What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

Did I miss where someone asked for elaboration?

I don’t think it was elaborating, sounds more like the full picture of what would surprise people about them behind closed doors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

We are far more reserved but we have done plenty of clothing optional vacations in the Caribbean and in Europe. We often participate in the evening fun but don’t swap as we keep to ourselves but amid a large group. Our regular day jobs are conservative corporate types so people would be very surprised . The only giveaway is when I return from vacation and go to the fitness center my all over tan can be a giveaway in the locker room.

What’s really nice about some European beaches is that the people aren’t vacationers they are just local people for whom being naked is perfectly normal. I’ve seen 60 year old women walk onto the beach wearing a dress and they just strip down. It’s quite an experience but you very quickly just go with the flow. My husband and I were outside Copenhagen and we stopped at a beach and we didn’t have swim suits so we just joined the locals. It was fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

Did I miss where someone asked for elaboration?

I don’t think it was elaborating, sounds more like the full picture of what would surprise people about them behind closed doors.

Seems like a new poster.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husbands diagnosed mental illness.

+1 he can’t hide it w friends or extended family when when all vacation. He tries to by “doing more office work” but that looks ridiculous and all his disappearing does too. It’s his parents family secret- most people on the paternal side have it and they hide it (via never doing new things or spending elongated time with others) and never talk about it. Ironically MIl keeps asking how the kids are doing w school, friends or talking as she tries to determine if it passes to girls... (it did to one).

What is the illness, if I may ask?
My MIL is exactly the same. Sometimes I wonder if this is how boomers roll trying to swipe s**t under the rug and pretending everything is juuust fiiine. Ugh.

It’s autism. Mil only had one of the kids, the one failing school, diagnosed and convinced the other three it was merely dyslexia that he saw help 3x a week for his inattentivenness, hyperactivity, poor listening, odd social comments / behavior, and lack of follow through. Oh, plus needed reading and math help.
To this day that son doesn’t know he has it, lives at home, gets fired all the time, they try to marry him off all the time but going on his dates with him, more like outings...
In reality they all have asd and need serious help, at least to avoid accidents and constant mishaps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

Did I miss where someone asked for elaboration?

I don’t think it was elaborating, sounds more like the full picture of what would surprise people about them behind closed doors.

Some people live very full and exciting private lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

Did I miss where someone asked for elaboration?

I don’t think it was elaborating, sounds more like the full picture of what would surprise people about them behind closed doors.

Some people live very full and exciting private lives.

We are as kinky as it gets but I want to know what kind of play you get down to that requires freezing stainless steel toys? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

OoOh la la

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

We are far more reserved but we have done plenty of clothing optional vacations in the Caribbean and in Europe. We often participate in the evening fun but don’t swap as we keep to ourselves but amid a large group. Our regular day jobs are conservative corporate types so people would be very surprised . The only giveaway is when I return from vacation and go to the fitness center my all over tan can be a giveaway in the locker room.

These aren't ugly things. These are tittilating things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are in a sexless marriage. I know they are common but we are both attractive and healthy so I don't know people would guess us.

We are like you. I still don’t understand how We ended there. DW here, my DH has no desire for me. He swears he loves me. We get along well. I objectively look as good or better as I did 10 years ago (Thin, taking care of myself, athletic but curvy, not bragging, just to be clear that it is not about my external appearance). Our own therapist asked if my husband was gay. I don’t think he is. No idea what to do.l

Ever consider he is having affair or has his sights on someone? Anyone he talks about or works with that might be it?

NP here in the same situation and I am positive my spouse isn't having an affair. It's mind boggling but sometimes I think the most simple answer is my spouse has just become asexual.

I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I would much, MUCH prefer being cheated on, at least I would have an explanation, a reason to leave and have a sex life while figuring it all out.

His T levels are probably way below normal; probably in the 200s.

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Anonymous wrote:People who think people have no idea they are swingers are dead wrong. That news travels like wildfire.

