Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

[Anonymous]

IVF
Surrogacy
Inter-racial adoption
gays/lesbian adopting
Breastfeedong after 12 months
Breastfeeding in public without cover
Same sex marriage
women having baby without benefit of marriage
Hiring illegals for anything
Immigration reform

Big law, particularly women in big law, so impressed with themselves

[Anonymous]

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Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

I'm a mixed/biracial women. The only "discord" was because of my mom's racist and bigoted family - which isn't actually a justified reason to be against mixed marriages. Personally, I think being mixed is the biggest blessing. You look at all the problems in the world, and most surround arbitrary identities. Being mixed, one easily understands what truly matters when it comes to humanity and their manmade divisions.

When I see mixed children, it warms my heart in a way that I can't describe. As a mixed women, I feel happy for the open and embracing people they will most likely grow up to be.

Thankfully, the racists are being thinned out. I don't see anything negative being lost by thinning out the "cultural identity" of racists.

I'm glad you had a positive experience. But you do realize you aren't the only biracial person in the world, right? And your comment about your Mom's racist family speaks to my point about in-law relationships.

Again, glad it worked out for you, but not really seeing how seeing mixed children warms your heart any more than seeing any child.

You do realize that any source of racism like yours is due to the wrongful attitudes of others, and not inherently about the experience of being mixed? What do you suggest - that people cower to racists like you, for fear of their racist judgment?

As I said, I feel so incredibly lucky being mixed - it's not because of anything my parents did, but because they connected and fell in love based on their similar experiences, despite coming from different cultures, countries, skin colors, and religions. We were blessed to grow up in such an informed family that emphasized love based on an individual, rather than manmade and artificial categories. It warms my heart to see any child to grow up with those blessings. Those realizations about humanity's commonalities come so much easier and naturally to mixed and biracial children - because you see it literally every day.

Again, glad you had a great experience. Please know that it is not the same for everyone and realize that the "racist" insult has no effect when it is not applicable. You can have differing opinions without being racist. Your "manmade and artificial categories" is actually indicative of the cultural watering down that I was talking about.

Racist is not an insult, when it's a reality that you're talking about preserving some kind of non-existent racial and cultural purity. I feel bad for the sad worldview you possess. I feel sadder still, for the hate you inflict on others who simply want to love whom they love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally agree about the hijab and particularly the niqab (and happy to say I learned a new word today!)

Agree that women who don't work sound silly saying 'our HHI' when they earn nothing

Same with anyone who says "we're pregnant"

And to anti-interracial marriage/mixed baby lady -- wow. You do realize none of us is purely anything anymore, right? Michelle Obama is just as mixed as Barack.

Who said anything about "pure"? And it's interesting you're focusing on the mixing of black people. What about you? Are you as mixed as Michelle O?

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Anonymous wrote:Secretly I hate the hijab. But I don't oppose the right of others to wear it.
Every time I see it, it makes me angry. I have to refocus my liberal, feminist values to remind me that everyone gets to wear whatever they want, none of my beeswax.

But in my heart I "oppose" it.

I openly oppose it. I think we should ban hijab and yamakes too. Any outward display of religion should be banned.

Sorry to be "that person", but it's yarmulke.

Thank you! Phonetic spelling doesn't work well sometimes.

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Pledge of allegiance as a daily expectation in public schools.

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I am Black and a Democrat at least with respect to many issues but am more aligned with Republican with respect to my wallet and taxes. Would NEVER admit it outside of anonymity

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Anonymous wrote:- CIO
- Circumcision
- Formula feeding in any circumstance except where the mother's life or baby's life is in imminent peril
- Epidurals
- C-sections except where the mom or baby's life is in danger (so, all but like 5% of them)
- GMOs and conventional food
- Religion of every kind
- People who consume more than they should of any resource

Define imminent peril and in danger.

