Just another redshirting vent

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

But, to add- in case you actually have concern about this child's privacy somehow being violated in a way that didn't already happen on facebook for over 500 of the mother's facebook friends to see, you'll feel better to know that's it's incredibly prevalent at all of the Baltimore prep schools so this could be about one of 10 kids in his class probably, I could have said Gilman just to throw you off the scent (since they all offer this pre-first type of year), and I could also be making the entire thing up. Feel better?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

A couple things.
It's McDonogh. No "u" in it.
And the kid won't be identifiable. Pre-First is a standard Baltimore thing. There are full classes of kids, so this kid is one of many. He is going to be entirely typical among his Gilman peers.

Because it's a standard thing, if you choose not to do a Pre-First year for your kid born in the second half/fourth quarter (depending on the school) of the academic year, your kid may be at a significant disadvantage until things even out at the older ages. I don't know any parents who weren't pleased with Pre-First and I don't know a single kid who feels like it was a bad thing. Probably because it's part of the private school culture here. It's also common for kids who go to Jemicy to repeat a year if they transfer to one of the mainstream privates, so there are a whole bunch of ways kids end up older for grade than someone not part of the culture would expect.

My child is a summer birthday, was not redshirted and did not attend Pre-First, attends a Baltimore private, and does just fine. When you get to be 14 years old, if you're reasonably competent, you are capable of competing academically with a 16 year old, especially if the 14 and 16 year old have been on a similar academic trajectory. The 16 year old might have some advantages, but not enough to be of issue. I find contact sports more concerning, but that's easy to solve by avoiding contact sports.

I have a September kid who we did push ahead and I cannot imagine doing pre-first and now being a year behind (and he does have SN, which he's outgrowing and adapting) as the curriculum is so slow and he's doing well at school, has friends and great on standardized tests. If anything moving him forward and challenging him is far better (though he'd be in gifted if we didn't but I don't care about that). I have no interest in my child doing contact sports but does sports he enjoys. Pre-First is a big scam and a huge money maker for schools. They can take more kids/claim smaller classes in the early years and make an extra year's tuition.

If your child isn't ready, that's on you as a parent. Sure, its easier to hold them back. Everyone is so into the play based preschools they forget the kids need a basic academic foundation and if both the preschool and parents didn't do that, then you as a parent failed them and it isn't that they aren't ready but its that they are not prepared. If your child needs to be held back, as a parent, they should be in private services to catch them up. Time isn't a gift if you failed to prepare them.

it's not about academic content. it's about kids being immature, far at one end of the developmetal spectrum and youngest for the class.

Being younger is not being immature. They are age appropriate for their age and the schools need to treat them age appropriately as do the parents. Its not fair to call kids immature as they are younger. The older kids held back are the immature ones as they are not with similar peers and with younger kids, so of course they act younger/ seem less mature. My child, who is a year+ younger than his friends, is not immature. He is age appropriate as are they.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

A couple things.
It's McDonogh. No "u" in it.
And the kid won't be identifiable. Pre-First is a standard Baltimore thing. There are full classes of kids, so this kid is one of many. He is going to be entirely typical among his Gilman peers.

Because it's a standard thing, if you choose not to do a Pre-First year for your kid born in the second half/fourth quarter (depending on the school) of the academic year, your kid may be at a significant disadvantage until things even out at the older ages. I don't know any parents who weren't pleased with Pre-First and I don't know a single kid who feels like it was a bad thing. Probably because it's part of the private school culture here. It's also common for kids who go to Jemicy to repeat a year if they transfer to one of the mainstream privates, so there are a whole bunch of ways kids end up older for grade than someone not part of the culture would expect.

My child is a summer birthday, was not redshirted and did not attend Pre-First, attends a Baltimore private, and does just fine. When you get to be 14 years old, if you're reasonably competent, you are capable of competing academically with a 16 year old, especially if the 14 and 16 year old have been on a similar academic trajectory. The 16 year old might have some advantages, but not enough to be of issue. I find contact sports more concerning, but that's easy to solve by avoiding contact sports.

