Should I “let” my husband buy this car?

[Anonymous]

No offense, honestly, but I don't understand why you have a say in this. But given that you do, be excited for him and amp him up about it. Why be a drag?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a net worth over $6 million and your husband makes over $500k a year and you're going to pick this hill to die on?

How much do you make OP?

They are DCUM poors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

No, I cannot think of any reasons to deny your husband a well earned passion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do we think it’s your job to tell your husband what he is allowed to value? So you’re not a car person, fine, move on. Do you want him to tell you what you’re allowed to value and spend money on? No? Didn’t think so! As for the, “you cant afford it” posters, suck my lilly white *ss!

Apart from the last sentence, I agree with you 100%.

[Anonymous]

You have 6 million. Why be a jerk about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Porsche is for douchebags, get a Tesla performance

Teslas are for Cucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

boxsters are fun. SUVs are family haulers, they are not viscerally fun. let him buy the car but make sure his life insurance policy is up-to-date. also tell him he needs to schedule regular dates with you. Figure out a hairstyle that can handle zooming around in a convertible. A convertible is much less expensive than a mistress, let the guy enjoy the money he's making.

PP here. To be clear, I say this as a woman who has owned a (then 100k) porsche for the last 24 years. I bought it after I made my first million. Still love that car, so much. (currently trying to figure out how to wedge a carseat for my toddler in the back.)

Porsche forums discuss this. I once heard of a solution involving drilling a hook into the chassis that was used to stabilize the seat (I don't know if it was for rear-facing though). GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who gets the Boxster or even the Carrera rarely drives it. Plus, when I see a middle aged guy driving one I instantly think midlife crisis.

If he wants a Porsche why not trade in the SUV for the Cayenne. Or get the Cayman and make it a family car.

Or if he is feeling the itch, get the new SUV Rivian. Though who knows how long they'll be in business. That is a super cool car.

SUVs are in no way a replacement for a mid-engined convertible! jesus.

But really I think the whole point IS a midlife crisis. Yeah, OPs husband wants an expensive shiny toy, a little bit of automotive joy. And she can probably easily talk him out of it. But then what? Maybe he then tries to fix that lack of adrenaline rush by going to the gym a lot more, and gets distracted by an expensive bit of feminine excitement instead. Yeah, ok, the car is going to lose money just being driven off the lot, and maybe he decides to sell it in a few years at a loss. The man earns more than 500k a year. Let him have his toy and take joy in it. Also go for rides with him and try to share his enjoyment.

So? He earns 509k so he should spend 20% of it on a car?

They have kids. He should save that money for them. Even if college is funded, they could use a down payment eventually.

Once you have kids, fun is over for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a net worth over $6 million and your husband makes over $500k a year and you're going to pick this hill to die on?

How much do you make OP?

They are DCUM poors.

Yes this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

No, I cannot think of any reasons to deny your husband a well earned passion.

+1. We had a similar situation and we bought the car. He will get in that car almost every day, he will be proud of it and enjoy his commute. I'd rather my middle-aged spouse get his performance car now while he can get used to driving it than later when his reflexes and vision might not be as good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

No, I cannot think of any reasons to deny your husband a well earned passion.

Cuz it’s a ridiculously expensive car. It’s not like he’s asking to go play tennis on public courts once a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Porsche is for douchebags, get a Tesla performance

+1. Porche is synonymous with douchebag. Whenever I see someone driving one, man or woman, sports or SUV, I think, ugh. There's someone trying desperately to look rich.

That said...if he really wants it, I would "let" him get it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I am a wife and a pretty frugal one at that. Let him have this fun. $110k is not a meaningful amount given your income and savings.

[Anonymous]

Why not enjoy the money while you’re still on this earth? You can’t take it with you. And setting your children up for life isn’t doing them any favors.

[Anonymous]

OP, curious how many luxury handbags you own and how much you spend on Botox/hair/nails/clothes.