Can’t have water, apparently

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you can't be so thirsty that you have to have a glass of water nearby at all times. Just drink at the sink when you need to.

This is not the hill to die on.

What universe do you live in that, when you have guests, they don’t each have their own glass, to refill as needed? Good god.

How does that work? You issue each guest a glass upon arrival? And you're cool with them leaving that glass anywhere (I'm guessing it's monogrammed or something so each guest knows which randomly placed glass is theirs to refill as needed?)

I'm saying OP is overstating her need for constant water on demand -- she could just go drink a glass of water when she's thirsty and put the glass in the dishwasher as MIL prefers.

This business of always having water by your side is a very recent thing. Once upon a time, we drank a glass of water and that was it. We didn't need to continually sip at a nasty, bacteria laden $100 thermos all day long.

Ok. I understand that there are people in the world who have disordered thinking about food, but I never realized there were people like this about water. Seriously? We’re judging people on *water* intake?

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Sorry, don't care that more facts came late in the thread. An adult married couple, one of whom is pregnant, is not allowed to sleep with the bedroom door closed while guests in the house?! Should have led with that one OP, it's even nuttier than the water glass situation. Definitely stay elsewhere in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

So was it more than the water glasses that was causing a problem?

OP here. Yes, everything is so rigid. Everyone expected to sit in a circle and talk at all times, no breaks or even leafing through a magazine. No food outside of sparse, set meals with MIL loudly commenting on portions. No deviating from set plans, even if new opportunities or whims come up. Everything has to be done a certain way, you’re not even allowed to sleep with your door completely closed. We’ve had enough rigidity and have decided that it was one thing to walk on eggshells when it was just us, but we won’t be wasting our energy on that when baby is here.

No problem, they can visit us, or we can stay in a hotel, or we can stay with DH’s aunt who lives near them, and is so warm and accommodating.

So you buried the big picture under the one detail about water glasses. And you're only giving the real and infinitely more meaningful context above, now, many, many pages into this thread. If your communication and ability to identify actual issues are this weak, no wonder you can't cope or use words with MIL like an adult. I'm sure you feel so very aggrieved and right. I would have agreed with you, too--back on page one. But the choice to focus here on the water nonsense instead of telling us about the far larger totality of things is a sympathy-killer for me. Not that you care, of course! You've also now produced for us the wonderful aunt who solves the whole problem!

Why the F post in the first place?! Auntie didn't just materialize, and neither did your issues with MIL. But hey, the water glass anecdote was just too vivid to resist posting as if it were the main event!

This response is comedy gold. I hope this is satire because you are wound waaay too tight, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Get three glasses and fill them with water, then put one in the farthest rooms apart in the house. When you hear them go around and start to gather, fill up more in the kitchen. Repeat. If you do this enough, they’ll be so busy finding and washing glasses they won’t be able to talk to anyone. Let them wear themselves out!

They will run out of glasses LOL

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Anonymous wrote:Jeez. Why don’t you just put the water bottle inside your purse/backpack and zip it up? They like a neat house and are afraid about slippery slope (starts with one unwashed item, leads to more). It’s their house and they’re your DH’s parents who you have to deal with more than once.

Dogs and cats living together, mass hysteria!

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Anonymous wrote:I have to wonder if all these posts are fake. We don't allow water/drinks all over the house. Keep a bottle in the kitchen or fridge.

What? I have water bottles in my bedroom. I go to the bathroom and drink water at least 2-3 times a night. People are different. They are not like you and they don't inspire to be like you.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

So was it more than the water glasses that was causing a problem?

OP here. Yes, everything is so rigid. Everyone expected to sit in a circle and talk at all times, no breaks or even leafing through a magazine. No food outside of sparse, set meals with MIL loudly commenting on portions. No deviating from set plans, even if new opportunities or whims come up. Everything has to be done a certain way, you’re not even allowed to sleep with your door completely closed. We’ve had enough rigidity and have decided that it was one thing to walk on eggshells when it was just us, but we won’t be wasting our energy on that when baby is here.

No problem, they can visit us, or we can stay in a hotel, or we can stay with DH’s aunt who lives near them, and is so warm and accommodating.