I have a September kid who we did push ahead and I cannot imagine doing pre-first and now being a year behind (and he does have SN, which he's outgrowing and adapting) as the curriculum is so slow and he's doing well at school, has friends and great on standardized tests. If anything moving him forward and challenging him is far better (though he'd be in gifted if we didn't but I don't care about that). I have no interest in my child doing contact sports but does sports he enjoys. Pre-First is a big scam and a huge money maker for schools. They can take more kids/claim smaller classes in the early years and make an extra year's tuition.

If your child isn't ready, that's on you as a parent. Sure, its easier to hold them back. Everyone is so into the play based preschools they forget the kids need a basic academic foundation and if both the preschool and parents didn't do that, then you as a parent failed them and it isn't that they aren't ready but its that they are not prepared. If your child needs to be held back, as a parent, they should be in private services to catch them up. Time isn't a gift if you failed to prepare them.

it's not about academic content. it's about kids being immature, far at one end of the developmetal spectrum and youngest for the class.

Being younger is not being immature. They are age appropriate for their age and the schools need to treat them age appropriately as do the parents. Its not fair to call kids immature as they are younger. The older kids held back are the immature ones as they are not with similar peers and with younger kids, so of course they act younger/ seem less mature. My child, who is a year+ younger than his friends, is not immature. He is age appropriate as are they.

YOUR child. YOUR child is fine. It's the combination of immaturity, slow development (even compared to same age), possibly unclear special needs, and the a demands of K these days. Nobody gaf about your partiuclar child. They can go on time, great.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

not to mention that she started her own thread instead of just posting in the other massive thread. OP's goal was to gossip about this child. So gross!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

not to mention that she started her own thread instead of just posting in the other massive thread. OP's goal was to gossip about this child. So gross!

DP. Yes, it's despicable.

I wonder if that poor child's mother will show up, and if she can identify OP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

A couple things.
It's McDonogh. No "u" in it.
And the kid won't be identifiable. Pre-First is a standard Baltimore thing. There are full classes of kids, so this kid is one of many. He is going to be entirely typical among his Gilman peers.

Because it's a standard thing, if you choose not to do a Pre-First year for your kid born in the second half/fourth quarter (depending on the school) of the academic year, your kid may be at a significant disadvantage until things even out at the older ages. I don't know any parents who weren't pleased with Pre-First and I don't know a single kid who feels like it was a bad thing. Probably because it's part of the private school culture here. It's also common for kids who go to Jemicy to repeat a year if they transfer to one of the mainstream privates, so there are a whole bunch of ways kids end up older for grade than someone not part of the culture would expect.

My child is a summer birthday, was not redshirted and did not attend Pre-First, attends a Baltimore private, and does just fine. When you get to be 14 years old, if you're reasonably competent, you are capable of competing academically with a 16 year old, especially if the 14 and 16 year old have been on a similar academic trajectory. The 16 year old might have some advantages, but not enough to be of issue. I find contact sports more concerning, but that's easy to solve by avoiding contact sports.

I have a September kid who we did push ahead and I cannot imagine doing pre-first and now being a year behind (and he does have SN, which he's outgrowing and adapting) as the curriculum is so slow and he's doing well at school, has friends and great on standardized tests. If anything moving him forward and challenging him is far better (though he'd be in gifted if we didn't but I don't care about that). I have no interest in my child doing contact sports but does sports he enjoys. Pre-First is a big scam and a huge money maker for schools. They can take more kids/claim smaller classes in the early years and make an extra year's tuition.

If your child isn't ready, that's on you as a parent. Sure, its easier to hold them back. Everyone is so into the play based preschools they forget the kids need a basic academic foundation and if both the preschool and parents didn't do that, then you as a parent failed them and it isn't that they aren't ready but its that they are not prepared. If your child needs to be held back, as a parent, they should be in private services to catch them up. Time isn't a gift if you failed to prepare them.

it's not about academic content. it's about kids being immature, far at one end of the developmetal spectrum and youngest for the class.

Being younger is not being immature. They are age appropriate for their age and the schools need to treat them age appropriately as do the parents. Its not fair to call kids immature as they are younger. The older kids held back are the immature ones as they are not with similar peers and with younger kids, so of course they act younger/ seem less mature. My child, who is a year+ younger than his friends, is not immature. He is age appropriate as are they.

YOUR child. YOUR child is fine. It's the combination of immaturity, slow development (even compared to same age), possibly unclear special needs, and the a demands of K these days. Nobody gaf about your partiuclar child. They can go on time, great.

