Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

[Anonymous]

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If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

But not as arrogant as parents who try to show off how much smarter their kid is than someone 14 months younger than them.

Any parent who tries to show off how much smarter their kid is than another kid is arrogant. Redshirting has nothing to do with it. Are you really trying to control other peoples’s educational choices for their kids because you are afraid that they will somehow someday lord it over you? Really? That’s a dark world you live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

Well you chose to send your kid to an independent school in Baltimore. You chose to live in Baltimore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even though he's mature and independent and was reading when he started K, he struggles a bit more at school.

Personally, I'd rather my kid do okay playing by the rules than excel by cheating.

LOL. I love how a decision that another family makes is "cheating" just because you are terrified it will give their kid an edge over your precious little Larla.

It's not cheating. The rules explicitly allow it. Make choices for your own family, and let others make theirs without having to listen to your whining about how the small percentage of slightly older kids is ruining your darling's experience.

I guess redshirting isn't cheating as long as the redshirted kid isn't allowed to enter any competitions, such as class president or valedictorian. They also shouldn't be allowed to take honors or AP classes, because if a redshirted kid is feeling bored and unchallenged, all that means is that they shouldn't have been redshirted, and that the parents and school really consider moving them to their age-appropriate grade. If redshirted kids wants to play sports, they should be forced to play in their age-appropriate grade. I don't even think redshirted kids should be allowed to apply to any top-20 colleges.

If parents who redshirt really aren't doing it for competitive reasons, then they should be fine with their child not being allowed to compete. Otherwise, they're taking away the victory from an age-appropriate classmate who truly deserved it. If an 11-year-old 5th-grader becomes class president, that means they're being rewarded for proving that they're smarter than most 10-year-olds(How much sense does that make?). A 15-year-old 9th grader taking all honor's classes is only proving that they're too advanced for 14-year-old work. If a high-school senior who should be a college freshman is named valedictorian, they've just robbed the salutatorian of some well-earned glory. If a redshirted student gets into Harvard, they've just killed a life-long dream of whoever was first on the Harvard waiting list.

You'll be pleased to know that our redshirted kid is still at the bottom of her class - because she has developmental issues. So your snowflakes won't be competing with her for a spot at Harvard. You are a giant ass.

It sounds like your daughter is still in elementary school. Colleges only look at high-school performance. Even if she's not doing well now, a lot could change between now and when she's in school, and the advantage she was given could kick in for then. So yes, it actually is a potential worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

Well you chose to send your kid to an independent school in Baltimore. You chose to live in Baltimore.

You are unbalanced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

Well you chose to send your kid to an independent school in Baltimore. You chose to live in Baltimore.

You are unbalanced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

There are plenty of public schools or other privates that don't require it. Its pointless and a money grab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

There are plenty of public schools or other privates that don't require it. Its pointless and a money grab.

As I have carefully explained to you to no avail, we live in Baltimore. The public schools are not good, and the private schools require redshirting. And somehow, life goes on, our kids get a great education, and there is literally no downside. Except for nuts yowling on DCUM.

My point is that the independent school system in Baltimore is great, because the policies are consistent. Therefore, insecure parents freaking out about how their little darling might be in a class with someone 14 months older just isn’t an issue.

[Anonymous]

I’ve taught. After seeing many children over the years (more children than most non-educator parents will ever know) it’s been stark how asynchronous development is —intellectual, physical, and emotional. Periodic regressions are also quite real. If I see a behavior problem in the classroom, the first thing I do is check the birthdate to see if the child is young for his or her grade. After seeing how difficult things can be for these younger kids (more frequently discipline, trouble with abstract concepts), I’ve recommended to anyone I know well that they redshirt when possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

Well you chose to send your kid to an independent school in Baltimore. You chose to live in Baltimore.

DP. You come across as really, really crazy, you know that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

There are plenty of public schools or other privates that don't require it. Its pointless and a money grab.

As I have carefully explained to you to no avail, we live in Baltimore. The public schools are not good, and the private schools require redshirting. And somehow, life goes on, our kids get a great education, and there is literally no downside. Except for nuts yowling on DCUM.

My point is that the independent school system in Baltimore is great, because the policies are consistent. Therefore, insecure parents freaking out about how their little darling might be in a class with someone 14 months older just isn’t an issue.

Don't waste your breath. That poster can't understand complex trains of thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

Well you chose to send your kid to an independent school in Baltimore. You chose to live in Baltimore.

DP. You come across as really, really crazy, you know that?

+100 Way, WAY too invested in their kid's lives, for their own validation. Competing in sports, class valedictorian, class president -- what makes you think life owes those things to your kid? Just love your own kid for who they are. Who cares if they lose to some random older classmate. It's really not the end of the world. You come across as extremely shallow, OP (if that's OP above).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though he's mature and independent and was reading when he started K, he struggles a bit more at school.

Personally, I'd rather my kid do okay playing by the rules than excel by cheating.

LOL. I love how a decision that another family makes is "cheating" just because you are terrified it will give their kid an edge over your precious little Larla.

It's not cheating. The rules explicitly allow it. Make choices for your own family, and let others make theirs without having to listen to your whining about how the small percentage of slightly older kids is ruining your darling's experience.

I guess redshirting isn't cheating as long as the redshirted kid isn't allowed to enter any competitions, such as class president or valedictorian. They also shouldn't be allowed to take honors or AP classes, because if a redshirted kid is feeling bored and unchallenged, all that means is that they shouldn't have been redshirted, and that the parents and school really consider moving them to their age-appropriate grade. If redshirted kids wants to play sports, they should be forced to play in their age-appropriate grade. I don't even think redshirted kids should be allowed to apply to any top-20 colleges.

If parents who redshirt really aren't doing it for competitive reasons, then they should be fine with their child not being allowed to compete. Otherwise, they're taking away the victory from an age-appropriate classmate who truly deserved it. If an 11-year-old 5th-grader becomes class president, that means they're being rewarded for proving that they're smarter than most 10-year-olds(How much sense does that make?). A 15-year-old 9th grader taking all honor's classes is only proving that they're too advanced for 14-year-old work. If a high-school senior who should be a college freshman is named valedictorian, they've just robbed the salutatorian of some well-earned glory. If a redshirted student gets into Harvard, they've just killed a life-long dream of whoever was first on the Harvard waiting list.

You'll be pleased to know that our redshirted kid is still at the bottom of her class - because she has developmental issues. So your snowflakes won't be competing with her for a spot at Harvard. You are a giant ass.

It sounds like your daughter is still in elementary school. Colleges only look at high-school performance. Even if she's not doing well now, a lot could change between now and when she's in school, and the advantage she was given could kick in for then. So yes, it actually is a potential worry.

She's in middle school. But feel free to worry if it suits you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to Baltimore, peoples. All the independent schools here mandate redshirting, so there isn't the same amount of handwringing about "holding back" kids (lol). And the not-redshirt-eligible parents just suck it up and somehow deal with it that their kids are not the oldest in the class anymore.

Our kid was recommended for the extra year (as indeed all late summer birthdays are), we took it, and no regrets.

If your kid is a fragile flower who can't endure being in classroom with a kid 14 months older, then I guess find a school district that doesn't allow redshirting. As long as it's allowed, people will do it if they think it's best for their kids -- and you're terribly arrogant to demand that they do otherwise.

Real question is why can't your fragile flower go on time to school if there are no special needs or no issues. That is a money grab.

Because we live in Baltimore, where all the independent schools mandate redshirting.

Reading is fundamental.

Well you chose to send your kid to an independent school in Baltimore. You chose to live in Baltimore.

You are unbalanced.

+1000