Worked my butt off in the PTA and my son is in a "weaker" classroom

[Anonymous]

Seriously? I don't volunteer for that and don't do that job- I'm just stating that that is one of many "jobs" that a parent does every week at our school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: actually the year has been going great so far, knock on wood. There is a couple of high level kids in the classroom and it makes for a nice peer group for my son. The teachers are great from what I see. Maybe my DS was placed there because they knew I would get along with the teacher

There is a lot of feedback from them, they like volunteering parents, and after some trying we finally arranged I would come in twice a week after dismissal while my child is still in aftercare (I can get off work early these two days) and do whatever is needed. I do copying, sorting, pencil sharpening, and recently have been promoted to grading some papers I also organize some stuff which does not require me physically present.
I am happy to do what I am asked and I think we get along with the teacher. I never ask to be in the classroom.
What I get out of it is that the teacher sometimes does little extra things for DS like making sure his homework folder is not forgotten in class, or that he can take a quiz on a book from home if he doesn't find one he likes at the library. I never ask the teacher for it, but when I notice I thank her profusely.
I am grateful she does what she can to help my child thrive.
Note to self: unclench and mellow out, mama

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No offense to you, OP (if you're really volunteering for purely selfless purposes), but it's not appropriate for teachers to let other parents grade papers. In fact, that seems outrageously inappropriate - so much for any semblance of student privacy. And why would you agree to do something like that? How would you feel if another parent were grading your son's work? I'd be livid - parents should have zero insight into how any other child is performing. Particularly if that parent tends to unfavorably compare other children's academic performance to that of her own child, like you've done in this forum. Please step away from that type of "help" - its just not right.

Interesting, I asked her if it was any "conflict of interest" - she laughed it off. I wouldn't care if someone was grading my son's work. BTW, all kids did about the same, I haven't noticed any stark differences. So there is nothing to gossip about, even if I wanted to
As I said, I don't discuss kids with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Op again: well, grading is like - giving a star if the work is ok, giving a checkmark if it is seriously incomplete or has many mistakes.
It's more about correcting, so that they know what their mistakes are.
IEP status - it's not a secret, kids have aides. It's not like I have access to some super secret files
I have noticed that there was one task which only maybe 5 kids out of 25 completed - but I don't remember who the 5 were I mean, my kid did, but I don't remember the rest.
I should be clear that I would NEVER ask to grade papers. It was suggested to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op again: well, grading is like - giving a star if the work is ok, giving a checkmark if it is seriously incomplete or has many mistakes.
It's more about correcting, so that they know what their mistakes are.
IEP status - it's not a secret, kids have aides. It's not like I have access to some super secret files
I have noticed that there was one task which only maybe 5 kids out of 25 completed - but I don't remember who the 5 were I mean, my kid did, but I don't remember the rest.
I should be clear that I would NEVER ask to grade papers. It was suggested to me.

Given the detailed mental record you seem to keep about each kids' ability level, I find it hard to buy that you don't remember how kids are scoring on assignments.

I would question the boundaries and good judgment of any teacher who invites a parent to grade papers. Is the principal aware of this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op again: well, grading is like - giving a star if the work is ok, giving a checkmark if it is seriously incomplete or has many mistakes.
It's more about correcting, so that they know what their mistakes are.
IEP status - it's not a secret, kids have aides. It's not like I have access to some super secret files
I have noticed that there was one task which only maybe 5 kids out of 25 completed - but I don't remember who the 5 were I mean, my kid did, but I don't remember the rest.
I should be clear that I would NEVER ask to grade papers. It was suggested to me.

Not all IEP kids have aides....

[Anonymous]

Op must be a troll no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:as a mother of a borderline special needs slow learner - screw you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op must be a troll no?

I wouldn't assume that at all. These people are everywhere, and contribute to my generally low opinion of the human race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op must be a troll no?

I wouldn't assume that at all. These people are everywhere, and contribute to my generally low opinion of the human race.

Fair enough.