[Anonymous]

- My MIL
- Reduced-fat cheese
- Comic Sans
- Elimination communication *shudder*

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:- CIO
- Circumcision
- Formula feeding in any circumstance except where the mother's life or baby's life is in imminent peril
- Epidurals
- C-sections except where the mom or baby's life is in danger (so, all but like 5% of them)
- GMOs and conventional food
- Religion of every kind
- People who consume more than they should of any resource

You sound lovely.

I am, thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- My MIL
- Reduced-fat cheese
- Comic Sans
- Elimination communication *shudder*

I think we have a winner! Somethings we all can get behind collectively agree as DCUM and openly hate and oppose.

[Anonymous]

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Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

I'm a mixed/biracial women. The only "discord" was because of my mom's racist and bigoted family - which isn't actually a justified reason to be against mixed marriages. Personally, I think being mixed is the biggest blessing. You look at all the problems in the world, and most surround arbitrary identities. Being mixed, one easily understands what truly matters when it comes to humanity and their manmade divisions.

When I see mixed children, it warms my heart in a way that I can't describe. As a mixed women, I feel happy for the open and embracing people they will most likely grow up to be.

Thankfully, the racists are being thinned out. I don't see anything negative being lost by thinning out the "cultural identity" of racists.

I'm glad you had a positive experience. But you do realize you aren't the only biracial person in the world, right? And your comment about your Mom's racist family speaks to my point about in-law relationships.

Again, glad it worked out for you, but not really seeing how seeing mixed children warms your heart any more than seeing any child.

You do realize that any source of racism like yours is due to the wrongful attitudes of others, and not inherently about the experience of being mixed? What do you suggest - that people cower to racists like you, for fear of their racist judgment?

As I said, I feel so incredibly lucky being mixed - it's not because of anything my parents did, but because they connected and fell in love based on their similar experiences, despite coming from different cultures, countries, skin colors, and religions. We were blessed to grow up in such an informed family that emphasized love based on an individual, rather than manmade and artificial categories. It warms my heart to see any child to grow up with those blessings. Those realizations about humanity's commonalities come so much easier and naturally to mixed and biracial children - because you see it literally every day.

Again, glad you had a great experience. Please know that it is not the same for everyone and realize that the "racist" insult has no effect when it is not applicable. You can have differing opinions without being racist. Your "manmade and artificial categories" is actually indicative of the cultural watering down that I was talking about.

Racist is not an insult, when it's a reality that you're talking about preserving some kind of non-existent racial and cultural purity. I feel bad for the sad worldview you possess. I feel sadder still, for the hate you inflict on others who simply want to love whom they love.

OMG...stop playing the victim. I stated my opinion, move on already. Again, this is not about purity (the very idea is laughable) and it's definitely not about hate.

Thanks to the pp who understood my points and, while she didn't agree, understood my reasons.

[Anonymous]

I am personally sick of the "troop love" everyone in the military is a hero sentiment. Let's face it 80% of those enlisted (not officers) would be flipping burgers if they did not have the military as an option. It is a glorified welfare system

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Secretly I hate the hijab. But I don't oppose the right of others to wear it.
Every time I see it, it makes me angry. I have to refocus my liberal, feminist values to remind me that everyone gets to wear whatever they want, none of my beeswax.

But in my heart I "oppose" it.

I openly oppose it. I think we should ban hijab and yamakes too. Any outward display of religion should be banned.

Sorry to be "that person", but it's yarmulke.

Thank you! Phonetic spelling doesn't work well sometimes.

Ha, yeah I spelled it wrong until I was like 26!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm against illegal immigration and do not support amnesty for illegal immigrants regardless of their country of origin (i.e., don't care if you're from Ireland or El Salvador). Think there should be severe penalties for those who are in the country illegally and I do not think that children of illegal immigrants should be granted citizenship - too much of an incentive. I'm pro immigrant on the whole, though, just through legal means.

Ditto. I would never admit this either aloud.

[Anonymous]

Cross necklaces weird me out. I sometimes want to wear them, and tell people that it's in support and memory of the thousands of other people besides Mr. Jesus who were crucified.

Or that I just really like math, and addition in particular.