Just another redshirting vent

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That is indeed good advice for OP. She shouldn't have posted this.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

Look, I think it's pretty obvious that you're either this child's mom or the mom of another child redshirted at this school. Get over it. You made your choice, the OP has no right to judge you or anyone else for decisions you made for your own reasons. Own what you did. I agree with OP that redshirting is getting ridiculous, but whatever, it's the parent's choice, not mine. Unless my child is being bullied by your kid, I don't give a shit how old he is.

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Look, I think it's pretty obvious that you're either this child's mom or the mom of another child redshirted at this school. Get over it. You made your choice, the OP has no right to judge you or anyone else for decisions you made for your own reasons. Own what you did. I agree with OP that redshirting is getting ridiculous, but whatever, it's the parent's choice, not mine. Unless my child is being bullied by your kid, I don't give a shit how old he is.

In Baltimore private schools, it's a natural part of the school progression, it's not entirely the parents choice (they have the choice of sending their child to that school or not).

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You don't give a shit. Other people do.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

Look, I think it's pretty obvious that you're either this child's mom or the mom of another child redshirted at this school. Get over it. You made your choice, the OP has no right to judge you or anyone else for decisions you made for your own reasons. Own what you did. I agree with OP that redshirting is getting ridiculous, but whatever, it's the parent's choice, not mine. Unless my child is being bullied by your kid, I don't give a shit how old he is.

DP. I am not the child's mother, and I didn't redshirt. I do think that OPs behavior is disgusting, and seems consistent with the behavior of other anti-redshirt DCUM posters.

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DCUM you have sent me down a pre-first google rabbit hole. I thought this one was interesting https://www.nytimes.com/1991/09/15/nyregion/a-new-breed-the-pre-first-grader.html

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM you have sent me down a pre-first google rabbit hole. I thought this one was interesting https://www.nytimes.com/1991/09/15/nyregion/a-new-breed-the-pre-first-grader.html

1991. Hm. I thought by the hysteria on DCUM that pre-first was a new thing.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM you have sent me down a pre-first google rabbit hole. I thought this one was interesting https://www.nytimes.com/1991/09/15/nyregion/a-new-breed-the-pre-first-grader.html

Wow-- that is interesting! Thanks!

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My Baltimore private-school kid, who did a pre-first year and is thus 9 in 3rd, is studying the same material as cousin who’s in 4th at a good public.

Schools where the effective cutoff is different adjust. Private school redshirting is a different world. I don’t see a negative effect for either of the kids.

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IS this a DC thing? I don't hear about this from other parts of the country. Maybe i have just lived under a rock.

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Anonymous wrote:IS this a DC thing? I don't hear about this from other parts of the country. Maybe i have just lived under a rock.

NYC suburbs here and most everyone redshirts summer birthdays especially boys.

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In chicago north shore and parents clawing to give their kids a leg up here, too.

If everyone would stick to the correct age/grade, there would naturally be a younger cohort in each grade. As it is, the youngest birthday in my one of my childrens class is April!
It’s extremelt competitive here and everyone acknowledges that is why parents redshirt. The lack of charade may be one difference here

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Chicago pp and cutoff is September

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The weirdest thing about this post is the OP conflating public school redshirting with private school redshirting.... they're entirely different.

OP, the fact that it makes you "so angry" that your acquaintance at private school sent her son to pre-first tells me that you need to spend a little more time doing yoga and a little less time on Facebook.

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My July birthday son was not redshirted. Teachers keep saying that he's on track, but so many students are "advanced." Still, despite some misgivings, I just couldn't handle the idea of holding him back. Besides, you can always reevaluate again in a year. If there is a clear reason, he can repeat first grade.