Apologize for being a bridezilla many years ago?
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Anonymous
| I was married when I was 23 (now 31) and in retrospect, I think I was pretty bridezilla about a few things and hurt some feelings. A few of my high school friends stopped talking to me shortly thereafter and I didn't really get it at first, but a few years later realized how my behavior looked to them. I thought at the time that I was being reasonable and nice, but now I'm embarassed. One of these things to just let go and chalk up to maturing? Or is there some way to apologize? |
Anonymous
| Are you my SIL? If she apologized now, I would be surprised, but it might go a long way to mend those broken friendships. I don't know how you would do it, except track everyone down and show up on their doorsteps. Hey, sounds like a good reality show. |
Anonymous
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"Never explain, never apologize"
- Abraham Lincoln |
Anonymous
| I would appreciate it. And it will lift some of the burden from you that you feel now. An email or written note would be good with me. No phone call. |
Anonymous
| If you're posting about it, you probably should. You have nothing to lose and its the right thing to do. |
Anonymous
| I'd send an email apologizing. That is also part of the maturing process. |
Anonymous
| I think it depends. Just how bridezilla were you, OP? |
Anonymous
see also -Richard Nixon -John Gotti |
Anonymous
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I think this is a fake post, OP.
Are some brides really THAT nasty? Really? |
Anonymous
| Sign of weakness. |
Anonymous
No, Lincoln would do both. I think this was said by John Wayne in the movie "She Wore a Yellow Ribbon." I would reach out to the former friends. Call them up, chit chat a little then tell them you are sorry. It may be too late to salvage the friendships but I think they would appreciate it. |
Anonymous
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Apology needs to be sincere. Needs to be not simply to assuage the sense of guilt that you now have due to your maturity giving you perspective. Or to get back the benefits of the friendships you lost. Needs to allow the recipient an "out" and an opportunity to process your message and decide what to do with it (become great friends again? Sigh of relief, "thank you" and move on? Reject?).
If you do it right, you could mend relationships. Always positive. |
Anonymous
| What did you do? |
Anonymous
YES!!!! To the very real nasty brides, I also think this is a real post even thought I question what brings her to post now, 8 years later... |
Anonymous
| I think there are an awful lot of people willing to CALL brides names or try to call them nasty, because it is the brides day and the miserable person does not like that it is the brides day. |