DH’s best friend’s much younger GF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're totally butthurt, lmao.

Console yourself with the thought that it probably won't last.

And that your husband’s friend is having the time of his life. Someone should have some joy in this quad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're totally butthurt, lmao.

Console yourself with the thought that it probably won't last.

How old are you? My 20 year old would say something like this. WTF do we have prepubescents trying to do adulting on this board now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would ask her questions that encourage her to talk about herself, and then listen. It wouldn't take much out of you, and will make her feel at home. That's what I try to do when I don't have much, or anything, in common with someone else.

This. What are you trying to talk about that is just so difficult?

A true mark of sophistication is the ability to have a conversation with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is just that you and she don't click in any way. I would just see if your DH can just go out with his friend solo, or they can go as a threesome. Or is there another couple you can invite along- not that you want to ignore this woman, but it would give you other people to talk to during the dinner.

No surer way to give her DH ideas.

I honestly just can’t with Op; I would be so exited for my DH to be maintaining a friendship in this age of epidemic loneliness, and she can’t even smile and nod and ask polite questions for a couple hours. She must have lived a blessed life and never worked retail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

So, you want her to be a gold digging whore? Is that the picture you’re painting for everyone? That’s how you want to represent your gender? Grow the fuK up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Lmao at this extra helping of cope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

So, you want her to be a gold digging whore? Is that the picture you’re painting for everyone? That’s how you want to represent your gender? Grow the fuK up.

He's dating her cause she's in med school. He thinks the long term prospects are good and he just finds her quirky, interesting, charming.

jk. Great body obvs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Lmao at this extra helping of cope.

Your comment officially marks the end of DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Wow all these insecure middle aged mommies grasping at rationalizations at how much better they are then 20 year olds.

No, she is not intimidated by the frumpster who’s popped out the kids for her beaus best bud. She’s probably also trying to not die of boredom, but probably complains on TikTok rather than DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Wow all these insecure middle aged mommies grasping at rationalizations at how much better they are then 20 year olds.

No, she is not intimidated by the frumpster who’s popped out the kids for her beaus best bud. She’s probably also trying to not die of boredom, but probably complains on TikTok rather than DCUM.

Is that how you refer to your own mom? The frumster who popped you out?

[Anonymous]

I was that girlfriend. I met my husband at 19 and married at 23.

The men never had a problem with me, but my dear goodness, did some women look askance! Some just couldn't bring themselves to talk to me. My boss's wife just looked outraged when I walked in the first time she saw me (not at me personally, but at the age difference between my husband and I).

I'm not asking you to like her, OP, but please remember that just because she's younger than you doesn't mean she's dumb and doesn't notice what you're thinking about her! She does. Very much so.

[Anonymous]

If you have kids, how do you ever expect to have a good relationship with their SO’s? You should know how to carry on a conversation with any adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I was that girlfriend. I met my husband at 19 and married at 23.

The men never had a problem with me, but my dear goodness, did some women look askance! Some just couldn't bring themselves to talk to me. My boss's wife just looked outraged when I walked in the first time she saw me (not at me personally, but at the age difference between my husband and I).

I'm not asking you to like her, OP, but please remember that just because she's younger than you doesn't mean she's dumb and doesn't notice what you're thinking about her! She does. Very much so.

Meant my husband's boss' wife.