Bennifer Revisited

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody thinks addled always pines me for jlo. He could Have had her any time he wanted in the past 20 years and had several “serious” relationships in between. I think he likes her and plays along but would move on in like 3 minutes if this doesn’t work out.

What?

LOL, I think addled is supposed to say Affleck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be so smart, talented, and successful, yet still constantly need and seek ways to get attention is sad.

It really is. And makes their marriage look like a sham (even though I think they do love one another). She's a 50 year old megastar acting like a 23 year old YouTuber.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody thinks addled always pines me for jlo. He could Have had her any time he wanted in the past 20 years and had several “serious” relationships in between. I think he likes her and plays along but would move on in like 3 minutes if this doesn’t work out.

What?

ok, autocorrect:

Nobody thinks Affleck always pined for jlo. He could Have had her any time he wanted in the past 20 years and had several “serious” relationships in between. I think he likes her and plays along but would move on in like 3 minutes if this doesn’t work out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I hate parties where the hosts dictate what the guests have to wear. Unless it’s a costume party, get over yourself.

Also, whose brother says he can’t mKe their wedding cause their kid has a thing that weekend? Yikes.

I heard his kid was leaving for college, seems reasonable. Then the question is why Ben and Jen would choose that date. People usually make sure immediate family can attend.

Because this wedding had nothing to do with family. It was all about optics and getting more press and attention.

1000% this. Go on any wedding board and they will tell you in no uncertain terms that it is bad form to get married and then have a second wedding to pretend to get married yet again. You get one wedding period. For someone who's been married 3 previous times, she should be well aware the optics of this charade are not as favorable as she is desperately seeking. Don't almost all celebrity couples go on a private honeymoon away from the cameras instead of parading around Paris every.single.day to get pics? Then to hold yet another elaborate wedding to get more attention and pics. She needs to get a real life.

That's the missing link she does not have...she knows the optics, i think she just doe not care. Because she believes she controls the narrative largely due to her grandiosity and belief in the power of her own mind. She wants what she wants, and that's typically an over the top flashfest...whether in her performing, her clothing, her professional persona, etc. But most of all her love stories, the stories she tells herself. The love is always deeper, more special, she knows more now, blah blah blah..all things that you show peolle through time, not stuff you have to tell people, like we're all a bunch of seventeen year olds or born yesterday. Oh ok! She said it so it's true.... Jennifer Lopez lacks true humility. And she has an overwhelming capacity to rationalize, as does her new husband. (I heard her once say seriously that really she was truly only married once. ). Whatever. Who the hell knows what created her psyche? Trauma, narcissistic, emotionally immature parents, her having no guidance in young adulthood, emptiness she cannot face, willfullness that borders on pathology. I just don't know. Too much money and fame have made it all worse. It looks f'd up to a lot of us.

[Anonymous]

How is a couple attached to being seen, admired, validated, fed by the public in the most superficial of ways...how will they handle deep, uncontrollable things....like aging and decline? An angry, acting out teen or two in the blended family who tells them for several years to basically fu*k off. Deep drops in fame but for only one of them? Competition? An unexpected, bad relapse? An affair that goes public? Power bids? illness? The feeling after the honeymoon is over, of despair and being trapped in marriage and finding a new way to cope other than leaving when you've both had the experience of leaving several times. I have no answers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is a couple attached to being seen, admired, validated, fed by the public in the most superficial of ways...how will they handle deep, uncontrollable things....like aging and decline? An angry, acting out teen or two in the blended family who tells them for several years to basically fu*k off. Deep drops in fame but for only one of them? Competition? An unexpected, bad relapse? An affair that goes public? Power bids? illness? The feeling after the honeymoon is over, of despair and being trapped in marriage and finding a new way to cope other than leaving when you've both had the experience of leaving several times. I have no answers

5 years, tops.

[Anonymous]

I thought all of that bright white and only bright white and all the guests in bright white looked incredibly tacky.

