What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't hide it now, but when we were first married I didn't know how to fight properly and was very passive aggressive.

Some of you may recall that I am the person who bedazzled the pockets and fly on DH's favorite jeans when I got angry at him.

Now that I have grown up (and we've gone to counseling and I learned how to productively argue) and a lot of time has passed, we can both laugh about it.

I remember and will never forget. I loved this.

[Anonymous]

DW is incredibly sexy after 3 kids and 40 y/o. Dresses well in yoga pants and tight shirts. But we haven’t been intimate in several years. The breasts, I paid for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW is incredibly sexy after 3 kids and 40 y/o. Dresses well in yoga pants and tight shirts. But we haven’t been intimate in several years. The breasts, I paid for.

How do you cope?

[Anonymous]

00:01 Not easy coping. Undressed isn’t as nice.

[Anonymous]

Well...both of us snack in bed. Each morning we carry down plates, cups and spoons that have been amassed from the previous night in our bedroom. We pretend that we are strict about meals and eat together as a family...but in reality we all are eating in front of the TV.

[Anonymous]

When I first met DW, she was having casual sex with a guy who already had a girlfriend. I guess that mad her the other woman. Eventually when they broke it off, DW became my FWB. Eventually, we settled down and got married. But I still view DW as a booty call. If you knew her you would be surprised, she is svelt and classy looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW is incredibly sexy after 3 kids and 40 y/o. Dresses well in yoga pants and tight shirts. But we haven’t been intimate in several years. The breasts, I paid for.

She’s banging someone else. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I first met DW, she was having casual sex with a guy who already had a girlfriend. I guess that mad her the other woman. Eventually when they broke it off, DW became my FWB. Eventually, we settled down and got married. But I still view DW as a booty call. If you knew her you would be surprised, she is svelt and classy looking.

Ummm. I’d keep a close eye on her. She’s most likely to do it to you too eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't hide it now, but when we were first married I didn't know how to fight properly and was very passive aggressive.

Some of you may recall that I am the person who bedazzled the pockets and fly on DH's favorite jeans when I got angry at him.

Now that I have grown up (and we've gone to counseling and I learned how to productively argue) and a lot of time has passed, we can both laugh about it.

You were inducted into the DCUM Hall of Fame!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have different rooms. We visit each other at night for sex. The reason for different rooms is - different sleep schedules, temperature preference, light preference, tidiness, bed hardness and morning noisiness. We have sex around 3 -4 times a week. Actually, being in bed together for even a nap means that we will have sex - its our Pavlovian response.

I read this as "morning hardness", lol.

[Anonymous]

DW has realized she like women too, after 15 years of marriage. She regrets the lack of experience. Otherwise, things seem normal and above average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW is incredibly sexy after 3 kids and 40 y/o. Dresses well in yoga pants and tight shirts. But we haven’t been intimate in several years. The breasts, I paid for.

She’s banging someone else. Sorry.

My guess too. I mean, lots of marriages are sexless and women get tired of sex with their DHs. That's common. But wanting fake breasts with zero interest in sex? Doesn't make sense, I would assume she got them to snag someone else and succeeded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW has realized she like women too, after 15 years of marriage. She regrets the lack of experience. Otherwise, things seem normal and above average.

so what’s the problem? Let her go explore and experiment - doesn’t mean you have to be involved, just there for support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I first met DW, she was having casual sex with a guy who already had a girlfriend. I guess that mad her the other woman. Eventually when they broke it off, DW became my FWB. Eventually, we settled down and got married. But I still view DW as a booty call. If you knew her you would be surprised, she is svelt and classy looking.

maybe she wants to be a hotwife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW has realized she like women too, after 15 years of marriage. She regrets the lack of experience. Otherwise, things seem normal and above average.

so what’s the problem? Let her go explore and experiment - doesn’t mean you have to be involved, just there for support.

Why would any spouse support that? You want your husband out there exploring and experimenting with other men? Oh it’s okay because she is a woman and we should not apply the same standards.