Should I “let” my husband buy this car?

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Anonymous wrote:Porsche is for douchebags, get a Tesla performance

Teslas are for Cucks.

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Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

boxsters are fun. SUVs are family haulers, they are not viscerally fun. let him buy the car but make sure his life insurance policy is up-to-date. also tell him he needs to schedule regular dates with you. Figure out a hairstyle that can handle zooming around in a convertible. A convertible is much less expensive than a mistress, let the guy enjoy the money he's making.

PP here. To be clear, I say this as a woman who has owned a (then 100k) porsche for the last 24 years. I bought it after I made my first million. Still love that car, so much. (currently trying to figure out how to wedge a carseat for my toddler in the back.)

Porsche forums discuss this. I once heard of a solution involving drilling a hook into the chassis that was used to stabilize the seat (I don't know if it was for rear-facing though). GL.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who gets the Boxster or even the Carrera rarely drives it. Plus, when I see a middle aged guy driving one I instantly think midlife crisis.

If he wants a Porsche why not trade in the SUV for the Cayenne. Or get the Cayman and make it a family car.

Or if he is feeling the itch, get the new SUV Rivian. Though who knows how long they'll be in business. That is a super cool car.

SUVs are in no way a replacement for a mid-engined convertible! jesus.

But really I think the whole point IS a midlife crisis. Yeah, OPs husband wants an expensive shiny toy, a little bit of automotive joy. And she can probably easily talk him out of it. But then what? Maybe he then tries to fix that lack of adrenaline rush by going to the gym a lot more, and gets distracted by an expensive bit of feminine excitement instead. Yeah, ok, the car is going to lose money just being driven off the lot, and maybe he decides to sell it in a few years at a loss. The man earns more than 500k a year. Let him have his toy and take joy in it. Also go for rides with him and try to share his enjoyment.

So? He earns 509k so he should spend 20% of it on a car?

They have kids. He should save that money for them. Even if college is funded, they could use a down payment eventually.

Once you have kids, fun is over for you.

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Anonymous wrote:You have a net worth over $6 million and your husband makes over $500k a year and you're going to pick this hill to die on?

How much do you make OP?

They are DCUM poors.

Yes this

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Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

No, I cannot think of any reasons to deny your husband a well earned passion.

+1. We had a similar situation and we bought the car. He will get in that car almost every day, he will be proud of it and enjoy his commute. I'd rather my middle-aged spouse get his performance car now while he can get used to driving it than later when his reflexes and vision might not be as good.

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Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?

No, I cannot think of any reasons to deny your husband a well earned passion.

Cuz it’s a ridiculously expensive car. It’s not like he’s asking to go play tennis on public courts once a week.

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Anonymous wrote:Porsche is for douchebags, get a Tesla performance

+1. Porche is synonymous with douchebag. Whenever I see someone driving one, man or woman, sports or SUV, I think, ugh. There's someone trying desperately to look rich.

That said...if he really wants it, I would "let" him get it.

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Yes. I am a wife and a pretty frugal one at that. Let him have this fun. $110k is not a meaningful amount given your income and savings.

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Why not enjoy the money while you’re still on this earth? You can’t take it with you. And setting your children up for life isn’t doing them any favors.

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OP, curious how many luxury handbags you own and how much you spend on Botox/hair/nails/clothes.

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I think it's absurd and I'd be irritated but if he wanted it really badly I'd "let" him. You are plenty financially stable.

Of course, don't deny yourself a 100K toy or experience either.

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I'll post from the other side. My husband is a car guy. Before meeting him, I thought owning a luxury car like Porsche, BMW, etc was ridiculous and all who did were insecure & social-concsious idiots. However, there are reasons why these cars are so expensive and for the people who get it and appreciate it there is great joy there. So, if he will appreciate the car for the marvel of engineering that is and truly enjoy driving a car that is spectacular to drive - I wouldn't stand in his way. On the other hand, if this is a fad or he's having a mid-life crisis - no.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, curious how many luxury handbags you own and how much you spend on Botox/hair/nails/clothes.

OP here. The only “self care” thing I spend money on is getting my roots touched up every 2 weeks. Other than that - no Botox, no nails, no fancy clothes or bags, etc.

I’ve never had a massage. I’ve never even had a pedicure. I shop at Target, Old Navy, Athleta, LL Bean, etc. I’m a teacher and drive a Subaru so I am not exactly a high maintenance person, lol. Before I got this car, I drove my last one for over 10 years by choice. My H is always wanting to upgrade his car though to something newer and fancier. He makes over 10x what I do though so it’s not something I really feel like I can say a hard no to. Mostly I just push it off.

As for this Porsche, I’d prefer for him to save the money for our kids. But he grumbles about that already because they’re all involved in expensive travel sports. I don’t think he understands how tough life is for young adults nowadays though. It’s not enough just to pay for college. They will also need money for graduate school, help with rent, help with a down payment, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:You have 6 million. Why be a jerk about it?

Agreed. It's clearly all women posting here. The Porsche is a fun car. You all can afford it. Let him have some fun in life.

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His choice.