DH’s best friend’s much younger GF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

So, you want her to be a gold digging whore? Is that the picture you’re painting for everyone? That’s how you want to represent your gender? Grow the fuK up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Lmao at this extra helping of cope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

So, you want her to be a gold digging whore? Is that the picture you’re painting for everyone? That’s how you want to represent your gender? Grow the fuK up.

He's dating her cause she's in med school. He thinks the long term prospects are good and he just finds her quirky, interesting, charming.

jk. Great body obvs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Lmao at this extra helping of cope.

Your comment officially marks the end of DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Wow all these insecure middle aged mommies grasping at rationalizations at how much better they are then 20 year olds.

No, she is not intimidated by the frumpster who’s popped out the kids for her beaus best bud. She’s probably also trying to not die of boredom, but probably complains on TikTok rather than DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

THIS. I don’t care how ‘hot’ she might be at 20 something. Deep down she knows there’s a massive chasm between you and her OP. And she is intimidated. Let him have his fun. She’ll be out of the picture in the blink of an eye

Wow all these insecure middle aged mommies grasping at rationalizations at how much better they are then 20 year olds.

No, she is not intimidated by the frumpster who’s popped out the kids for her beaus best bud. She’s probably also trying to not die of boredom, but probably complains on TikTok rather than DCUM.

Is that how you refer to your own mom? The frumster who popped you out?

[Anonymous]

I was that girlfriend. I met my husband at 19 and married at 23.

The men never had a problem with me, but my dear goodness, did some women look askance! Some just couldn't bring themselves to talk to me. My boss's wife just looked outraged when I walked in the first time she saw me (not at me personally, but at the age difference between my husband and I).

I'm not asking you to like her, OP, but please remember that just because she's younger than you doesn't mean she's dumb and doesn't notice what you're thinking about her! She does. Very much so.

[Anonymous]

If you have kids, how do you ever expect to have a good relationship with their SO’s? You should know how to carry on a conversation with any adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I was that girlfriend. I met my husband at 19 and married at 23.

The men never had a problem with me, but my dear goodness, did some women look askance! Some just couldn't bring themselves to talk to me. My boss's wife just looked outraged when I walked in the first time she saw me (not at me personally, but at the age difference between my husband and I).

I'm not asking you to like her, OP, but please remember that just because she's younger than you doesn't mean she's dumb and doesn't notice what you're thinking about her! She does. Very much so.

Meant my husband's boss' wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're totally butthurt, lmao.

Console yourself with the thought that it probably won't last.

Here she is, OP! You're right she is immature.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

So, you want her to be a gold digging whore? Is that the picture you’re painting for everyone? That’s how you want to represent your gender? Grow the fuK up.

What gender might that be?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

So, you want her to be a gold digging whore? Is that the picture you’re painting for everyone? That’s how you want to represent your gender? Grow the fuK up.

What gender might that be?

Why any gender you wish to identify as PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember being in my early 20s having dinner out with a family friend of DH's family. The wife was definitely in her 40s. We had nothing in common. But I was nice and polite and I remember her asking me questions about my life. She asked me about my running, my diet (runner, at the time eating a macro diet) my family.... In hindsight, I realize it must have been a long night for her. But I remember thinking she was so incredibly nice! And it was all about her showing interest in me. I didn't ask her a single question. Just too young and naive to realize. I am grateful to her now knowing that she worked hard to make me feel comfortable.

Sure but it sounds like that was a one-time thing. OP, how often are you having to give up your nights - like weekly? Just monthly or every few months?

If DH and his friends are okay with a guys night then fine, but I would not want to set a precedent of DH going out with another couple when I can go but choose not to. I would rather choose an activity I enjoy where I don’t have to interact with her too much, like a movie, comedy show, bowling. Even a favorite restaurant if I will be immersed in the food and not mind the conversation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, on a scale of 1-10, in your own humble opinion, how hot is she and how hot are you. be honest. that info is needed to put your feelings in context and have a real discussion.

lame. On a scale of 1 to -1 how infantile and stupid are you. Be honest.