Ben's smoking is just so awful. It's 2022 for godssakes. How does she tolerate that smell on his lips, tongue, fingernails, clothes? IT's like kissing an ash tray. She's a health nut that doesn't even drink. It's strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love this thread! Here’s my hot take…

Jennifer Garner loved Ben Affleck so much. I don’t know why, but she did. And in return, he walked all over her. And she let him! She helped him get sober, she parented their kids and I think if he is to be considered a “good dad”, it is to her credit. I think he was a miserable little man in their marriage and he’s a miserable little man now.

J.Lo “loves” Ben Affleck but more because she loves what he can do for her - give her a love story, publicity, etc. She doesn’t let him walk all over him which actually makes him respect her more than Jennifer Garner. But I don’t think he’s actually capable of loving another person in a healthy normal way.

I feel bad for J.Lo’s kids. Their dad has a bunch of kids and lives where - Miami probably? And now J.Lo’s kids live in LA. They thought A-Rod was going to be their stepdad and his daughters would be their stepsisters but nope! Now it’s the Affleck kids. These poor Muniz kids just have to roll with it.

The Affleck kids are probably pretty grounded - again, to their mom’s credit. They look like it’s all good in the photos, but blending families is never easy. Especially when your dad marries the woman he dated before your mom (suggesting that he actually never really loved your mom and always pined for the “other Jennifer”) and your new stepmom is this very public figure who is obsessed with her public image.

Even a normal divorce / custody arrangement is tough. Ben and J.Lo have been on red carpets all over the place, I bet they actually spend very little time with their kids. Ugh.

Their dad lives in Miami when not touring. He is currently engaged to a woman who is only 8 years older than them and is younger than some of their half siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought all of that bright white and only bright white and all the guests in bright white looked incredibly tacky.

Ben's smoking is just so awful. It's 2022 for godssakes. How does she tolerate that smell on his lips, tongue, fingernails, clothes? IT's like kissing an ash tray. She's a health nut that doesn't even drink. It's strange.

I think about an episode with esther perel...a couple who started as an affair who later married, he too had a ton of vices. She said to the woman, "it must make you feel special...to imagine YOU will be the only one who can change him...only for you will he change." It exposed a lot if her magical thinking and desire to be special. Dynamics feel similar

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He's her new life project

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's her new life project

Till he can't stay in line...

[Anonymous]

She has been quoted as saying something like, "this has to work" which sounds like a part of her is terrified it won't...but of course it might not

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How is a couple attached to being seen, admired, validated, fed by the public in the most superficial of ways...how will they handle deep, uncontrollable things....like aging and decline? An angry, acting out teen or two in the blended family who tells them for several years to basically fu*k off. Deep drops in fame but for only one of them? Competition? An unexpected, bad relapse? An affair that goes public? Power bids? illness? The feeling after the honeymoon is over, of despair and being trapped in marriage and finding a new way to cope other than leaving when you've both had the experience of leaving several times. I have no answers

5 years, tops.

Wow, you are optimistic . I was going to say 2 years max.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought all of that bright white and only bright white and all the guests in bright white looked incredibly tacky.

Ben's smoking is just so awful. It's 2022 for godssakes. How does she tolerate that smell on his lips, tongue, fingernails, clothes? IT's like kissing an ash tray. She's a health nut that doesn't even drink. It's strange.

I think about an episode with esther perel...a couple who started as an affair who later married, he too had a ton of vices. She said to the woman, "it must make you feel special...to imagine YOU will be the only one who can change him...only for you will he change." It exposed a lot if her magical thinking and desire to be special. Dynamics feel similar

Yep. It's not any woman's fault. They aren't magical. They will all see his demons too. Just give it time.

[Anonymous]

Apparently she had 3 dress changes for the second wedding as well…. For a woman in her 50s and 4th wedding…. Seriously pathetic.