Teenage boys—age for crushes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you are living under rocks. The innocent crushes started in my son’s class in grade 3, which coincided with cotillion. “Crush” crushes started around 6th grade, with “girlfriends.” For those saying “my 15 year old and his friends are only interested in sports,” you’re probably missing something.

They are living under a rock. Theses moms have zero communication with their boys. The boys just say I am not interested, the mom smiles and doesn’t bother them. Most use their phones for everything, even in high school. Why bother telling mom anything.

It also makes lazy, anti-social boys who get off on porn, nudes, and playing the field via snap, rather than true connections and socializing. And then they go off to college, get wasted and have no idea what SA’ing even is but do it weekly and claim they were under the influence.

My daughter went to a 65% male engineering college and the stories are horrifying and sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s around puberty. I agree that the boys do not really talk about their crushes. The most I’ve heard is them talking about another guy getting rejected in an embossing way which is like top news for the MS group. The girls talk about this stuff and strategize around it. The boys don’t really.

Mine had his first girlfriend in 8th grade and now has a pretty serious girlfriend in 9th.

Ugh #boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most middle school boys have crushes but they are not obsessive about it like girls are. They don’t call each other to talk about “signs” all day long. It’s just a girl they have a crush on and typically dont plan to do anything about. Meanwhile, girls obsess waiting for them to make a move.

#boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine son is 13, rising 8th grader. Currently zero interest in anyone romantically. He's overwhelmed by all the constant talk about labels, sex, gender, etc. and says he just "wants to wait".

#boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine son is 13, rising 8th grader. Currently zero interest in anyone romantically. He's overwhelmed by all the constant talk about labels, sex, gender, etc. and says he just "wants to wait".

Correction:

#homophobic boymom

[Anonymous]

Who keeps labeling all these responses #boymom?? I, too, would say my 14 year old son does not have any interest in girls. He also has zero physical signs of puberty that I can see (no armpit hair, facial hair, voice change, growth spurt). He could be interested in girls and not telling me. He could be interested in boys and not telling me. Or he could just not be there yet. I do know some kids have crushes at a very young age, but for some, that does not happen until after puberty. And I am not a "#boymom." I have two kids, a boy and a girl. I know my soon-to-be 13 year old daughter has crushes because she will talk about it with friends within my earshot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s around puberty. I agree that the boys do not really talk about their crushes. The most I’ve heard is them talking about another guy getting rejected in an embossing way which is like top news for the MS group. The girls talk about this stuff and strategize around it. The boys don’t really.

Mine had his first girlfriend in 8th grade and now has a pretty serious girlfriend in 9th.

Ugh #boymom

DP - and a girl's mom. girls talk about boys 99% of the time. maybe 90% if they have very intense interests. boys don't talk about girls so much. it's just a fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahh that #boymom responses never disappoint LOL

+1

I always get a good chuckle at moms of teen boys who think their kids are so innocent while most are looking at trashy porn on the daily or not on discord saying the most immature and disgusting vulgar things.

Tell me you don’t have a son without telling me you don’t have a son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahh that #boymom responses never disappoint LOL

+1

I always get a good chuckle at moms of teen boys who think their kids are so innocent while most are looking at trashy porn on the daily or not on discord saying the most immature and disgusting vulgar things.

Tell me you don’t have a son without telling me you don’t have a son.

boys looking at porn still does not mean that they are obsessing about a particular girl. it's not in the same category as 'crushes'.

[Anonymous]

My son was so shy he was visibly shaken if a girl from school said "hi" to him in Starbucks when he was 12/13. By the end of 9th grade he had a girlfriend and he had another later in HS (both lasted about a year). He dated in college and has been with his current GF for about 2 years (both in grad school).

The idea that all boys are filthy porn addicts and/or future sexual assault perpetrators is really getting tired. If either of my kids watched porn as a teen, it was definitely DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was so shy he was visibly shaken if a girl from school said "hi" to him in Starbucks when he was 12/13. By the end of 9th grade he had a girlfriend and he had another later in HS (both lasted about a year). He dated in college and has been with his current GF for about 2 years (both in grad school).

The idea that all boys are filthy porn addicts and/or future sexual assault perpetrators is really getting tired. If either of my kids watched porn as a teen, it was definitely DD.

+1000 so true. Someone on this board hates boys and I'm sorry that they feel that way, but my DS is awesome and they would beg him to date their DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s around puberty. I agree that the boys do not really talk about their crushes. The most I’ve heard is them talking about another guy getting rejected in an embossing way which is like top news for the MS group. The girls talk about this stuff and strategize around it. The boys don’t really.

Mine had his first girlfriend in 8th grade and now has a pretty serious girlfriend in 9th.

Ugh #boymom

DP - and a girl's mom. girls talk about boys 99% of the time. maybe 90% if they have very intense interests. boys don't talk about girls so much. it's just a fact.

As a parent to both teen boy and girls, you are completely ridiculous and sexist with this comment. And that is why so many daughters despise their mother in laws.

Be a better parent.

[Anonymous]

I remember my DS having a little crush on a girl in kindergarten. He actually told me later on in upper ES that he had a little crush on her in the older grades as well. However, his first real crush was a different girl in 5th grade. He told her how he felt and she didn’t reciprocate so he moved on. As of now in middle school, he doesn’t have a crush.

[Anonymous]

I think most boys have crushes and they definitely are looking at porn but they would rather die than talk to their mom about either activity.

Girls are generally more open to talking about crushes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was so shy he was visibly shaken if a girl from school said "hi" to him in Starbucks when he was 12/13. By the end of 9th grade he had a girlfriend and he had another later in HS (both lasted about a year). He dated in college and has been with his current GF for about 2 years (both in grad school).

The idea that all boys are filthy porn addicts and/or future sexual assault perpetrators is really getting tired. If either of my kids watched porn as a teen, it was definitely DD.

+1000 so true. Someone on this board hates boys and I'm sorry that they feel that way, but my DS is awesome and they would beg him to date their DD.

It’s this type of delusion that makes #boymoms such as yourself so cringe. I guarantee nobody would be “begging” your son for a date—especially if they knew you.