We just recently found that that my FIL (60s) and his wife (50s) are swingers. I think it's hilarious. My H doesn't think so.

Ewww.
I'm think it's incredibly dumb and trashy, especially for post-menopausal people. I'm sure they themselves think they are oh-so-hot. Gross.

The Villages in FL has one of the highest STD rates in the country. Swinging is common there. Clearly old people find other old people attractive. I have no problem with it. I hope I having sex with my DW when we are old.
We aren't into swinging, but have a bit of an exhibition and voyeur dynamic.

I don’t know about the swinging (good for them, if true) but the oft quoted STI info has been totally debunked. It originated in a book about the Villages retirement lifestyle. The rate there is statistically equivalent to the rest of FL.

The FL rate is higher than national average and much of that is attributed to the 60+ crowd.

Also there is a direct correlation to the per cap increase in STDs and the expansion of the Villages in the 90s in the 3 counties that have Villages properties in their borders.

Nationwide, the rate of new STD infections is growing fastest among senior citizens.

This should shock no one at all, considering:

- seniors lived through the sexual revolution / 60s free-love era,

- seniors abandoned religion-based taboos at a far greater rate than previous generations,

- seniors can access internet porn as easily as the rest of us, and

- they have free time on their hands. Old people like to “get it on.” Deal with it.

[Anonymous]

That years ago, I almost slept with my boss because I was afraid of losing my job and thought he would fire me if I didn't. I was able to avoid it but DH would have gone along with it if I had to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That DH is very unromantic and socially awkward. I knew this when I met and married him but after 11 years it takes a toll. I find him handsome but am not very attracted to him. We also argue frequently. I wish I had married someone if not romantic at least with a higher emotional IQ.

That sucks. I’m sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a sex room that makes the 50 Shades Red room look like your average living room.

Friends and family would be shocked to learn that (pre-COVID) we enjoy living an alternate lifestyle. We are your average married couple with no children, both with corporate jobs. Our home is modest in a suburban neighborhood with a hot tub in yard and a motorhome in driveway.

Our proclivities include having a getaway place at a local nudist resort where we are naked 24/7, enjoy one or two clothing optional vacations in Mexico and the Caribbean. DH enjoys it when I slut it up dressing in club wear and lingerie when attending adult parties, clubs and camps. The cedar chest at the foot of our bed is our toy box. Open it and many would be agast with its contents - Flogger’s, restraints, gags, rope, lines of all varieties, toys for boys and girls. We have a few adult toys that resemble pieces of sculpture on display in our home and RV, conversation pieces if you will. Some friends are intrigued others oblivious. Open the freezer in our kitchen and you might find a stainless steel toy or two chilling. That funny looking ottoman in the living room you ask, let me “rock your world”

Yes to the neighbors wondering, guests to our home do wear long coats year round and carry a variety of bags [with outfits and toys]. We respect your privacy, please respect ours.

Poster with sex room here, we have a collection of stainless steel dildos and plugs. Freezing them can be used to provide and different sensation or if used safely for fun torture.

Did I miss where someone asked for elaboration?

I don’t think it was elaborating, sounds more like the full picture of what would surprise people about them behind closed doors.

Some people live very full and exciting private lives.

We are as kinky as it gets but I want to know what kind of play you get down to that requires freezing stainless steel toys? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

My DH- who seems loving on the outside and often is loving, has been speculated by therapists to have possible "multiple personalities" and several times a year will threaten to leave us, divorce me, find a girlfriend, and say terrible things; then the next day, acts as if nothing has happened and that he loves me. It is a dark secret life.

[Anonymous]

Sorry this is horrible, and I know that there is a lot of suffering due to COVID, but we're both secretly glad that we don't have to accept dinner party invitations and can just say that we're not comfortable doing so yet. Yes, I know we should just be able to refuse them anyway, and we need to get better about it. It's just that I don't think we realized how introverted we are until COVID started.