Is it ethical to outsource pregnancy?

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Anonymous wrote:Surrogacy is rich women using poor women and all surrogacy should be illegal.

Surrogacy Capitalism is rich women using poor women and all surrogacy capitalism should be illegal.

Lady, if you pay other women to scrub your toilets then you’re in no position to get sanctimonious about surrogacy.

Cleaning my toilets every two weeks takes 30 minutes of her TIME whereas pregnancy is nine months of a woman's LIFE and can put her life in danger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sure why not. you are going to outsource raising your baby anyway. just try to remember what your baby looks like in case you forget

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In England surrogacy can be voluntary but cannot be compensated (beyond medical costs). I do think that removes the risk of women being coerced due to economic circumstances, although I think that is more likely is poorer countries than in the US.

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Anonymous wrote:Surrogacy is rich women using poor women and all surrogacy should be illegal.

It’s not just women who use surrogacy instead of adoption. I am not sure where I fall on this topic though admit feeling uncomfortable with how the way a gay couple we know fairly well referred to their surrogate. Very transactional and much of their phrasing smacked of a lack of knowledge or consideration of the complexities of pregnancy and women’s bodies in general.

That said, I also respect that everyone should have a right to form the families of their choosing and that many surrogates may be making the decision to engage quite willingly for a variety of reasons.

It’s tough. I wouldn’t do it. But also don’t think my place to pass judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:In England surrogacy can be voluntary but cannot be compensated (beyond medical costs). I do think that removes the risk of women being coerced due to economic circumstances, although I think that is more likely is poorer countries than in the US.

same in the US. Its state by state but I think all states require that "comp" be actually just related to the hardship of surrogacy. As someone who had a child by surrogate - it was an enormous blessing - I cannot have kids do to a deformed uterus I was born with - and the fact that someone chose to help me is the biggest gift I can imagine getting.

I cant fathom asking someone to do that just cause you dont want stretch marks or cant fit it in your schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:If you don’t have any medical reason to do so. I just don’t want to be pregnant again, gain weight and have to try to lose it again. have my body change permanently, give birth etc.

And I can easily afford a surrogate.

Would you do it in my situation?

Why would anyone deliberately cause trauma to a newborn by taking her from her mother?

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Anonymous wrote:If you don’t have any medical reason to do so. I just don’t want to be pregnant again, gain weight and have to try to lose it again. have my body change permanently, give birth etc.

And I can easily afford a surrogate.

Would you do it in my situation?

Why would anyone deliberately cause trauma to a newborn by taking her from her mother?

Because she is selfish, entitled, and amoral. No child should have a mother like this

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In England surrogacy can be voluntary but cannot be compensated (beyond medical costs). I do think that removes the risk of women being coerced due to economic circumstances, although I think that is more likely is poorer countries than in the US.

same in the US. Its state by state but I think all states require that "comp" be actually just related to the hardship of surrogacy. As someone who had a child by surrogate - it was an enormous blessing - I cannot have kids do to a deformed uterus I was born with - and the fact that someone chose to help me is the biggest gift I can imagine getting.

I cant fathom asking someone to do that just cause you dont want stretch marks or cant fit it in your schedule.

We don't always get what we want. Adoption was available for you. Surrogacy put another woman's life in potential risk. Maybe a relative would have been your surrogate for purely altruistic reasons but poor women do it because they need the money. No difference between surrogacy and prostitution, is there?

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I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

This is nothing to brag about.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

This is nothing to brag about.

Not the poster you were responding to, but I’m always glad to see people choose adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

This is nothing to brag about.

Not the poster you were responding to, but I’m always glad to see people choose adoption.

Adoption is more often than not a traumatic experience for the adoptee & birth mother.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

This is nothing to brag about.

Not the poster you were responding to, but I’m always glad to see people choose adoption.

Adoption is more often than not a traumatic experience for the adoptee & birth mother.

But not as traumatic as being raised by people who want to give you up for adoption or have abusive or negligent enough to have their children taken away

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

This is nothing to brag about.

Not the poster you were responding to, but I’m always glad to see people choose adoption.

Adoption is more often than not a traumatic experience for the adoptee & birth mother.

…As if leaving babies and young children to be raised within a state’s foster care system (or the overseas equivalent, etc?) is the better option here?

By choose adoption, I mean when people choose to adopt. There are a lot of babies and kids who need loving homes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never put my body through pregnancy. I adopted my kids.

This is nothing to brag about.

Not the poster you were responding to, but I’m always glad to see people choose adoption.

Adoption is more often than not a traumatic experience for the adoptee & birth mother.

…As if leaving babies and young children to be raised within a state’s foster care system (or the overseas equivalent, etc?) is the better option here?

By choose adoption, I mean when people choose to adopt. There are a lot of babies and kids who need loving homes.

Abortion access is the better option. Something that many women who give a baby up for adoption didn’t have access to.