I wish I were skinny and flat chested

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

LOL another 34 ddd/e here.

I’ve accepted panache and wacoal and whatever other miracles of engineering we subject ourselves to and I just enjoy my body. It’s healthy, it produced and nourished my children, and it’s just time to stop punishing myself for things I have no control over.

No I will never be lithe or waifish or whatever else but when I look in the mirror in a bra and underwear my body is attractive to me and I find the clothes that look good even if I am stuck shopping at stores like talbots a lot.

[Anonymous]

My top is bigger than my bottom by one inch. Used to be more. Most dresses are the other way around.
Not one company makes them the same size.Top an inch or two bigger is unheard of on a dress, so I wear wrap dresses.
I blame the boobs. I don't want a bigger butt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate my boobs. I got the skinny part down but my large chest is annoying

This! No matter how thin I am I still have big boobs and I HATE it.

[Anonymous]

Grass is always greener. Always.

[Anonymous]

Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grass is always greener. Always.

+1

[Anonymous]

I appreciate my small frame and chest, AND I envy how well pants fit women who have curves. We all want what someone else has!

[Anonymous]

I think this is BS. No one actually wishes they were flat chested. You might say that because *some* models/actresses are built that way and it can make certain clothes (like a very narrow range of clothes) look good on them that won't look good on others. But we're talking like this narrow range of styles that people associate with Audrey Hepburn. Certain high necklines (though not all). That's it. There are also styles that only look good on someone with a large chest. If you are looking for inspiration, look at photos of Kim K, Salma Hayek, Christina Hendricks. These women are all considered beautiful and sexy.

Flat-chested girls get teased and harassed for it, just like girls who develop early and have large chests do. They struggle with buying clothes and with things fitting as they are "supposed" to. They are often told that their bodies are incorrect or not sufficiently feminine. You'd just be trading one extreme for another.

If your problem is having a hard-to-fit body or only being able to wear a narrow range of clothing, you should envy women with B and C cups and a classic bust-waist-hip ratio. Also being average to slightly above average height (5'4" to 5'6") means it is easy to buy pants and that skirts/dresses will hit you at the intended point.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way OP. I HATE my boobs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

[Anonymous]

There are solutions for most of these complaints if you are that unhappy:

Breast reduction or breast augmentation

For weight, diet, semaglutide or gastric bypass

For height,well, I think you are stuck with that...

[Anonymous]

Please love your bodies, ladies. I also wished I was thinner as I had big boobs and a belly. Then I had breast cancer at 40, a mascetomy, and doctors used my belly fat to reconstruct breasts. I look better in clothes now but would go back to my original body in a heartbeat if I could, since I no longer have sensation in my belly or chest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

Agreed! But most women are not Keri Russell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested