Moms of sons - do you guide your son to be respectful of girls?

[Anonymous]

I wish there was a way to block the stupid arm grabbing posts. Holy shit, it's so dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:All this screaming about consent, yet still no clear definition what consent would mean. Once the poster said grabbing arm without consent could be sexual assault I lost interest. Sometimes I go up to my friend and before I say hello I grab her arm to get her attention. This can now be sexual assault. Insanity.

I didn't say that grabbing somebody's arm without their consent is sexual assault. I said that it's assault. And unless you're fine with random people on the Metro grabbing your arm whenever they feel like it, you think it's assault too.

OVER.THE.TOP. Frighteningly so.

So when a random person on the Metro grabs your arm, you think, "Oh hey, no problem, nice to meet you!"?

We're talking about PEOPLE WE KNOW. My God, you veer from one extreme to another.

If you're talking about PEOPLE YOU KNOW, then you should say that. Like this: "When I'm talking about arm-grabbing, I'm referring to grabbing the arms of my friends, not the arms of random strangers on the street."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this question insulting of both girls and boys.

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Interesting. I don't find it insulting. Because whether we like it or not, there is still a significant power imbalance in our culture that favors boys/men.

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Obviously we as parents - both moms and dads are not doing enough considering the imbalance in sexual attacks on one gender vs the other.

What I find surprising here is the quick jump to tell girls to respect and stand up for themselves - a little like blaming the victim. Boys need have have respect for girls instilled in the just as mush - if not more because we as a society are constantly fighting the power of the penis,,,,,

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All this screaming about consent, yet still no clear definition what consent would mean. Once the poster said grabbing arm without consent could be sexual assault I lost interest. Sometimes I go up to my friend and before I say hello I grab her arm to get her attention. This can now be sexual assault. Insanity.

I didn't say that grabbing somebody's arm without their consent is sexual assault. I said that it's assault. And unless you're fine with random people on the Metro grabbing your arm whenever they feel like it, you think it's assault too.

OVER.THE.TOP. Frighteningly so.

So when a random person on the Metro grabs your arm, you think, "Oh hey, no problem, nice to meet you!"?

We're talking about PEOPLE WE KNOW. My God, you veer from one extreme to another.

If you're talking about PEOPLE YOU KNOW, then you should say that. Like this: "When I'm talking about arm-grabbing, I'm referring to grabbing the arms of my friends, not the arms of random strangers on the street."

You know, the arm-grabbing example has really jumped the shark. It's beyond stupid. Moving on...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a son and a daughter. And while I certainly teach them BOTH to be respectful of EVERYONE, I do plan on spending some extra time and energy with my son and teaching not only respect, but about consent, what to do if a girl is passed out (you would be amazed at how many "nice guys" think the answer is "fuck her" and not realize this is rape), what to do when his *friends* are being disrespectful and so forth.

Too many parents think treating and training their sons and daughters identically in this regard is the way to go, fair, etc, but becaues I know so many women who have been sexually assaulted by boys/guys they know, there certainly is a problem in our culture, and I want to be part of the solution, so hell yeah, I will be teaching my son about respecting girls.

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This this this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this question insulting of both girls and boys.

+1

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Interesting. I don't find it insulting. Because whether we like it or not, there is still a significant power imbalance in our culture that favors boys/men.

+1M

Obviously we as parents - both moms and dads are not doing enough considering the imbalance in sexual attacks on one gender vs the other.

What I find surprising here is the quick jump to tell girls to respect and stand up for themselves - a little like blaming the victim. Boys need have have respect for girls instilled in the just as mush - if not more because we as a society are constantly fighting the power of the penis,,,,,

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"THe power of the penis" .... so true. It tends to fill with all the blood from the brain and prevents logical thinking!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have a son and a daughter. And while I certainly teach them BOTH to be respectful of EVERYONE, I do plan on spending some extra time and energy with my son and teaching not only respect, but about consent, what to do if a girl is passed out (you would be amazed at how many "nice guys" think the answer is "fuck her" and not realize this is rape), what to do when his *friends* are being disrespectful and so forth.

Too many parents think treating and training their sons and daughters identically in this regard is the way to go, fair, etc, but becaues I know so many women who have been sexually assaulted by boys/guys they know, there certainly is a problem in our culture, and I want to be part of the solution, so hell yeah, I will be teaching my son about respecting girls.

+100000

This this this.

Just wait till your sons ex girlfriend due to spite accuses him of rape. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find this question insulting of both girls and boys.

+1

+2

Interesting. I don't find it insulting. Because whether we like it or not, there is still a significant power imbalance in our culture that favors boys/men.

+1M

Obviously we as parents - both moms and dads are not doing enough considering the imbalance in sexual attacks on one gender vs the other.

What I find surprising here is the quick jump to tell girls to respect and stand up for themselves - a little like blaming the victim. Boys need have have respect for girls instilled in the just as mush - if not more because we as a society are constantly fighting the power of the penis,,,,,

+1

"THe power of the penis" .... so true. It tends to fill with all the blood from the brain and prevents logical thinking!!!!

Yet another example how innately you really just hate men and boys in particular. So much for being impartial

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a son and a daughter. And while I certainly teach them BOTH to be respectful of EVERYONE, I do plan on spending some extra time and energy with my son and teaching not only respect, but about consent, what to do if a girl is passed out (you would be amazed at how many "nice guys" think the answer is "fuck her" and not realize this is rape), what to do when his *friends* are being disrespectful and so forth.

Too many parents think treating and training their sons and daughters identically in this regard is the way to go, fair, etc, but becaues I know so many women who have been sexually assaulted by boys/guys they know, there certainly is a problem in our culture, and I want to be part of the solution, so hell yeah, I will be teaching my son about respecting girls.

+100000

This this this.

Just wait till your sons ex girlfriend due to spite accuses him of rape. Good luck.

Just wait until your son gets a giraffe and a monkey, and then you'll see.

[Anonymous]

Wait until you 18 yo college student bangs a 15 yo townie that claims to be a college student and has the moves to prove it.

[Anonymous]

And you just wait until your house grows wings and flies away like the wizard of oz!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And you just wait until your house grows wings and flies away like the wizard of oz!

You are blind to the reality of what goes on and because you are so close minded you will never be part of anything but the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait until you 18 yo college student bangs a 15 yo townie that claims to be a college student and has the moves to prove it.

Why the hell is your son "banging" minors??? Gross. Y

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And you just wait until your house grows wings and flies away like the wizard of oz!

You are blind to the reality of what goes on and because you are so close minded you will never be part of anything but the problem.

You just wait until a monkey flies out of your butt! Then you'll see!

[Anonymous]

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