Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your child only has one suit, and it is THAT important, then why did you send it to a pool party the day before the trip and not check it to see if it came back? Some things are YOUR responsibility as a parent. (the probably only want that particular suit for pictures or something)

Taking your child to a party yourself or teaching them how to handle shit in your absence is also your responsibility as a parent. Guess OP missed the boat.

The kids are 7, still learning how to handle themselves. It's a good time to make (usually) small mistakes. Carpooling isnot a sin, nor is asking for help from others when you have a new baby.

So it's the other mom's fault for not checking the swimsuit (but maybe she did - OP's kid was already gone with the other one.) But not OP's fault at all for not going or checking. Having a baby absolves you of any responsibility? It all falls on everyone else? Ok, primadonna.

No, OP's kid made a mistake. It's not the other woman's fault. The only question is how much trouble is OP obligated to go to to return the suit. Is returning it on Monday enough, or must she do it at 10pm with two young children and a long drive, possibly in the rain. I probably would have done the drive, but it would have been the wrong decision, safetywise.

Also, in your response, you were blaming OP for not driving her child herself. That's unfair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child only has one suit, and it is THAT important, then why did you send it to a pool party the day before the trip and not check it to see if it came back? Some things are YOUR responsibility as a parent. (the probably only want that particular suit for pictures or something)

Taking your child to a party yourself or teaching them how to handle shit in your absence is also your responsibility as a parent. Guess OP missed the boat.

The kids are 7, still learning how to handle themselves. It's a good time to make (usually) small mistakes. Carpooling isnot a sin, nor is asking for help from others when you have a new baby.

So it's the other mom's fault for not checking the swimsuit (but maybe she did - OP's kid was already gone with the other one.) But not OP's fault at all for not going or checking. Having a baby absolves you of any responsibility? It all falls on everyone else? Ok, primadonna.

No, OP's kid made a mistake. It's not the other woman's fault. The only question is how much trouble is OP obligated to go to to return the suit. Is returning it on Monday enough, or must she do it at 10pm with two young children and a long drive, possibly in the rain. I probably would have done the drive, but it would have been the wrong decision, safetywise.

Also, in your response, you were blaming OP for not driving her child herself. That's unfair.

It makes no sense to blame OP. We do not know the entire story. Other mom should have checked before leaving or maybe other mom took the wrong swimsuit and is blaming OP child to make it easier for her. People lie all the time. A 10 year old with mom should be far more responsible than a 7 year old with a friend's parent who does not know their things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two things I learned from reading this thread:

1. Thank god my kids go to charter school (private school parents sound horrible)

2. I don't think any one from DC has been to the Jersey Shore, hotels? Target? Haha.

What about the Target at Exit 12 off of the ACE? You know, the one right by the Hamilton Mall, Old Navy and Wal-Mart? Ridiculous. St. Bart's it ain't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your child only has one suit, and it is THAT important, then why did you send it to a pool party the day before the trip and not check it to see if it came back? Some things are YOUR responsibility as a parent. (the probably only want that particular suit for pictures or something)

Taking your child to a party yourself or teaching them how to handle shit in your absence is also your responsibility as a parent. Guess OP missed the boat.

The kids are 7, still learning how to handle themselves. It's a good time to make (usually) small mistakes. Carpooling isnot a sin, nor is asking for help from others when you have a new baby.

So it's the other mom's fault for not checking the swimsuit (but maybe she did - OP's kid was already gone with the other one.) But not OP's fault at all for not going or checking. Having a baby absolves you of any responsibility? It all falls on everyone else? Ok, primadonna.

No, OP's kid made a mistake. It's not the other woman's fault. The only question is how much trouble is OP obligated to go to to return the suit. Is returning it on Monday enough, or must she do it at 10pm with two young children and a long drive, possibly in the rain. I probably would have done the drive, but it would have been the wrong decision, safetywise.

Also, in your response, you were blaming OP for not driving her child herself. That's unfair.

It makes no sense to blame OP. We do not know the entire story. Other mom should have checked before leaving or maybe other mom took the wrong swimsuit and is blaming OP child to make it easier for her. People lie all the time. A 10 year old with mom should be far more responsible than a 7 year old with a friend's parent who does not know their things.

The kids are in the same grade. ???

[Anonymous]

The other mom was right. You should have driven the swimsuit to her house. It doesn't matter what your inconveniences were. You should have said sorry I'll bring it right over, especially since they were leaving the next morning.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

[Anonymous]

It is interesting the topics that people disagree the most on. I would love to read a psychologist's analyst of this...is there a certain kind of mom more likely to agree with OP? etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other mom was right. You should have driven the swimsuit to her house. It doesn't matter what your inconveniences were. You should have said sorry I'll bring it right over, especially since they were leaving the next morning.

She was leaving. She can drive and get the suit or wait till Monday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

OTOH, if OP had driven the suit over at 10pm, kids in tow, everyone would be gossiping about the crazy lady who makes such absurd demands.

I also think you're underestimating the difference in craziness between private school moms and public school moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is interesting the topics that people disagree the most on. I would love to read a psychologist's analyst of this...is there a certain kind of mom more likely to agree with OP? etc

I know! 16 pages and counting over the case of the switched swimsuits? Hilarious!

[Anonymous]

How do we know it's not the other kid's fault? Sounds like they have the same suit in different sizes. Maybe the size 10 kid took the size 7 suit first and OPs kid took the remaining suit thinking it was his.

OP should have demanded that the other mom drive over and return HER kids suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it for sure a private school? OP didn't say. It could be a charter or one of the kids could be OOB.

I think the assumption it is a private school is because it seems like the family is going on a vacation to the Jersey Shore, not just for the weekend, so that must mean the other kid is already out of school for the summer. Private schools started letting out for the summer this week, public schools in the DMV are in session for a few more weeks. Plus, if the families all go to the same school, it must be private if they live 50 minutes away from each other.

[Anonymous]

I feel badly for the husband and child of psychomom who will have to hear about this silliness all the way to New Jersey and probably for the rest of weekend. Good times.

[Anonymous]

Where is OP?????