How many people on this forum (50+) with kids in elementary?

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Anonymous wrote:60s with a kid in middle school. Why even bother thinking about what if? You can't turn back to the clock. Only the future is ahead.

How were you when you had your kid?

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50 with a kindergartener. So thankful to be a mother!!

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48 with a K-er and 1st grader. i absolutely do wish i had kids younger, but only because i love it so much i would have had more. But, it was not a choice for me - my only chance at kids came at 40+ and i took it.The younger moms here seem to think that choice was involved and therefore blame the older mom. Apparently they do not know that sometimes life often does not go as you plan and you have to take a different route to happiness. Why would you spit venom at someone who was able to achieve their dream of being a mom in spite of rocky road to get there? May your lives continue to be trouble free as you enter your 40s and 50s, but please don’t try to bring down others.

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Anonymous wrote:48 with a K-er and 1st grader. i absolutely do wish i had kids younger, but only because i love it so much i would have had more. But, it was not a choice for me - my only chance at kids came at 40+ and i took it.The younger moms here seem to think that choice was involved and therefore blame the older mom. Apparently they do not know that sometimes life often does not go as you plan and you have to take a different route to happiness. Why would you spit venom at someone who was able to achieve their dream of being a mom in spite of rocky road to get there? May your lives continue to be trouble free as you enter your 40s and 50s, but please don’t try to bring down others.

All the time on DCUM I see posters "spit venom" at "young" (under 35) moms. Be thankful that all the venom against older moms is contained in this single thread.

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48 with a 5th, 3rd and 1st grader

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Anonymous wrote:48 with a K-er and 1st grader. i absolutely do wish i had kids younger, but only because i love it so much i would have had more. But, it was not a choice for me - my only chance at kids came at 40+ and i took it.The younger moms here seem to think that choice was involved and therefore blame the older mom. Apparently they do not know that sometimes life often does not go as you plan and you have to take a different route to happiness. Why would you spit venom at someone who was able to achieve their dream of being a mom in spite of rocky road to get there? May your lives continue to be trouble free as you enter your 40s and 50s, but please don’t try to bring down others.

All the time on DCUM I see posters "spit venom" at "young" (under 35) moms. Be thankful that all the venom against older moms is contained in this single thread.

It isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.

Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.

I don’t think this thread has very many on it who are “young” given its title. Sorry ladies but the truth is being a rich 50 something grandma is better than a 50 something mom to an elementary school kid. I win every time!

I'm a young mom, and you're just disgusting. No, you don't win, because your morals suck. You have the maturity of a 5 yr old and you're likely a pain in the @ss to deal with in real life. We feel sorry for your family for having to deal with such a judgmental woman. Blech

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51 with a kundergartener

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Anonymous wrote:48 with a K-er and 1st grader. i absolutely do wish i had kids younger, but only because i love it so much i would have had more. But, it was not a choice for me - my only chance at kids came at 40+ and i took it.The younger moms here seem to think that choice was involved and therefore blame the older mom. Apparently they do not know that sometimes life often does not go as you plan and you have to take a different route to happiness. Why would you spit venom at someone who was able to achieve their dream of being a mom in spite of rocky road to get there? May your lives continue to be trouble free as you enter your 40s and 50s, but please don’t try to bring down others.

Yes to this!!

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Anonymous wrote:48 with a 5th, 3rd and 1st grader

Wow! I'm 49 with one 5th grader, and I thought I had it tough.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is both heartening and a reminder of one reason we’ll probably never leave this area. I’m 41 and pregnant with our 2nd, who is due to arrive shortly after my 42nd birthday. I was 38 when I had our first. We’re not there yet, but I’ll definitely be in my late 40s/early 50s with kids in ES.

Why would this keep you from leaving the area? It’s not unusual. Lots of older moms elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.

Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.

I don’t think this thread has very many on it who are “young” given its title. Sorry ladies but the truth is being a rich 50 something grandma is better than a 50 something mom to an elementary school kid. I win every time!

I'm a young mom, and you're just disgusting. No, you don't win, because your morals suck. You have the maturity of a 5 yr old and you're likely a pain in the @ss to deal with in real life. We feel sorry for your family for having to deal with such a judgmental woman. Blech

+100. Young mom here too. I’d never have been friends with a miserable bitch like PP even if we were the same age. It’s unlikely she has friends now too-just has to bug her poor kids and grandkids.

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56 with a 12 year old girl- So tiring, sometimes I feel like I just want out- she’s a nightmare tween, I’m afraid of when she’s an actual tween.

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My husband and I are 46. We have a 1st grader and a 4 year old. Got married late and had fertility issues.

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I am 43 with a 3- and a 6-year old. I love my kids and being a mom and am contemplating one more baby. I come from a line of women with strong and long fertility. Oh, and I live in New York City where almost all of my friends had at least one child in their late 30s or early 40s, some in their mid 40s. There is a single mom at my older child's school with 3 kids: one she gave birth to herself at age 52, and the other two were twins via a surrogate when she was 55. She is 70 now and has 3 high school kids, and she looks amazing (although I should point out that she is well off and probably has a lot of help).