What depends of K? Its very slow and basic. My kid has SN and it was still slow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

A couple things.
It's McDonogh. No "u" in it.
And the kid won't be identifiable. Pre-First is a standard Baltimore thing. There are full classes of kids, so this kid is one of many. He is going to be entirely typical among his Gilman peers.

Because it's a standard thing, if you choose not to do a Pre-First year for your kid born in the second half/fourth quarter (depending on the school) of the academic year, your kid may be at a significant disadvantage until things even out at the older ages. I don't know any parents who weren't pleased with Pre-First and I don't know a single kid who feels like it was a bad thing. Probably because it's part of the private school culture here. It's also common for kids who go to Jemicy to repeat a year if they transfer to one of the mainstream privates, so there are a whole bunch of ways kids end up older for grade than someone not part of the culture would expect.

My child is a summer birthday, was not redshirted and did not attend Pre-First, attends a Baltimore private, and does just fine. When you get to be 14 years old, if you're reasonably competent, you are capable of competing academically with a 16 year old, especially if the 14 and 16 year old have been on a similar academic trajectory. The 16 year old might have some advantages, but not enough to be of issue. I find contact sports more concerning, but that's easy to solve by avoiding contact sports.

I have a September kid who we did push ahead and I cannot imagine doing pre-first and now being a year behind (and he does have SN, which he's outgrowing and adapting) as the curriculum is so slow and he's doing well at school, has friends and great on standardized tests. If anything moving him forward and challenging him is far better (though he'd be in gifted if we didn't but I don't care about that). I have no interest in my child doing contact sports but does sports he enjoys. Pre-First is a big scam and a huge money maker for schools. They can take more kids/claim smaller classes in the early years and make an extra year's tuition.

If your child isn't ready, that's on you as a parent. Sure, its easier to hold them back. Everyone is so into the play based preschools they forget the kids need a basic academic foundation and if both the preschool and parents didn't do that, then you as a parent failed them and it isn't that they aren't ready but its that they are not prepared. If your child needs to be held back, as a parent, they should be in private services to catch them up. Time isn't a gift if you failed to prepare them.

it's not about academic content. it's about kids being immature, far at one end of the developmetal spectrum and youngest for the class.

Being younger is not being immature. They are age appropriate for their age and the schools need to treat them age appropriately as do the parents. Its not fair to call kids immature as they are younger. The older kids held back are the immature ones as they are not with similar peers and with younger kids, so of course they act younger/ seem less mature. My child, who is a year+ younger than his friends, is not immature. He is age appropriate as are they.

You are not very bright are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

A couple things.
It's McDonogh. No "u" in it.
And the kid won't be identifiable. Pre-First is a standard Baltimore thing. There are full classes of kids, so this kid is one of many. He is going to be entirely typical among his Gilman peers.

Because it's a standard thing, if you choose not to do a Pre-First year for your kid born in the second half/fourth quarter (depending on the school) of the academic year, your kid may be at a significant disadvantage until things even out at the older ages. I don't know any parents who weren't pleased with Pre-First and I don't know a single kid who feels like it was a bad thing. Probably because it's part of the private school culture here. It's also common for kids who go to Jemicy to repeat a year if they transfer to one of the mainstream privates, so there are a whole bunch of ways kids end up older for grade than someone not part of the culture would expect.

My child is a summer birthday, was not redshirted and did not attend Pre-First, attends a Baltimore private, and does just fine. When you get to be 14 years old, if you're reasonably competent, you are capable of competing academically with a 16 year old, especially if the 14 and 16 year old have been on a similar academic trajectory. The 16 year old might have some advantages, but not enough to be of issue. I find contact sports more concerning, but that's easy to solve by avoiding contact sports.

I have a September kid who we did push ahead and I cannot imagine doing pre-first and now being a year behind (and he does have SN, which he's outgrowing and adapting) as the curriculum is so slow and he's doing well at school, has friends and great on standardized tests. If anything moving him forward and challenging him is far better (though he'd be in gifted if we didn't but I don't care about that). I have no interest in my child doing contact sports but does sports he enjoys. Pre-First is a big scam and a huge money maker for schools. They can take more kids/claim smaller classes in the early years and make an extra year's tuition.

