Husband said he wants a divorce and has been locked up in the guest room

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised by all the strong responses. My wife directly or indirectly tells me this all the time -- I guess the next step is clearer than I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d leave and stay at a friends for a week.

I’d consult a lawyer.

Before I left the house, I would definitely consult an attorney because you don't wanna be seen as abandoning the marriage. I don't know. Consult an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. Why is this a question?

Yeah, you must be in some kind of serious denial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On Sunday he yelled at me saying "this isn't working" and has since been hiding out in the guest room. He locks the door and when he is in the kitchen he ignores me and avoids eye contact. He also walks around with a scowl on his face.

I am getting worried. Should I consult an attorney?

Ask him to sit down for coffee so you two can discuss state of this marriage and how to fix , suspend or end it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know your DH. Is he the type to get moody/angry enough to pull something like this and odds are he doesn't mean it and your relationship is otherwise ok?

I mean, if my DH did this, I'd already have an appt with an aggressive family law attorney set up.

OP here. He does this whenever we are in a big argument.

There. You've your answer. You two need therapy, not divorce.

[Anonymous]

No, don't ask. Just tell him to move out, offer 50-50 on everything and part ways. Wish him the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are so lucky that you can expect child support when you consider divorce. I’d have to pay my awful husband so much money if I were to get divorced. I know, it’s sad when a dream gets shattered, but at least they’ll pay you money and it’s not all on you.

If you make more money, yes you pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d leave and stay at a friends for a week.

I’d consult a lawyer.

Please don’t. My concern is that if you have kids, it looks bad if you leave the family home. If you don’t have kids, I’d encourage you to stay in your home or it looks like one of two things : you are fleeing abuse, or you are at fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are so lucky that you can expect child support when you consider divorce. I’d have to pay my awful husband so much money if I were to get divorced. I know, it’s sad when a dream gets shattered, but at least they’ll pay you money and it’s not all on you.

Does Op even have a kid? Unclear.

[Anonymous]

Let dude stay in the guest room and be uncomfortable- it’s your house too and you’ve done nothing wrong.
I’m sorry you are going through this. I was blindsided like this. But he holed up in the basement instead of guest room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are so lucky that you can expect child support when you consider divorce. I’d have to pay my awful husband so much money if I were to get divorced. I know, it’s sad when a dream gets shattered, but at least they’ll pay you money and it’s not all on you.

If you make more money, yes you pay.[/quote


As I said, lucky their DH‘s have decent jobs and incomes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should say “ok, great. Should we get a mediator to work through how to split things up?”

+1 that is what I did. (I am the one who divorced an attorney)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are so lucky that you can expect child support when you consider divorce. I’d have to pay my awful husband so much money if I were to get divorced. I know, it’s sad when a dream gets shattered, but at least they’ll pay you money and it’s not all on you.

I agree. I am divorced. I don’t get child support. Near equal earners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know your DH. Is he the type to get moody/angry enough to pull something like this and odds are he doesn't mean it and your relationship is otherwise ok?

I mean, if my DH did this, I'd already have an appt with an aggressive family law attorney set up.

OP here. He does this whenever we are in a big argument.

You never had an argument with him before marrying?

[Anonymous]

Do you want to divorce him?