Should I “let” my husband buy this car?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let him have the car. It’s a waste of money, but it’s a better mid life crisis than an affair. You won’t miss the cash.

You are naive. A new sports car (and gym membership) tend to coincide with an affair. A new Porsche is about projecting masculinity and success... to whom? Women.

LOL, no. If men by fancy cars/trucks/whatever to impress others, it's to impress other men. This is coming from a certified gearhead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep in mind a Boxster is entry level and it won't be long before he starts mumbling "GT3".

And then since you've taken that step, you might as well go all in and gut it, cage it, and race it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Keep in mind a Boxster is entry level and it won't be long before he starts mumbling "GT3".

And then since you've taken that step, you might as well go all in and gut it, cage it, and race it.

Nah, that's what the mx-5 is for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep in mind a Boxster is entry level and it won't be long before he starts mumbling "GT3".

And then since you've taken that step, you might as well go all in and gut it, cage it, and race it.

Nah, that's what the mx-5 is for.

hello, friends. see you at summit point?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. 911 or bust.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, curious how many luxury handbags you own and how much you spend on Botox/hair/nails/clothes.

OP here. The only “self care” thing I spend money on is getting my roots touched up every 2 weeks. Other than that - no Botox, no nails, no fancy clothes or bags, etc.

I’ve never had a massage. I’ve never even had a pedicure. I shop at Target, Old Navy, Athleta, LL Bean, etc. I’m a teacher and drive a Subaru so I am not exactly a high maintenance person, lol. Before I got this car, I drove my last one for over 10 years by choice. My H is always wanting to upgrade his car though to something newer and fancier. He makes over 10x what I do though so it’s not something I really feel like I can say a hard no to. Mostly I just push it off.

As for this Porsche, I’d prefer for him to save the money for our kids. But he grumbles about that already because they’re all involved in expensive travel sports. I don’t think he understands how tough life is for young adults nowadays though. It’s not enough just to pay for college. They will also need money for graduate school, help with rent, help with a down payment, etc.

Are you trying to get him to divorce you, but just being low-key about it? If so, you are really ticking all the boxes.

Think you are "low-maintenance" all you want, but harping on your 10x-earning husband about this ALL THE WHILE enjoying the lifestyle that comes from him is...either crazy or strategic. I guarantee you have a gorgeous house that you couldn't dream of on your teacher's salary. Be grateful to him and excited FOR him.

Also, it probably wouldn't kill you to get your nails done and dress a little nicer. He would appreciate it, guaranteed.

OP, you are lucky the only thing he is trying to upgrade is his car.

This. You should go out and buy yourself some attractive clothes AND let him buy the Porsche before he looks elsewhere

[Anonymous]

My husband brought home a seven figure bonus and wanted a new mule (a stupidly wasteful farm vehicle that is 30k because he wanted the fanciest one). I am very frugal and hate depreciating assets, but did I say no? Of course not!! Op, I have a feeling you keep him on a very tight leash and are a joyless person . . . Better watch out, he might just run off. I would suggest saying yes to the Porsche and upgrading your underwear, which is likely 10 years old from target.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband brought home a seven figure bonus and wanted a new mule (a stupidly wasteful farm vehicle that is 30k because he wanted the fanciest one). I am very frugal and hate depreciating assets, but did I say no? Of course not!! Op, I have a feeling you keep him on a very tight leash and are a joyless person . . . Better watch out, he might just run off. I would suggest saying yes to the Porsche and upgrading your underwear, which is likely 10 years old from target.

wow, this forum has a lot of retrograde thinking and weird assumptions about women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband brought home a seven figure bonus and wanted a new mule (a stupidly wasteful farm vehicle that is 30k because he wanted the fanciest one). I am very frugal and hate depreciating assets, but did I say no? Of course not!! Op, I have a feeling you keep him on a very tight leash and are a joyless person . . . Better watch out, he might just run off. I would suggest saying yes to the Porsche and upgrading your underwear, which is likely 10 years old from target.

The fact that he went with a mule speaks volumes. Should have gone with a Can-Am.

They’re depreciating assets, sure. But they’re also incredibly useful if you actually need one. They save a ton of time for the work they’re intended to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let him have the car. It’s a waste of money, but it’s a better mid life crisis than an affair. You won’t miss the cash.

You are naive. A new sports car (and gym membership) tend to coincide with an affair. A new Porsche is about projecting masculinity and success... to whom? Women.

As someone who has owned and driven sports cars over the past 20+ years, the only people that it attracts is teenagers or middle aged white guys. While $110k may seem a lot, it’s near the entry level in Porsche world unless he’s fancying a 718 Spyder which would cost more. Maybe he can save money by skipping the RS and Weissach package.

With that being said, I ran my Porsche purchases as a family decision and stuck to a budget when buying. She’s not a fan of the car but understands. You guys are in great financial decision to buy this car, he’s just buying the wrong one. For a few more bucks he can get a 992 Carrera T with backseats for the kids. The only problem with these cars is you can’t just have one.

[Anonymous]

Your husband should divorce you. If he wants the car then he should get it. Men sacrifice so much to have a family, your kids are not being short changed. Just nod, smile and shut up about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband should divorce you. If he wants the car then he should get it. Men sacrifice so much to have a family, your kids are not being short changed. Just nod, smile and shut up about it.

Who are we comparing men to in this situation? Are the trolls growing dumber in DCUM lately?

[Anonymous]

As long as you get something for yourself that is equivalent in the next year or so, I say absolutely. 110k is such a small part of your net worth, and only a small proportion of your income. You've saved a ton and make good decisions, it looks like, so enjoy some of it, too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let him have the car. It’s a waste of money, but it’s a better mid life crisis than an affair. You won’t miss the cash.

You are naive. A new sports car (and gym membership) tend to coincide with an affair. A new Porsche is about projecting masculinity and success... to whom? Women.

LOL, no. If men by fancy cars/trucks/whatever to impress others, it's to impress other men. This is coming from a certified gearhead.

+1 it’s funny who the naive ones are.

[Anonymous]

I have always found Boxters to be feminine cars.