally well for himself in the real world, because older people looking for real professional talent aren't as shallow as most young idiots in frats and sororities.

What a moron you are.

I’m not going to resort to name calling but please face reality. Your husband would not be hired for a public facing job because he likely lacks the skills needed. Greek life is essentially a social club. You need to be presentable and have social skills. There are clubs and jobs for everyone. People should know where they would do best.

Not everyone wants to be a salesman

[Anonymous]

When I was in college, I had a friend who was plied with alcohol until she passed out and then sexually assaulted by three fraternity brothers. She could never come forward because she would have been ostracized at her sorority. Does that still happen? On the off chance that it does, I told DS that he will never, over my dead body join a frat.

[Anonymous]

You do realize this could happen at any party. Just stop it on the frats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do realize this could happen at any party. Just stop it on the frats

pp here- agreed it could have happened at any party. What may not have happened however, was the "systemic code of silence or face retaliation" that followed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fraternities like to brag about how they are a great way to make friends and connections when most people will never end up in a single chapter. They are exclusionary. Like at UVA, half of the guys rushing never end up a bid anywhere, which is especially painful when UVA itself is extremely hard to get in. It is sick because rush isn't a meritocracy like sport tryouts are. There is no clear criteria of what makes someone a better candidate for a fraternity over another student. It is a process full of nepotism, and those who get in receive all the benefits on a college campus. And no one cares about making the process more fair.

And what makes me even more sick is that this forum is filled with former fraternity and sorority members who wants to bully and attack those who got rejected. So many people hate greek life for being elitist and bullies, and many members are proving those concerns right.

It's just like coplege admissions.

[Anonymous]

I was in a Frat at UVA and wife was at a Sorority. We will NEVER tell our DS to join a Fraternity.

We know that 80% of Frat kids and 70% of Sorority girls are losers in life. Either a bunch of followers with no spine, or so introverted that you need to pay for friends, or so worry about status that this becomes 50% of your life. Complete joke.

It is 2025. There is no need for Greek system to exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do realize this could happen at any party. Just stop it on the frats

pp here- agreed it could have happened at any party. What may not have happened however, was the "systemic code of silence or face retaliation" that followed.

baloney

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a Frat at UVA and wife was at a Sorority. We will NEVER tell our DS to join a Fraternity.

We know that 80% of Frat kids and 70% of Sorority girls are losers in life. Either a bunch of followers with no spine, or so introverted that you need to pay for friends, or so worry about status that this becomes 50% of your life. Complete joke.

It is 2025. There is no need for Greek system to exist.

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