Worked my butt off in the PTA and my son is in a "weaker" classroom

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"... he can handle all the school-related stuff this year which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him..." One angry and bitter wife.

"...All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences. ..." One disengaged mother. But someone already wrote that they weep for these kids.

I did not write either of these statements, but I think some of you need to learn when someone is mocking you. No mom writing on this blog is this disinterested.

I am that PP and I promise you that that is the extent of my involvement with the school. No PTA meetings, not more than 1 drop off a week. (We have an au pair to do pick up.) I am very involved with my child and his development but have chosen not to spend my time involved in school at this point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

So let me get this straight ... I should quit my job, unfund my retirement and my kids' college accounts, all so I can spend time coordinating bake sales? How does that make sense?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

So let me get this straight ... I should quit my job, unfund my retirement and my kids' college accounts, all so I can spend time coordinating bake sales? How does that make sense?

For you it doesn't make sense, because you can't afford it. That's fine. Are you saying you can't be there ever? You or your spouse? Most people have the time to chaperone the occasional school trip, or help make costumes for the end of year play. Again that's no helicoptering - that's just showing you care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

Now see that's wrong. My kids don't care if I'm at the school because they understand we all have our own spheres. School is theirs. Work is mine and dads. Home, etc is ours. My kids don't have a fundamental expectation that elementary school is a place I'm supposed to be hanging out at with them. It isn't a joint endeavor we undertake together. I'm present in every other aspect of their life and stayed home with them for years. I'm not gonna be told that none of that matters if I'm not sorting papers in the front office of their school.

I'm sure you've made it very clear to your children that they should take no notice, and not care that you aren't involved at school.

[Anonymous]

My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

Now see that's wrong. My kids don't care if I'm at the school because they understand we all have our own spheres. School is theirs. Work is mine and dads. Home, etc is ours. My kids don't have a fundamental expectation that elementary school is a place I'm supposed to be hanging out at with them. It isn't a joint endeavor we undertake together. I'm present in every other aspect of their life and stayed home with them for years. I'm not gonna be told that none of that matters if I'm not sorting papers in the front office of their school.

I'm sure you've made it very clear to your children that they should take no notice, and not care that you aren't involved at school.

I am involved at school. The one I work at. Those kids need me so they can pass the SOL and graduate more than my kids need me pretending their elementary school is a Mommy and Me Gymboree meeting at which my attendance is required. It's incredible how they seem to do so well and really thrive with their peers and teachers without me there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

Why don't you just admit you have nothing better to do and no useful skills to contribute to anyone so you play at grade school all day to stave off boredom.

See how they knife cuts both ways?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

Now see that's wrong. My kids don't care if I'm at the school because they understand we all have our own spheres. School is theirs. Work is mine and dads. Home, etc is ours. My kids don't have a fundamental expectation that elementary school is a place I'm supposed to be hanging out at with them. It isn't a joint endeavor we undertake together. I'm present in every other aspect of their life and stayed home with them for years. I'm not gonna be told that none of that matters if I'm not sorting papers in the front office of their school.

I'm sure you've made it very clear to your children that they should take no notice, and not care that you aren't involved at school.

I am involved at school. The one I work at. Those kids need me so they can pass the SOL and graduate more than my kids need me pretending their elementary school is a Mommy and Me Gymboree meeting at which my attendance is required. It's incredible how they seem to do so well and really thrive with their peers and teachers without me there.

PP don't let the weirdo here get to you. You sound like an awesome mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

Why don't you just admit you have nothing better to do and no useful skills to contribute to anyone so you play at grade school all day to stave off boredom.

See how they knife cuts both ways?

Oh sweetie, please...
I still work. That's what you don't get. I have a highly fulfilling, unique, and fairly glamourous career. I also help out when I can. It's really not that complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

Why don't you just admit you have nothing better to do and no useful skills to contribute to anyone so you play at grade school all day to stave off boredom.

See how they knife cuts both ways?

Oh sweetie, please...
I still work. That's what you don't get. I have a highly fulfilling, unique, and fairly glamourous career. I also help out when I can. It's really not that complicated.

Good for you. Now stop shitting on others whose careers don't have the same flexibility that allow them to hippity hop off to school during work hours. People like, I don't know, doctors, law enforcement, etc whose presence at work is mandatory and not able to be set aside to stuff envelopes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

Why don't you just admit you have nothing better to do and no useful skills to contribute to anyone so you play at grade school all day to stave off boredom.

See how they knife cuts both ways?

Oh sweetie, please...
I still work. That's what you don't get. I have a highly fulfilling, unique, and fairly glamourous career. I also help out when I can. It's really not that complicated.

Good for you. Now stop shitting on others whose careers don't have the same flexibility that allow them to hippity hop off to school during work hours. People like, I don't know, doctors, law enforcement, etc whose presence at work is mandatory and not able to be set aside to stuff envelopes.

Please... we know that isn't who we are talking about. Wait... is DCUM full of police women? I had no idea!

[Anonymous]

Wow. Even by dcum standards this is an awful thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

Why don't you just admit you have nothing better to do and no useful skills to contribute to anyone so you play at grade school all day to stave off boredom.

See how they knife cuts both ways?

Oh sweetie, please...
I still work. That's what you don't get. I have a highly fulfilling, unique, and fairly glamourous career. I also help out when I can. It's really not that complicated.

Good for you. Now stop shitting on others whose careers don't have the same flexibility that allow them to hippity hop off to school during work hours. People like, I don't know, doctors, law enforcement, etc whose presence at work is mandatory and not able to be set aside to stuff envelopes.

Please... we know that isn't who we are talking about. Wait... is DCUM full of police women? I had no idea!

NP. You are an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom volunteered at my school all the time and it sucked. I felt like I never had any private space.

Volunteering all the time does not equal pitching in and doing your part. You can be involved and not be suffocating.

Why don't you just admit you have nothing better to do and no useful skills to contribute to anyone so you play at grade school all day to stave off boredom.

See how they knife cuts both ways?

Oh sweetie, please...
I still work. That's what you don't get. I have a highly fulfilling, unique, and fairly glamourous career. I also help out when I can. It's really not that complicated.

Good for you. Now stop shitting on others whose careers don't have the same flexibility that allow them to hippity hop off to school during work hours. People like, I don't know, doctors, law enforcement, etc whose presence at work is mandatory and not able to be set aside to stuff envelopes.

You sound too angry to be a good teacher. Now I weep for your students too. I see police officers, doctors, teachers , nurses, business women, professors, engineers...all kinds of working moms and dads take time out to help or participate in school events. No one is asking you to scoop icecream or stuff envelopes, so it seems that your understanding of what volunteers or involved parents do is extremely limited. You seem like an al lround angry and ineffective parent, spouse and teacher. There are volunteers who help from home, there are volunteers who step up to do one small task from their office...there are many ways to volunteer and become involved. You just seem to be a person who is selfish and lashing out on others who are volunteering.