I knew there would be food issues. These types are all the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

You are clueless. Being dehydrated can lead to premature labor. I drink all day long and don't have diabetes. I know it can be an issue in pregnancy but you are being shrill.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you can't be so thirsty that you have to have a glass of water nearby at all times. Just drink at the sink when you need to.

This is not the hill to die on.

So you think pregnant OP is supposed to stand at the sink to drink? That's like the dog with a waterbowl designated spot. Mat under it for slop. Those inlaws are absurd. Were they always like this? If somebody has a cup or glass used during a meal they get a new one at our house for none meal drinking usually. When kids were little all households were more careful about glass stuff left on coasters etc.

Do they let OP eat between meals? Non table eating or snacking?

I agree. That pp is weird. I am not going to stand at a sink and drink when I'm thirsty. Crazy weirdness here.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

Niiiice.

Team OP all the way.

+1

Team OP. Winning.

Another +1. Good for you, OP. Begin the way you mean to continue, especially with a baby on the way,

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Anonymous wrote:That is way too much. I would leave. Weirdos.

You'd leave? People on DCUM amuse me. OP is the guest in this home and yes, MIL is being a fusspot but not nuts or OCD. If OP is this incensed to her core over this silly thing, OP is going to have one hell of a time when there's a baby and MIL (or, God forbid! DH himself, or anyone else remotely in OP's orbit) does something that gets on OP's apparently very easily upset nerves. OP seems to be a humor-free zone about this, which begs the question: About what else might she be so uptight?

MIL isn't demanding that OP wash all these glasses. MIL is being a neat freak, sure, but in her own home, and creating work for HERSELF, not for OP. But instead of rolling her eyes a bit and joking about it with DH and letting it go, OP has to make her water A Hill To Die On.

Before someone leaps in to yelp, "But! But but but what about the water bottle that is OP's ownnnn!" Yes, that was silly, but FFS, tell MIL once firmly, using your words like an adult: "Hey, I get that you worry about glasses being left around so that's why I brought in my bottle. Please don't move it or clean it -- I have a particular way of cleaning it and will do that myself. Just pretend it's invisible!" But nah, OP would rather be offended. .And again---MIL is not doing this at OP's own home. You can be a freak at your own place, and guests can leave if they want, but leaving over this? OP had better be ready to leave over every other quirk she encounters too. In fact, just send DH to see his folks solo from now on. OP must not find much to like in her MIL if this one ridiculous thing would be such a big deal to OP.

You know what? OP can also just not visit MIL, ever. And if her son remembers to visit her, then sure, he can do it alone.

Hey, OP, sounds like a good plan. You can all meet up at a neutral location or she can come to your place under your rules, if you are going to stay involved in this. Jesus.

You are wound very tight. Scarily so.

Yeah, I can bear seeing a glass on a coaster for more than three minutes, so.

Nah, that's not it. The extreme over reaction to a glass being moved is bizarre. If you're so chill to be cool with a a glass resting then what's with the rage with it being moved?

Are we talking about one glass, or six glasses in a row every time I put it down, plus you going through the guest room to confiscate my water bottle? Because you may be reading a different thread.

It's a freaking water glass. Who really cares? The people raging about it being moved are as nut as the MIL. Different side of the same coin.

Hey, it's probably time for you to count the number of screws in your cabinets again. Better get on that.

Maybe you need a good screwing. Might help your anger problem.

Oh, you’re a teenager. That explains everything.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

So was it more than the water glasses that was causing a problem?

OP here. Yes, everything is so rigid. Everyone expected to sit in a circle and talk at all times, no breaks or even leafing through a magazine. No food outside of sparse, set meals with MIL loudly commenting on portions. No deviating from set plans, even if new opportunities or whims come up. Everything has to be done a certain way, you’re not even allowed to sleep with your door completely closed. We’ve had enough rigidity and have decided that it was one thing to walk on eggshells when it was just us, but we won’t be wasting our energy on that when baby is here.

No problem, they can visit us, or we can stay in a hotel, or we can stay with DH’s aunt who lives near them, and is so warm and accommodating.

