Why does my partner pay $2400 a month child support for one kid?

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Anonymous wrote:He makes like 150k. The mom makes even more than that. Just seems crazy.

who has custody? my ex makes 180k. I make 100k. I get $400. It is nothing. 2 kids. in VA. what state are you in?

You need to file. Unless you have a true 50 time split

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Anonymous wrote:My nephew pays $800 a month for one kid with no court involvement, he's paid it for 13 years, totally voluntary. If he did go through the courts it would likely be about half that based on his income and Va laws.

He does it because he wants to.

Ok it costs a ton to raise a kid. $800 isn’t much at all. In the summer camps are $400 a month

$400 a week at rec centers and 1,000 a week at private school.

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Anonymous wrote:My nephew pays $800 a month for one kid with no court involvement, he's paid it for 13 years, totally voluntary. If he did go through the courts it would likely be about half that based on his income and Va laws.

He does it because he wants to.

Ok it costs a ton to raise a kid. $800 isn’t much at all. In the summer camps are $400 a month

$400 a week at rec centers and 1,000 a week at private school.

$400?!? Our non-profit school care is $1300 per month for summer care!

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Anonymous wrote:I would hate to have you as a stepmom.

This.
My SIL was like this. My nephew is now grown and glad that he no longer has to deal with his awful step mom.

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^^I don’t like women like this. The agreement was made before she was even in the picture. She needs to accept that her partner was in a committed relationship with someone else before her.

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Anonymous wrote:My nephew pays $800 a month for one kid with no court involvement, he's paid it for 13 years, totally voluntary. If he did go through the courts it would likely be about half that based on his income and Va laws.

He does it because he wants to.

Ok it costs a ton to raise a kid. $800 isn’t much at all. In the summer camps are $400 a month

$400 a week at rec centers and 1,000 a week at private school.

Only speciality camps are $400 a week. The basic rec department is nothing close to that. And, none are $1000K at private schools. For $1K you get a sleep away camp and they aren't that much. And, most Dad's should have their kids summers so they are paying for child support and camp.

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Anonymous wrote:^^I don’t like women like this. The agreement was made before she was even in the picture. She needs to accept that her partner was in a committed relationship with someone else before her.

It doesn't really work that way. If they become married all the money going in and out pertains to the married couple.

It's good OP he will be responsible financially to your children no matter what happens. Look at it that way. Probably want to stop the birth control at this point, win win.

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Anonymous wrote:^^I don’t like women like this. The agreement was made before she was even in the picture. She needs to accept that her partner was in a committed relationship with someone else before her.

It doesn't really work that way. If they become married all the money going in and out pertains to the married couple.

It's good OP he will be responsible financially to your children no matter what happens. Look at it that way. Probably want to stop the birth control at this point, win win.

No, child support and any alimony to the first wife does not "pertain to the married couple." It's a legal obligation of the DH to his Ex and child, enforceable by contempt sanctions in court. If you want to be a truly evil stepmother and insist he go to court to get child support reduced, god speed to you.

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Anonymous wrote:^^I don’t like women like this. The agreement was made before she was even in the picture. She needs to accept that her partner was in a committed relationship with someone else before her.

It doesn't really work that way. If they become married all the money going in and out pertains to the married couple.

It's good OP he will be responsible financially to your children no matter what happens. Look at it that way. Probably want to stop the birth control at this point, win win.

No, child support and any alimony to the first wife does not "pertain to the married couple." It's a legal obligation of the DH to his Ex and child, enforceable by contempt sanctions in court. If you want to be a truly evil stepmother and insist he go to court to get child support reduced, god speed to you.

Actually it does.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^I don’t like women like this. The agreement was made before she was even in the picture. She needs to accept that her partner was in a committed relationship with someone else before her.

It doesn't really work that way. If they become married all the money going in and out pertains to the married couple.

It's good OP he will be responsible financially to your children no matter what happens. Look at it that way. Probably want to stop the birth control at this point, win win.

No, child support and any alimony to the first wife does not "pertain to the married couple." It's a legal obligation of the DH to his Ex and child, enforceable by contempt sanctions in court. If you want to be a truly evil stepmother and insist he go to court to get child support reduced, god speed to you.

