I wish I were skinny and flat chested

[Anonymous]

I love being flat chested. I was a 32A until I had children. I was proportionate and weighed 105 lbs. Guys in college which is the last time I dated had no problem and never mentioned it. It was the females who had the mean comments about “you need about 10 more lbs” or hand me a brochure on anorexia which was so rude. I was never anywhere near anorexic.

Pregnancy made me a b/c cup which forced me to wear a bra which I hate but totally necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

Oh god. Yes. The Panache monstrosity! I tell ya, my boobs are like battering rams in that thing. But it’s the only sports bra that actually kind of fits — and not well, at that! I’m a taller version of you, with a long waist and short legs. I’m surrounded every week in my yoga classes by women in dainty, strappy tops or even just little bralettes while I’ve got the panache beasts strapped around me because my boobs literally don’t fit in or stay in any other sports bra. I have such real envy for smaller chested women.

Get a reduction if it bothers you so much! Live your A cup dreams!

Lol

Are you paying?

I don’t want an A cup ... I think a C would be nice with my build

If you have back pain or any issues due to large breasts then insurance will pay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

A cute girl with perfect legs, great butt (guys love) and perfect weight for her height is not being ignored. And flatter chests look more youthful staring at about 30 years old.

I wouldn’t call big busts in middle age ugly, they aren’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP!!!

There’s curvy and busty in a good way that some of the PPs imagine you are and are chiding you for not being grateful, OP, and then there’s actually having a large chest. I’m guessing if you are actually posting this you are probably like me and way beyond “feminine curve” territory and into “matronly bosom and no clothes fit” territory, like me.

I’m a 34DDD and buy size 10-12 tops and dresses to alter down to fit the rest of my size 4, short waisted body. I haven’t been able to wear anything on-trend or cute since I was in the 8th grade. Every trend is just a reminder that clothes are made for skinny, flat-chested people- when slip dresses, camisoles and spaghetti straps came back recently it was a flashback to all of the outfits I couldn’t wear in college and high school.

Don’t get me started about exercise. My friends go for a run and wear a cute tank with a built-in shelf bra and can stay in it for the rest of the day. If I go for even a powerwalk I’m in a panache monstrosity with another pullover bra on top and covering the whole thing with whatever top I buy in bulk because it actually fits. And even if I work out all of the time, I look like a muscled little gnome, not a lithe athletic woman.

Oh god. Yes. The Panache monstrosity! I tell ya, my boobs are like battering rams in that thing. But it’s the only sports bra that actually kind of fits — and not well, at that! I’m a taller version of you, with a long waist and short legs. I’m surrounded every week in my yoga classes by women in dainty, strappy tops or even just little bralettes while I’ve got the panache beasts strapped around me because my boobs literally don’t fit in or stay in any other sports bra. I have such real envy for smaller chested women.

Get a reduction if it bothers you so much! Live your A cup dreams!

Lol

Are you paying?

I don’t want an A cup ... I think a C would be nice with my build

If you have back pain or any issues due to large breasts then insurance will pay.

See PP’s post about this. Insurance won’t just pay if you say you have pain or issues- there are a lot of hoops to jump through.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

Oh please larger breasted women love to crap on a/b cups. See the “baby boobies” comment above. You can’t have it both ways.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

Oh please larger breasted women love to crap on a/b cups. See the “baby boobies” comment above. You can’t have it both ways.

You need to get off this thread and go for a long run in your shelf bra tank top.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

PP here - bad choice of words. I didn't mean to say larger breasts are trashy or whatever. You can't help what you were born with. I meant more in the context of how people refer to large breast implants.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

PP here - bad choice of words. I didn't mean to say larger breasts are trashy or whatever. You can't help what you were born with. I meant more in the context of how people refer to large breast implants.

I do think that women who get basketball size boobs are attention seeking and unstable. Who would purposely put hard balls in their chest so that they can no longer lay on their stomachs. They can’t do a lot of activities that they used to be able to. To them the discomfort and risks are worth the stares they get.

[Anonymous]

My grandmother needed custom bras, that's how large her chest was... but she always looked really nice in clothes her entire life. She just had a really nicely balanced figure. I think some of you never actually see curvy women? Clothes can look very nice on a woman with curves.

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Anonymous wrote:Larget breasts are lovely in youth but by middle age they are matronly and ugly. Yes, I appreciate how my body birthed 3 kids and yada, yada but ugh. I would give a lot for a lithe, flat chested figure. This type of body ages much, much better.

That's the trade off. Flat chested women get ignored or even made fun of when they are young. But their bodies look more youthful and better in clothes at middle age.

You probably didn't mind this dynamic when you were 22.

34b and I was definitely not ignored.

Have you all seen the Americans? Keri Russell is arguably a very attractive woman and she is a very small a cup.

34b is not flat chested

34b are baby b00bies…

Yep, and still nice and perky as a late 30s mom. How are you enjoying your floppy flapjacks?

Mine were still saggy as a 34B after kids. I hated it. Had a boob job. Now I have nice full C cups. Large enough to balance out my frame while still looking natural and tasteful.

The word “tasteful” is what comes up again and again when us larger chested women are in these conversations. Flat chested or average women want us to shut up and be grateful, while ignoring the reality that society assigns a lot of shaming and prejudice to people’s natural bodies. My DDD breasts are just what genetics gave me, but I know all too well that an A or B cup is considered tasteful, natural and elegant and my chest is trashy, sloppy, unnatural, etc.

I’m an A cup and don’t think big boobs are trashy! I do know from my busty best friend that they make clothes shopping a little more difficult and she has to make efforts to rein them in. But there’s nothing sloppy about having curves. I’ve always wished I had a little more up top.