So you buried the big picture under the one detail about water glasses. And you're only giving the real and infinitely more meaningful context above, now, many, many pages into this thread. If your communication and ability to identify actual issues are this weak, no wonder you can't cope or use words with MIL like an adult. I'm sure you feel so very aggrieved and right. I would have agreed with you, too--back on page one. But the choice to focus here on the water nonsense instead of telling us about the far larger totality of things is a sympathy-killer for me. Not that you care, of course! You've also now produced for us the wonderful aunt who solves the whole problem!

Why the F post in the first place?! Auntie didn't just materialize, and neither did your issues with MIL. But hey, the water glass anecdote was just too vivid to resist posting as if it were the main event!

Blah blah blah. Go touch grass.

(not OP)

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

So was it more than the water glasses that was causing a problem?

OP here. Yes, everything is so rigid. Everyone expected to sit in a circle and talk at all times, no breaks or even leafing through a magazine. No food outside of sparse, set meals with MIL loudly commenting on portions. No deviating from set plans, even if new opportunities or whims come up. Everything has to be done a certain way, you’re not even allowed to sleep with your door completely closed. We’ve had enough rigidity and have decided that it was one thing to walk on eggshells when it was just us, but we won’t be wasting our energy on that when baby is here.

No problem, they can visit us, or we can stay in a hotel, or we can stay with DH’s aunt who lives near them, and is so warm and accommodating.

So you buried the big picture under the one detail about water glasses. And you're only giving the real and infinitely more meaningful context above, now, many, many pages into this thread. If your communication and ability to identify actual issues are this weak, no wonder you can't cope or use words with MIL like an adult. I'm sure you feel so very aggrieved and right. I would have agreed with you, too--back on page one. But the choice to focus here on the water nonsense instead of telling us about the far larger totality of things is a sympathy-killer for me. Not that you care, of course! You've also now produced for us the wonderful aunt who solves the whole problem!

Why the F post in the first place?! Auntie didn't just materialize, and neither did your issues with MIL. But hey, the water glass anecdote was just too vivid to resist posting as if it were the main event!

Whoa. Are you ok?

I mean, clearly not.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is going to lose her mind when the baby comes. Is she going to empty out and wash the bottles?

OP here. I guess we won’t be finding out, as DH and I left earlier than planned and have agreed that it’s best if we stay in a hotel going forward. We wouldn’t want MIL and FIL to be upset by any mess we might make with a new baby in their house. They can come to us, or perhaps we’ll stay with MIL’s sister, DH’s favorite aunt, who lives close to MIL. She’s a really easygoing hostess.

Thanks all for the perspectives!

So was it more than the water glasses that was causing a problem?

OP here. Yes, everything is so rigid. Everyone expected to sit in a circle and talk at all times, no breaks or even leafing through a magazine. No food outside of sparse, set meals with MIL loudly commenting on portions. No deviating from set plans, even if new opportunities or whims come up. Everything has to be done a certain way, you’re not even allowed to sleep with your door completely closed. We’ve had enough rigidity and have decided that it was one thing to walk on eggshells when it was just us, but we won’t be wasting our energy on that when baby is here.

No problem, they can visit us, or we can stay in a hotel, or we can stay with DH’s aunt who lives near them, and is so warm and accommodating.

So you buried the big picture under the one detail about water glasses. And you're only giving the real and infinitely more meaningful context above, now, many, many pages into this thread. If your communication and ability to identify actual issues are this weak, no wonder you can't cope or use words with MIL like an adult. I'm sure you feel so very aggrieved and right. I would have agreed with you, too--back on page one. But the choice to focus here on the water nonsense instead of telling us about the far larger totality of things is a sympathy-killer for me. Not that you care, of course! You've also now produced for us the wonderful aunt who solves the whole problem!

Why the F post in the first place?! Auntie didn't just materialize, and neither did your issues with MIL. But hey, the water glass anecdote was just too vivid to resist posting as if it were the main event!

That should be OP's face. She has valid complaints more serious than the water glass stupidity, yet only trickled them out 15 pages in.

Yea, no. PP’s rage over something that didn’t happen to her is insane. Completely bonkers.

Love how people here revert to criticizing those who point out that OP buried the lead.

Lede.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! My mom does this but switching to a water bottle fixed it. This is a lot.

This