Worked my butt off in the PTA and my son is in a "weaker" classroom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. As a full-time working mom who would never have the time to put in the volunteering you did, I'm glad to see PTA involvement doesn't have a bearing on classroom assignment.

2. Aside from the physically aggressive kid being in your kid's class, I feel like you don't have a grievance here. Your kid is in a public school; if you want there to be no kids with learning disabilities or other academic issues with your kid, send your kid to a private school. Otherwise, deal with it.

No, PTA involvement does not have a bearing on classroom assignment. Being a parent who is working for the whole school (either as a volunteer or as a participant) however does send the signal to the teachers that you are an involved partner in your students education. That is a positive thing and it does build up a good working relationship with the school. If you are doing this just to jockey for favors at the school it becomes very evident to the teachers. No one likes those kind of parents. Not even the hardworking PTA parents!

News flash: working moms care just as much about their kids' education and school. We just have these things called jobs that prevent us from doing the important educational stuff like quartering the muffins for Muffins With Mom and running book fair checkout. PTA moms don't care more than we do, they just have more free time.

You are one of the leeches who want things for free, don't you? Most of the PTA moms in our school are working moms. You are seriously out of touch and most probably a terrible parent.

suck it PTA mom. you'll get my check for $200 and nothing else. Too bad you have nothing else giving you meaning in your life other than being a miserable busy body who is such a helicopter she can't trust her kid to get through 3rd grade without incessant hovering.

Hey, you are gold if you give $200 to the PTA. That is a fantastic contribution and you do not need to do anything else. I speak on behalf of all PTA, PTO etc.
- PTA mom who also WOH!

[Anonymous]

Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

I weep for your prosaic lack of imagination. I can show up for my kid without being a horrid busybody like OP ... I don't even need to do a single bakesale to be a good parent, shocking I know. In fact I've told DH he can handle all the school-related stuff this year, which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him. All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

I weep for your prosaic lack of imagination. I can show up for my kid without being a horrid busybody like OP ... I don't even need to do a single bakesale to be a good parent, shocking I know. In fact I've told DH he can handle all the school-related stuff this year, which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him. All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences.

I weep for your DH too. Married to such an obnoxious person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

I weep for your prosaic lack of imagination. I can show up for my kid without being a horrid busybody like OP ... I don't even need to do a single bakesale to be a good parent, shocking I know. In fact I've told DH he can handle all the school-related stuff this year, which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him. All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences.

I weep for your DH too. Married to such an obnoxious person.

It's obnoxious he has to handle school stuff?

[Anonymous]

Principals & Teachers - - see what you are bringing into school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

I weep for your prosaic lack of imagination. I can show up for my kid without being a horrid busybody like OP ... I don't even need to do a single bakesale to be a good parent, shocking I know. In fact I've told DH he can handle all the school-related stuff this year, which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him. All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences.

You are the assigning gender roles, not me. Who is prosaic?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

I weep for your prosaic lack of imagination. I can show up for my kid without being a horrid busybody like OP ... I don't even need to do a single bakesale to be a good parent, shocking I know. In fact I've told DH he can handle all the school-related stuff this year, which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him. All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences.

I weep for your DH too. Married to such an obnoxious person.

It's obnoxious he has to handle school stuff?

"... he can handle all the school-related stuff this year which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him..." One angry and bitter wife.

"...All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences. ..." One disengaged mother. But someone already wrote that they weep for these kids.

[Anonymous]

"... he can handle all the school-related stuff this year which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him..." One angry and bitter wife.

"...All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences. ..." One disengaged mother. But someone already wrote that they weep for these kids.

I did not write either of these statements, but I think some of you need to learn when someone is mocking you. No mom writing on this blog is this disinterested.

[Anonymous]

OP here. This is getting ridiculous....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being occasionally present, and showing up for your kid when it matters is hardly being a helicopter parent.
I weep for some of your kids.

I weep for your prosaic lack of imagination. I can show up for my kid without being a horrid busybody like OP ... I don't even need to do a single bakesale to be a good parent, shocking I know. In fact I've told DH he can handle all the school-related stuff this year, which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him. All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences.

I weep for your DH too. Married to such an obnoxious person.

It's obnoxious he has to handle school stuff?

"... he can handle all the school-related stuff this year which likely means nothing, so you can save your criticism for him..." One angry and bitter wife.

"...All I do is drop off 1 day a week and P-T conferences. ..." One disengaged mother. But someone already wrote that they weep for these kids.

You'd never call a dad disengaged if he left school stuff to the mom ... hmmm

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

[Anonymous]

I have not read the entire 15 pages, but OP you are in the wrong. Your attitude comes across as very entitled. You should not volunteer with the expectation of securing favors for your family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't volunteer at my kids' school because during school hours I am at another school where I teach other people's kids. Clearly, this means I care less about education than the PTA moms sorting tshirt order forms.

I suppose I shall simply have to expect the possibly inferior classroom assignments my children will receive as punishment. This also works out because since I am not at their school all day, I have not fully cultivated a list of enemy students from whom I would like them to be kept away from.

I'm sure your child has noticed that you aren't there.
PSA working parents: you kids notice that their own parents are never volunteering.

I'm sorry if it isn't possible for your family to get by on 1 income ( or you are a single parent). Sadly your kids get the message one way or that other. You find the time or you don't, but there is a consequence.

Lol!! My family got by fine on one income. I went back because I love teaching and deeply care about education. But I understand that because I'm not scooping ice cream with you at the 5th grade class party because I can't bail on 4th block it may not look that way. I shall suffer the pity of the PTA moms as is my brutal lot in life. When my child asks her therapist why I was not there to count laps at the Fun Run I hope the judgment shall be kind!

I think it's wonderful that you are a passionate teacher. I will not, however, see the humour in putting personal career satisfaction over your children. Before snarky comments about the role of mothers commence, I see no reason it can't be a father.
Perhaps you are just trying to make a point with hyperbole. Perhaps you do show up a couple of times a year for the big stuff. I think that is perfectly reasonable while balancing your work life.
If you are absent to all of these "meaningless" activities, that is not good. Your kid has noticed that Larla's dad and Larlo's mom care enough to show. They notice you or your partner are never there. Not good.

Now see that's wrong. My kids don't care if I'm at the school because they understand we all have our own spheres. School is theirs. Work is mine and dads. Home, etc is ours. My kids don't have a fundamental expectation that elementary school is a place I'm supposed to be hanging out at with them. It isn't a joint endeavor we undertake together. I'm present in every other aspect of their life and stayed home with them for years. I'm not gonna be told that none of that matters if I'm not sorting papers in the front office of their school.