Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahhh, the old hanger-ons. We've had a house in Kitty Hawk for 34 years and I can't even count how many Alexandria 'friends' thought they and their kids could help themselves to our beach house. It's something special, OP. We found that you just need to cut them off. They are like leeches.

The best part about this thread is the people getting all puffed up about a house in . . . Kitty Hawk.

What does that even mean? You think having a million dollar beach house 4 hours from DC is something to sneer at?

Ohhh, check out Mister money bags over here!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ahhh, the old hanger-ons. We've had a house in Kitty Hawk for 34 years and I can't even count how many Alexandria 'friends' thought they and their kids could help themselves to our beach house. It's something special, OP. We found that you just need to cut them off. They are like leeches.

The best part about this thread is the people getting all puffed up about a house in . . . Kitty Hawk.

The best part about this thread is that your reading comprehension skillls are so piss poor that you think OP has ID'd the town the house is in.

She hasn't.

Kitty Hawk was brought up by another poster in reference to their experience of owning a house and the attention it draws from free loaders. She was commiserating with OP. Nobody praised Kitty Hawk.

And to be clear- Kitty Hawk 34 years ago (when that poster bought their house) was absolutely something to get 'puffed up' about. My family has been visiting the Outer Banks since the 50s and up until about 1995 it was idyllic. Ever since, it has been invaded by trash from Jersey and NY and it has been thoroughly ruined. We've stopped going all together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The friend wasn’t looking for a place to rent at the beach. He also wasn’t shopping around for 3 months of free accommodations. He was simply excited about being invited to live with his buddy at the beach for the summer. What makes the friend (or his mom) a freeloader if there was no mention of a lease and rental fees until after the invitation was accepted?

And don’t forget, the reason for inviting the friend wasn’t because the family wanted to rent out their glorified shed; it was because OP’s son didn’t want to spend the whole summer away from all of his friends. If one of my friends wanted me to rent crappy accommodations (that cost them almost nothing!) from them for several months just so that they’d have me around to entertain them, I wouldn’t feel like that was a great deal.

That’s a child’s view. Someone else should pay for my housing if they want to be my friend. If it doesn’t work for him just decline the offer. It’s asking a lot to be a guest for 3 months. Some people have enormous homes and lots of extra room and feel like entertaining a guest for months on end. That’s a very small group. That don’t have a tiny old cottage.

[Anonymous]

All beach houses are expensive to maintain. Utilities are expensive at the beach. The weather beats the house making maintenance required. Insurance is expensive especially near the ocean. Yard maintenance painting.
But OPs son owes it to this kid to pay for his summer ?

[Anonymous]

Better to let the extra room stand empty than deal with such an entitled friends family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The friend wasn’t looking for a place to rent at the beach. He also wasn’t shopping around for 3 months of free accommodations. He was simply excited about being invited to live with his buddy at the beach for the summer. What makes the friend (or his mom) a freeloader if there was no mention of a lease and rental fees until after the invitation was accepted?

And don’t forget, the reason for inviting the friend wasn’t because the family wanted to rent out their glorified shed; it was because OP’s son didn’t want to spend the whole summer away from all of his friends. If one of my friends wanted me to rent crappy accommodations (that cost them almost nothing!) from them for several months just so that they’d have me around to entertain them, I wouldn’t feel like that was a great deal.

That’s a child’s view. Someone else should pay for my housing if they want to be my friend. If it doesn’t work for him just decline the offer. It’s asking a lot to be a guest for 3 months. Some people have enormous homes and lots of extra room and feel like entertaining a guest for months on end. That’s a very small group. That don’t have a tiny old cottage.

This.

The default is not free housing. The default is housing comes with an expense.

Anyone trying to flip that is a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

OP here. The friend would use the kitchen, baths, electricity, water, and gas like all the others and undoubtedly hang out in the house all the time he wasn't sleeping. The other boys are living for free because... their family owns the house.

Charging his friend is really low class. I can't believe they were going to make a lease, lol. Your son would tell you right away if they aren't taking care of the place, then you simply ask them to leave. I'm sure they have insurance as well.

The kids could make sure they leave it clean, replace supplies and something along those lines. That should be it, and don't withdraw the offer, that's even worse. Why punish the kids?? Withdraw the silly 3 mo lease!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

OP here. The friend would use the kitchen, baths, electricity, water, and gas like all the others and undoubtedly hang out in the house all the time he wasn't sleeping. The other boys are living for free because... their family owns the house.

