Husband’s Announcement

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

I wasn't speaking of arrogance in her marriage. I'm talking about her refusal to leave the DMV.

The fact that you think the issue is merely geography says everything about your understanding of marriage.

I know it's not about geography. OP thinks she's too good for the rest of the country. Cry me a river.

She has a job here. It's not arrogant to want to have a plan for supporting your family.

If she's as special as she thinks she is, she'll have no trouble finding another.

Tell me you don't have a career without telling me you don't have a career.

Most women have jobs not “careers.“

And the same is true for men.

[Anonymous]

I like sleeping with macho male R’s

But an actual relationship with one, no way

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Father here. I feel his pain — with my kids in local schools facing a remarkable level of unwanted indoctrination. But, he can’t just declare his desire and force change. I hope you and he can find some level of reasonable accommodation — for the sake of your children. But, again, the default is the current as-is and it takes a mutual OK to change…

I ended up pulling my kids out of school and homeschooling for a while until we found another school. What really killed me was that so much time was being spent on this social indoctrination and social emotional learning, but no one seemed to have time to spend with kids who were struggling with math or writing. So, they were going to school during the day where they were being taught social values, then coming home where I had to teach them how to do long division and read actual good books that weren’t free from scholastic or written by Dav Pilkey. It’s so backwards.

I live in Omaha, by the way. Dead center fly over country.

Thanks for this relevant post. /s

You can have Omaha. In fact, please stay there.

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Why does he want to move to a place where neither provider has a job? Sounds irresponsible.

Maybe he is frustrated because you have been ignoring him? He feels unheard?

Try mediation.

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

I wasn't speaking of arrogance in her marriage. I'm talking about her refusal to leave the DMV.

The fact that you think the issue is merely geography says everything about your understanding of marriage.

I know it's not about geography. OP thinks she's too good for the rest of the country. Cry me a river.

She has a job here. It's not arrogant to want to have a plan for supporting your family.

If she's as special as she thinks she is, she'll have no trouble finding another.

Tell me you don't have a career without telling me you don't have a career.

Most women have jobs not “careers.“

That is EXTREMELY old fashioned and sexist.

Try keeping up with the times.

[Anonymous]

I would be worried about HIS influence on the kids.

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OP ~ YOU and the kids do not move until one of you has accepted a job that you can both agree on.

You can not and should not impede his job search, wish to move. But he has no job. Not yet. There is nothing, yet, to decide.

You do not move first, on a hope and a prayer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Father here. I feel his pain — with my kids in local schools facing a remarkable level of unwanted indoctrination. But, he can’t just declare his desire and force change. I hope you and he can find some level of reasonable accommodation — for the sake of your children. But, again, the default is the current as-is and it takes a mutual OK to change…

Psycho, I think the word you are looking for is education.

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I wouldn’t move, even if he does line up a job there.
I’ve been a military wife, and this is different.
I can actually see this happening in my life and I will not follow my husband if he decides to move somewhere I don’t want to live. It’s a lot to ask to uproot a family’s life for some fantasy.

Good luck, OP, sending you good thoughts.

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Anonymous wrote:If I was his lawyer my advice would be to not move, but to quit his job. The family can live on one income for a while since the wife believe her career is adequate to take care of the children.

Misogynistic CLOWN-take a seat the sane adults are talking

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Anonymous wrote:Father here. I feel his pain — with my kids in local schools facing a remarkable level of unwanted indoctrination. But, he can’t just declare his desire and force change. I hope you and he can find some level of reasonable accommodation — for the sake of your children. But, again, the default is the current as-is and it takes a mutual OK to change…

I ended up pulling my kids out of school and homeschooling for a while until we found another school. What really killed me was that so much time was being spent on this social indoctrination and social emotional learning, but no one seemed to have time to spend with kids who were struggling with math or writing. So, they were going to school during the day where they were being taught social values, then coming home where I had to teach them how to do long division and read actual good books that weren’t free from scholastic or written by Dav Pilkey. It’s so backwards.

I live in Omaha, by the way. Dead center fly over country.

Thanks for this relevant post. /s

You can have Omaha. In fact, please stay there.

It’s relevant that this same issue exists in flyover country. You can’t move away from it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- he wants to move to a more conservative area because of the influence on our kids. We do not have jobs there- he wants to just move and then find jobs once we get there. Our professional experiences don’t easily translate to areas outside DC. I told him if he finds a job where he makes the combination of his and my current salary then I would go. But I’m not just leaving a life and job here without something specific to go to in hopes of finding something.

I havent read the responses but it's worth noting that if you move to that state and establish residence and THEN get divorced, that will be your residence -- so he 'd be entitled to keep the kids there. so you could be stuck in a state without an income, his or yours, and there until they are old enough to decide where they want to be unless you want to move away frmo them.

Double check me but:

This is true it happened to my friend.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- he wants to move to a more conservative area because of the influence on our kids. We do not have jobs there- he wants to just move and then find jobs once we get there. Our professional experiences don’t easily translate to areas outside DC. I told him if he finds a job where he makes the combination of his and my current salary then I would go. But I’m not just leaving a life and job here without something specific to go to in hopes of finding something.

I havent read the responses but it's worth noting that if you move to that state and establish residence and THEN get divorced, that will be your residence -- so he 'd be entitled to keep the kids there. so you could be stuck in a state without an income, his or yours, and there until they are old enough to decide where they want to be unless you want to move away frmo them.

Double check me but:

This is true it happened to my friend.

Same. Even worse: he moved the family from California to Utah. At 9 years and 10 mos into the marriage. Filed 6 mos after they arrived.

I couldn't believe she agreed to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Father here. I feel his pain — with my kids in local schools facing a remarkable level of unwanted indoctrination. But, he can’t just declare his desire and force change. I hope you and he can find some level of reasonable accommodation — for the sake of your children. But, again, the default is the current as-is and it takes a mutual OK to change…

So learning that Rosa Parks was asked to move from her seat on a bus because she had "black" skin is indoctrination? You must be some kind of special snowflake.

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Anonymous wrote:Father here. I feel his pain — with my kids in local schools facing a remarkable level of unwanted indoctrination. But, he can’t just declare his desire and force change. I hope you and he can find some level of reasonable accommodation — for the sake of your children. But, again, the default is the current as-is and it takes a mutual OK to change…

I ended up pulling my kids out of school and homeschooling for a while until we found another school. What really killed me was that so much time was being spent on this social indoctrination and social emotional learning, but no one seemed to have time to spend with kids who were struggling with math or writing. So, they were going to school during the day where they were being taught social values, then coming home where I had to teach them how to do long division and read actual good books that weren’t free from scholastic or written by Dav Pilkey. It’s so backwards.

I live in Omaha, by the way. Dead center fly over country.

Thanks for this relevant post. /s

You can have Omaha. In fact, please stay there.

It’s relevant that this same issue exists in flyover country. You can’t move away from it.

Maybe the problem is not "it" but you?