If your child isn't ready, that's on you as a parent. Sure, its easier to hold them back. Everyone is so into the play based preschools they forget the kids need a basic academic foundation and if both the preschool and parents didn't do that, then you as a parent failed them and it isn't that they aren't ready but its that they are not prepared. If your child needs to be held back, as a parent, they should be in private services to catch them up. Time isn't a gift if you failed to prepare them.

it's not about academic content. it's about kids being immature, far at one end of the developmetal spectrum and youngest for the class.

Being younger is not being immature. They are age appropriate for their age and the schools need to treat them age appropriately as do the parents. Its not fair to call kids immature as they are younger. The older kids held back are the immature ones as they are not with similar peers and with younger kids, so of course they act younger/ seem less mature. My child, who is a year+ younger than his friends, is not immature. He is age appropriate as are they.

YOUR child. YOUR child is fine. It's the combination of immaturity, slow development (even compared to same age), possibly unclear special needs, and the a demands of K these days. Nobody gaf about your partiuclar child. They can go on time, great.

What depends of K? Its very slow and basic. My kid has SN and it was still slow.

ok becky

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

not to mention that she started her own thread instead of just posting in the other massive thread. OP's goal was to gossip about this child. So gross!

DP. Yes, it's despicable.

I wonder if that poor child's mother will show up, and if she can identify OP.

There are like 20 boys per class, and all of the ones in pre-first are 6 years old. And I'd guess the vast majority of them took one of those silly chalkboard first day of school pics and posted them on facebook. If you are concerned for the family's privacy, you needn't be.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

not to mention that she started her own thread instead of just posting in the other massive thread. OP's goal was to gossip about this child. So gross!

DP. Yes, it's despicable.

I wonder if that poor child's mother will show up, and if she can identify OP.

There are like 20 boys per class, and all of the ones in pre-first are 6 years old. And I'd guess the vast majority of them took one of those silly chalkboard first day of school pics and posted them on facebook. If you are concerned for the family's privacy, you needn't be.

moms on my FB/ Insta love them some chalkboard sign pics

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is this child attending McDonough? I also live in Baltimore and McD takes redshirting to an entirely different level than the other privates.

No, Gilman.

you are so gross OP. gossip!!

Yes OP is disgusting, gossiping about a child who.is likely identifiable now. That is supremely horrid behavior. Wow.

The parent posted all of this information on facebook.... and I haven't said a single thing about this family or this child other than what the mother posted publicly on facebook, and that in my few interactions with the child he has seemed like a sweet, normal child (not developmentally delayed). It's not like I'm airing their dirty laundry. I am talking about the greater issue of redshirting and one example of it that I had seen recently that irritated me. Hence the title of my thread that this is just another redshirting vent. It has nothing to do with this mother or this kid, specifically, since my kid will never attend that school. It's the general atmosphere in Baltimore of redshirting everyone.

So you won't mind when someone sends his mom a link to this thread, then, because you think your behavior here has been just fine? Totally acceptable? Identifying a child on DCUM is NBD to you?

Sure, I guess? It's outing someone like saying "my neighbor likes blue flowers.... OMG my neighbor is Larla Larlason!" This mother clearly redshirted her already older child, and posted it on facebook, and I'm commenting on how I dislike the phenomenon. I'll call her myself and let her know about this thread if you really want and she can weigh in.

Well, maybe that’s what you should have done in the first place like a grown up instead of creating drama for this poor kid. Perhaps you should have been held back and allowed time to adequately mature as well, OP.

Honest question, how is this creating "drama for this poor kid"? The thread isn't about him, it's about redshirting culture. You're the only one focused on him and you don't even know who he is. Nor does anyone else. Move on.

Redshirting culture was a red herring. She narrowed it down to the school and age of the kid. Unacceptable. “Just another redshirting vent” would have been more appropriately titled “my insecure and narcissistic attempt to publicly shame someone for something that is entirely none of my business”

not to mention that she started her own thread instead of just posting in the other massive thread. OP's goal was to gossip about this child. So gross!

DP. Yes, it's despicable.

I wonder if that poor child's mother will show up, and if she can identify OP.

You have a fascination with "outing" someone that I just don't have. Sorry. Just don't post things you'd be ashamed of and even if you're somehow "outed" it wouldn't matter.