Charging his friend is really low class. I can't believe they were going to make a lease, lol. Your son would tell you right away if they aren't taking care of the place, then you simply ask them to leave. I'm sure they have insurance as well.

The kids could make sure they leave it clean, replace supplies and something along those lines. That should be it, and don't withdraw the offer, that's even worse. Why punish the kids?? Withdraw the silly 3 mo lease!

Entitled mom found the thread

[Anonymous]

It’s very low class for you to not pay for my sons summer housing !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

OP here. The friend would use the kitchen, baths, electricity, water, and gas like all the others and undoubtedly hang out in the house all the time he wasn't sleeping. The other boys are living for free because... their family owns the house.

Charging his friend is really low class. I can't believe they were going to make a lease, lol. Your son would tell you right away if they aren't taking care of the place, then you simply ask them to leave. I'm sure they have insurance as well.

The kids could make sure they leave it clean, replace supplies and something along those lines. That should be it, and don't withdraw the offer, that's even worse. Why punish the kids?? Withdraw the silly 3 mo lease!

Get a load of this! Now charging rent on a beach house is low class!

This lady needs to tell all the rental firms from Sea Island to Long Island that they are akin to used car salesmen.

You know what's low class? You.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s really the same as renting “the carriage house”. The owners live in the main house and they rent the carriage house. Or English basement. Same deal.
I think the boys mother was extremely entitled to expect beach house room for free for the whole summer. Summer workers have bunked up like that forever. Also it’s got AC and free access to the main house and I’m sure the setting is beautiful. The other boy who looked saw it for what it was and said yes.
OP is well rid of this unhappy renter. Already calling names.

Carriage houses and English basements have plumbing. This is like renting an unattached garage with a window A/C unit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just read OPs post. The men are going to live there and work at summer jobs. It’s not a vacation where you bring a friend along — it’s a summer job which requires housing. Expecting to have summer housing for free from a friend is very entitled. Having Mom get outraged and calling names over what is a very good deal for summer housing is a prediction of things to come. OP did the right thing withdrawing the offer.

You didn't read closely. The entire point of inviting this kid was OP's son was going to be too far for his friends to visit (unlike the cousins), so he was allowed to "bring a friend." It's strange that you would get the exact opposite impression of what was stated expressly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The friend wasn’t looking for a place to rent at the beach. He also wasn’t shopping around for 3 months of free accommodations. He was simply excited about being invited to live with his buddy at the beach for the summer. What makes the friend (or his mom) a freeloader if there was no mention of a lease and rental fees until after the invitation was accepted?

And don’t forget, the reason for inviting the friend wasn’t because the family wanted to rent out their glorified shed; it was because OP’s son didn’t want to spend the whole summer away from all of his friends. If one of my friends wanted me to rent crappy accommodations (that cost them almost nothing!) from them for several months just so that they’d have me around to entertain them, I wouldn’t feel like that was a great deal.

Exactly. These are not tenants, and any cost/lease should have been presented BEFORE the kids accepted. Now it's too late and unfair. Next time don't have friends stay there and OP won't get into this situation. We had a family home in FL on the ocean, never charged a family member or friend.
If they need to offset expenses then they can get renters in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really the same as renting “the carriage house”. The owners live in the main house and they rent the carriage house. Or English basement. Same deal.
I think the boys mother was extremely entitled to expect beach house room for free for the whole summer. Summer workers have bunked up like that forever. Also it’s got AC and free access to the main house and I’m sure the setting is beautiful. The other boy who looked saw it for what it was and said yes.
OP is well rid of this unhappy renter. Already calling names.

Carriage houses and English basements have plumbing. This is like renting an unattached garage with a window A/C unit.

The word youre looking for is "detached"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really the same as renting “the carriage house”. The owners live in the main house and they rent the carriage house. Or English basement. Same deal.
I think the boys mother was extremely entitled to expect beach house room for free for the whole summer. Summer workers have bunked up like that forever. Also it’s got AC and free access to the main house and I’m sure the setting is beautiful. The other boy who looked saw it for what it was and said yes.
OP is well rid of this unhappy renter. Already calling names.

Carriage houses and English basements have plumbing. This is like renting an unattached garage with a window A/C unit.

The word youre looking for is "detached"

The word you're looking for is "you're" (and it outs you as OP, btw. She can't seem to get that one conjunction right).