Actually it does.

Normally all income each partner earns goes to the marital assets, but child support does not operate like this, otherwise the couple’s joint income would be considered as available for child support (because what’s half bioDad’s is half newWife’s but also vice versa). Child support is typically calculated of off the biological parent’s individual income, not the couple’s.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^I don’t like women like this. The agreement was made before she was even in the picture. She needs to accept that her partner was in a committed relationship with someone else before her.

It doesn't really work that way. If they become married all the money going in and out pertains to the married couple.

It's good OP he will be responsible financially to your children no matter what happens. Look at it that way. Probably want to stop the birth control at this point, win win.

No, child support and any alimony to the first wife does not "pertain to the married couple." It's a legal obligation of the DH to his Ex and child, enforceable by contempt sanctions in court. If you want to be a truly evil stepmother and insist he go to court to get child support reduced, god speed to you.

Actually it does.

Normally all income each partner earns goes to the marital assets, but child support does not operate like this, otherwise the couple’s joint income would be considered as available for child support (because what’s half bioDad’s is half newWife’s but also vice versa). Child support is typically calculated of off the biological parent’s individual income, not the couple’s.

I think what the PP means is that since marital assets (i.e. bio parents income) are used to pay the CS the new spouse gets a vote on whether the bioparent contributes more than the required amount. Obviously this assumes the bioparent would be eligible for a modification.

I don't really take a position either way on it because honestly it doesn't matter. CS was designed to be modified if the numbers that go into the worksheet vary significantly so either party can request it to be adjusted up/down if they can make a showing of materially changed circumstances.

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Anonymous wrote:2400/month is literally less than 20% of his income. You sound heartless.

Remember Dad pays taxes on his income, and probably provides the health care and more. Mom gets all that money tax free. $2400 is more than most people spend on their kids. Is more than some people earn in a month. Its a lot of money. We spend a lot on our child and don't even come close to that if you average it out over a year (except maybe if you include college savings).

-.+100 the file support we paid for one was much more than the amount we paid for two in our house ( including health insurance, share of utilities and food etc, not just direct kid costs). All while the ex lies about where money and activities came from and never went back to work. I could go on with more... 🙄

We had all kinds of drama. Ex demanded we pay for her health insurance even though kid had always been on Dad's since birth but she didn't want to use it. Dad was ordered to provide insurance. She ended up dropping her insurance and putting him on medicaid as we got a call from medicaid demanding we reimburse them (which we refused as we had insurance for him and they should have done their homework). She'd demand he pay extra for activities and then the kids wouldn't participate. We finally caught on and said tell us where to send the money (company or school) and we'll send it directly and tell us where we buy the uniform/shoes or what ever was needed and sizes and we'll ship it directly to the house. But, hey, no one here wants to hear the other side. And, the braces... we agreed to pay 1/2 per the court order after insurance directly to the orthotist and she refused to use the child support money to pay her half so kid never got them till an adult. They should make people who get child support file yearly like they do with guardianship or social security rep. payee to prove the money is spend on the individual receiving it.

As a parent, the food costs are nominal for an extra kid. Our housing and utility costs are the same. Our big expenses are private lessons and sports and camps (but all of those are optional and I could pick much cheaper ways of doing it). Even so, its not $2000+ a month even with a sleep away camp for a week.

Bologna.

How is it bologna? We bought a house before we had a child. So, same cost as before as we needed a place to live. We see no difference in utility bills. And, food isn't that much and mine are older. So, what other expense are there except activities? Those are optional. And, clothing but I shop clearance so usually the cost is minimal. And, transportation? We have the same cars and would regardless of a child. Many inflate the cost of kids.

It is bologna that "food costs are nominal for an extra kid" (the part I bolded.) If you truly believe that food costs for a kid are "nominal" you must have never had custody of a kid over the age of 8 or 9. This was a topic of discussion on a different thread on DCUM a few days ago--about how much preteens and teens eat, especially if they are athletes.

It’s baloney when you are referring to foolish talk! People please.

[Anonymous]

You need to find a childfree partner. Not a poor one.

[Anonymous]

Haha next time try not to scoop up leftovers.

[Anonymous]

Leave now OP. It only gets worse.